No, but I do.

yes i do, if they hurt you really bad you cant help but hate them.

It's okay to feel resentment... but hating only hurts you in the end. Although, it's natural to feel that way when someone hurts you, controlling your own emotions rather than allowing someone else to keeps you intact of who you are and is less painful than to have all of those hard feelings locked inside yourself.

NO as it will turn in on to you instead of just moving on. It can sour you and stay with you forever and that's giving that other person the power to affect your life forever. Don't let them control how you feel. Don't let them possibly turn those feelings into an obsession. Negative thoughts and feelings are draining. No one needs a constant drain sucked out by some other person.

sometimes its easier to get over them when you hate them...

Well depends on what they did to you-probably yes... But I don't personally...

If they really hurt you, like mine hurt me, I suppose it's pretty easy to despise or hate them. Mine doesn't seem to think they really did anything wrong, and still wants to "be friends." If I can't trust someone to have a relationship, how could I trust them as a friend?

If you want but in the end I find it get's you nowhere and all you succeed in doing is beating yourself up. It's hard but you have to move on.

well it depends on what they did. i despise my ex. if they really hurt you or did anything really bad to you then thats fine. but really it dont get you no where. but if you want to go for it.

i think it's natural to feel that way after u've been hurt and i did for a long time.....now i'm at a point where he's "non-exisitent" to me~and that's even better :)

Of course it's only natural to do so.

yeah thats normal my parents have been divorsed 15 years and they still hate each other

it works for me, but don't dwell on it too long

Sure it is..if it floats your boat and rings your chimes to hate and despise then by all means hate and despise away.

Ambivalence....women hate that and it's something guys are pretty good at.

You can but, what's the point? There are alot of other things to think about than an ex.

It's never okay to hate anyone.

Hate is good i think after a break up to get over them and move on...but, only health if it is for awhile not for to long

Hate may be too strong of a word, depending on what was done to make him your EX. Despise them? Maybe. At least for a while. At some point, though, you will be putting more and more effort into "hating" and "despising" them than you get out of just NOT THINKING about them. You will probably find that even when you do, it's just with pity that they don't have YOU and don't have what YOU now have.

Yes,because my ex was a abusive woman beaten drunk.

Well, it depends on what you call 'okay'. Can you? Absolutely! Is it against the law? No. But should you? That would also be a No. Why? Because no matter how much you want it to hurt him, it doesn't. It's only hurting you and you deserve better than that, don't you think? (but in all honesty, I still hate my ex sometimes too, but I still try to do the right thing)

Don't waste your time...Move on, let go, HEAL. Why are they still affecting you??

no i dont. my ex is a cool guy he and I just went in other directions...well mainly I went in another direction and he just stood still.

Its ok up to certain extent but if you have children you might as well bygones be bygones as life must go on and you have your new task to look into that is to start moving forward as life is too short to be a nobody. Enjoy your new found freedom and if you have kids with you ,plan for their future. Good luck and take care.

I cant help it. Hes such an asshole to me when I try to be nice. I stop trying and he punishs me more.

it's normal to feel this for some time. but eventually you should move on and let go of the hate. You may even find it in you heart to smile at them when you see them and wish them the best. That's because you have moved on and see you are better off without them. =)

it is never healthy to hate or despise anyone, reguardless to the hurtfull experience. Forgiveness is not for the benefit of the other person, but to allow yourself to move on with a healthy and prosperous path. Ill feelings are evidence that you are not ready to move on, and another relationship would have no chance if it has to carry that worthless baggage. You should also be honest and realistic by dealing with your grief. Ending a relationship can be very painful, no matter how good of a choice it is to end it. Take your time.

I guess in the beginning it is. Rarely do relationships end without some animosity. I don't see why a person would continue to hate the other months or even years after it has ended. I'm sure they had SOME good times together. Hating just takes too much energy.

I too hate my ex. To me it's not a question of right or wrong, but how much of your life's time and energy will you relenquish to them and for how long. In short....yes it's okay. Too many of us ask this same question too often for it to not be.

Yes that is why you have an ex because you hate them.

I think many people do. It is not healthy to hold on to your past, especially if it is negative. Just try and move on and forget.

ABSOLUTELY-YES!

Yes, but then you're carrying around a wasted emotion. Sometimes it's easier to let it go either way.

If you look for "the Why" ... you may be able to give it a rest.

I personally do not like the word "hate" at all. I do not use it on anyone. I have 3 ex husbands which are all liars and that is why I left them and got the divorces. I do not hate any of them. I don't Love them any more but I did Love them at one time. I dislike them for what they did to me by playing me for a fool with the lies but I could not hate them. (Just my opinion)

I was taught love/hate are one in the same. I still have room to love & care for my X person, however...my Current spouse, of "21", his X has just again, completed sueing us. Almost $30,000. It's as though day & night WE are her focal point. It's sad, then again, she IS SO MEAN. She made 100% sure his children 23-25 years old, completlely just STOPPED any acknowledging us, in every way. after months he figured thee X had words with the children, or little adults now. Even ME. I did nothing. He went thru the steps to move on, and he's good. But The X wife has remarried and if he is witnessing what he married, I believe he will stay with her for good. He's a lazy retired cop of only 20 years, now got a full-time job, she's a VP assistant, close to making $68,000.00 a yr. His pension is $62,000.47, New Job??? No kids At home. I'm sick and disabled, my spouse is trying so hard to hang on to his now very small contracting co. And Court Is "Disney Land" for her. I've really tried, and I seriosly mean it, I tried so hard to feel and wonder how someone can be sooo mean. It comes so naturally to her. Very Easy. People around?? She works harder hiding her anger & bitterness. Lying in court? Isn't that like, illegal?? Yet, We heard her get her story mixed up 2-3 times. HMMM, But Not the Judge. Don't mean to sound cruel, but, she's really not that attractive. And NO implants if people wondered what she has to sway the court. TEARS. All I can see. Sounds like I am blaming her, but indirectly, watching her combat my husband, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, he's trying to keep out of court, pay the mortgage, and earned a full $143,000 (BEFORE the economy tanked) Down to $15,000 just since March'09 I'm losing my hair, my eyebrows, weight, I feel my body dissolve and the same watching my spouse. What A system. I'm so afraid for him. He has aged profusely me,also, and literally, literally, she is thriving. Plus the 2 children old enough to know better, are also out of his life. I think you can not like an X. I do still like mine, we have no problems, our words are that of we should have tried harder, we gave up to soon. I think your question truly has 2 sides. But, unless he hurts you, cheats, gambles...etc....try to keep it together. For both of you to be happy.