My girlfriend of two years broke up with me. Said her world has revolved around me and she needs to find out who she is. Said she needs space and that she loves me and might want to get back but doesnt know until she gets her space. What should I do?
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give her the space and time she needs for her to find herself. until she does i'd remain loyal to the relationship.
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Mine just left me less than 10 hours ago. It sucks huh??
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You should give her the space she is asking for. Hopefully she will come back to you after some time. Goodluck to you
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screww her tht a classic excuse becuase she resets u, sorry
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If you keep after her, you will only push her away. Hard as it sounds, and may be to you, let her go. You BOTH need to be aware that EITHER of you may find someone else in the meantime, even if you think you would never do that. "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they will (probably) be yours forever. If they don't come back, you never really had them (or they were never really yours) in the first place." It goes on all the time. A couple of lines from one my songs from back when I was about 20 about a girl I knew: "... You say you're a butterfly and you want to be free You'll fall in love some time Please let it be me" (Copyright 1975 by Bill Sanders) Good luck. ;-)
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give her space - its usually the guy saying that....
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Give her time, but DO NOT CONTACT her. Out of sight, out of mind. Do not look at pictures, videos, etc. It will make things worse. I'm going through a similar situation with my ex fiance of two 1/2 years. Told me she needs space from me to get my life together (whatever). I love her more than anything, but she said that she wants no contact for a year, so I'm abbying by that. In the meantime, I'm saving money and moving along with my life. When I contact her it will be a different circumstance in another town altogether. Need to look out for yourself and make yourself happy in this situation. You may be with someone else too... =)
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set her free brotha
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Let her go and you get out and have some fun.
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I agree wholeheartedly with Mrs. Annonymous. Just let her go, and take you a deep breath, and have some fun with your friends, and family, and just try really hard to not worry about it. I know it hurts, but if you show her that you are willing to give her space, she will give you credit for being a good person, and a great boyfriend in the long run. Just do not put any pressure on her, because yes, you will push her away.
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give her time to breathe--its a scary thing when you realize your life begins and ends with one person!! especially hard when you can't find a memory or a story without the person...you know the saying: "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were." Kahlil Gibran....i know its hard i've been there. quick question though...was the relationship serious in terms of you want to marry her?
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I agree with most of the answers here. If she comes back, she comes back. If she doesn't, you never really had her to begin with.
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take a leaf out of her book, and do the same, you dont know what youve been missing out on do ya? :)
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Has her world revolved around you? Have you been holding her back? Consider her gone, dude. Have fun playing your video games.
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Update: She contacted me tonite via text message. She knew i was out on the town. Says she misses me. I havent contacted her back because i know as soon as i do she will move the other way. what do you think?
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my advice would be do not hold on to her words of "might want to get back with you". Either way, she may or may not get back with you eventually. Treat this as a time to go out and learn new things, new skills, while you have the time completely to yourself. She'll almost certainly feel less pressure if you're out being busy and enjoying yourself, she'll most likely miss you too! Give her something new and exciting to come back to, and show her what she would be missing. Let her contact you, but let her know that you support her. If it doesnt work out and she doesn't come back at least you've done something with your time! Good luck!!
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Give it to her.... if you respect her.
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Give her space! You might enjoy your space at the same time.
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The key words here are broke up. Why put your life on hold for someone who "may want to come back"? I would carry on with my life like she was not coming back. Sounds to me like she wants you to be a security net in case that "space" she wants is not all it's cracked up to be. Have some fun, see other people, if she decides she wants you back and the feeling is mutual...great! And if you have found someone else while she was enjoying her space..oh well, she should have had a little more appreciation for what she had and should not have taken for granted that she could toss it aside and then come back when she felt like it.
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well allow me to translate this : I want to try new penis, if the next guy is a jerk, I may need to keep you on the back burner , you know, just in case " the grass wasnt greener" She's trying to make it sound all innocent , but Im tellin ya ....she wants to get jiggy with someone else and still have the option of coming back to you if it doesnt work out . Tell her to " Kick Rocks " and dont take her back !
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Oh man your trying to read into a womens mind. I have found this to be very dangerous to your mental health. Men=rational women=emotional to me that is controdiction. I feel for you,man.Go have a beer and spend time with your friends. You know the guys that you put off spending time with because of her. Your friends we'll get you through this and you'll find another fish. No one's worth waiting around for, when she's leaving like this! Her loss, your gain. After all, you could be married and facing this question/problem. That would really suck, but feel lucky you found out before that. Football season is right around the corner, you'll beable to watch as much as you want. Good Luck Buddy, Stay cool,don't be fool.
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I think she could either be saying that to let you down easy or being serious. but i would wait it out a while. Try to still stay her friend but dont stay too close. Just wait a while. if she gets a new boyfriend and stays with him over a month then go get a new girlfriend but if she is still talking to you during this time, it prob means she still wants you. so keep waiting it out.
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I agree you should give her space. Maybe she really does feel like she has lost herself and needs to figure out what she really wants from life. Better she does it now than 10 years into marriage.
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leave her be......for now
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All you can really do is wait.. Give her the space...im sure it will help.
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I'd take her at face value and give her some time (1-3 months, but no longer). Then if she does come back to you, she'll be a better person, more whole and less clingy, if that was a problem.
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Respect her wishes, there is nothing else you can do
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i would break up with her, she dont sound interested
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You are presumably hoping she will come back. That is, of course, very unlikely. Even if what she says is completely true, that "finding herself" process can take years. Move on and find someone else. If you guys get back together in a few years (highly unlikely) great!
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