Have you seen old pictures of your current partner with their ex? how does/did it make you feel?
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Sunshine1
ANSWERS: 49
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my partner has no ex's. i am the first and only one.
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Curious, a bit sick in the stomach, lots of feelings all at once.
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well actually i am used to it now, so if i saw a picture i would be ok, but when we first started dating, i was jealous, really really jealous, because i knew how he had felt about them, and i knew that he probably didnt feel that way about me yet. BUT now i know i am better than them. take that EX's!
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He only has pictures of himself with high school dance dates and one of an ex-girlfriend that he took which he is proud of for his photo skills (we do a lot of photography, so it doesn't bother me). I don't expect him to forget he had a life before me - I don't want to see these pictures out in our home - but tucked away in a trunk or box full of old nostalgia doesn't bother me at all. I have some of my ex's, too. Curiously, I have never seen a single photo of the girl he was engaged to when we met. Did he destroy them or is he REALLY good at hiding them????? :o)
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Yeah I have and really I don't care. He has seen pics of me and my son with a different man so I think I can handle his pics.
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No, if I had I would feel angry and jealous even though I have no idea who his ex's are because we dont really talk about that stuff for this reason. I made sure when i moved in I didn't bring any pictures from my past relationship with me either
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it has never realy bothered me, my wife has allways had lots of cuddley friends that were allways shmoozing.
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Yes.It doesn't bother me.After all,he did have a life before me.
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Well, it does tend to make me a bit jealous, because i wish like hell that he would have met me, and then things would have been alot different. But I know that his past is something that I cannot change, but i sure can make him want to change his future!
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I confess I snooped all his drawers (I know, I know...I shouldn't have snooped)...and I found some pics of him with his ex. I felt two things: 1. Oh my God-I-FEEL-SO-JEALOUS-I'M-GOING-TO-GO-NUTS... and, 2. All right girl,calm down,he is with you now... So, it is part of his past but I don't really enjoy seeing how happy he looks like on those damn pictures ;)
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It doesn't make me feel anything at all, to be honest.
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It's really not a problem for me or my wife. I have pictures of ex girlfriend and she of her former husband. I look at it this way...that was then, this is now. The thing is that people are constantly growing and changing. Often, the people that we used to be are not the people that we are now. She didn't know the old me or I, the old her. So here we are. Pictures are just moments in time and our time is now, not then.
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Nothing, they have a past life.
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Yes, he does. He did offer to get rid of them when we got serious. I told him not to be silly. Getting rid of the pics doesn't remove the memories or the time in his life. This was not while we were together so it doesn't affect us. I have no problem and find it interesting.
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my boyfriend found pictures of me and my ex lying on the bed together, he ripped them up when i wasnt around. but ya i know how he feels if i were to see him with his ex i would get mad and jealous
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Thank God no, but I must admit I am intrigued. He was married to her for 6 months and bought her a $7500 engagement ring. I do want to see what she looks like, but I don't think he kept a photo of her. Apparently she treated him pretty bad. I would feel weird if I came across an old photo though. Sometimes you don't like to think of your partner being happy with anyone else but you.
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I feel glad for the good times they shared together. Why would one choose to feel any differently?
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well it makes me feel weird, then i start to haha look at the loser with her there, cuz she left the zero and went 2 the hero!!!!
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well at first i feel weird, and then i think... hahahahha look at the loser she was with then compared to me. she left the zero for the hero. i think she made a good decision leaving the person in the picture:)
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Makes me feel more confident - they always look very ill at ease with eachother.
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He has a picture of him with him mom (who is now 2 yrs deceased) and he looks really hot cause he's in a tux. He has it right next to our bed. Last night actually I asked why he was so dressed up. He said IT WAS THE DAY OF HIS WEDDING. Hm!! I hate that picture now. He was married to that b*tch for 10 yrs. Worst 10 yrs of his life. But he keeps a picture of the day he made the biggest mistake of his life right next to the bed??? Crap, now I'm all pissed off about it and will probably tear it up tonight...
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Yes, only one or two though. The past is the past. I have no issues with seeing her in old pictures with anyone else.
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Yes, look very different..seem prehistoric..ah nothing to get jealous it's over..unless ...........opps the picture just fell into the trash!
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Neither of us keep pictures of our exes so we both feel just fine.
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I wonder what sort of person she was then. Logically I know the answer, but I don't like the answer I give myself. I don't really dwell on it, though. That was, we are, that's what really matters. We are our past, but that includes learning from it, not just repeating it (hopefully).
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Yes. When our relationship was new, he was just freshly divorced. So, when I saw pictures, it made me feel insecure, especially as it turned out that he was still pining for her at the same time as wanting to date me (she dumped him for another that she eventually married and had children with). Now that I've spent so many years with him (don't ask me why, I was young and dumb and married him), I don't really care, LOL. I look back and think what a waste of time my energies were to be worried.
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Yes and it makes me sick to my stomach.
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My husband was married before. He has a daughter with his first wife who is only 4 years younger than me, It used to make me jeleous. But that's when I was really young. I don't get jeleous anymore, about anything really, it's just not fun or interesting. Neither are stores of his ex, and if he should ever toy with the idea of telling one, I'm going to kick his arse all over town. :]
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like a sexy threesome :)
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I hate it...we burnt all the picture of his ex's and my ex's in our fireplace. I hate seeing picture of him with them...it makes me sick like to about to throw up sick.
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I couldn't care less.
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eh... as long as she does not look at them I got no issues. I hate having to patch up his damage and her seeing a pic might give me more work
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Obviously jealous, thats normal they shared experiences together there will be pictures. try not to over react. You have a life with them now.
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Yeah, I seen a couple of them. They didn't take a lot of pictures together, but just seeing them, yeah they make me sad. I love my husband so much, and seeing him with another woman, it does make me jealous. But it's the past and leave them in the past. The important thing is that he/she is here with you right now.
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My boyfriend has shown me his pictures even the ones with his ex (s). Its great to see them because its him that I look at. They are and always be a part of HIStory ;)
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This is why myspace and facebook are a horrible idea. Found pics of my ex acting like a whore at a club 1 month after she dumped me while I was deployed to Africa.
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No, but I have seen pictures of the exes alone. It always put me in attack dog mode, even though I knew that there was no reason to be upset. I would think, "She's ugly. What on earth did he see in her?" Sometimes, you just have to stop your imagination from rolling and close the web broswer before you explode.
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geez ladies....they are only pictures! he wasnt a newborn when you met him. It doesnt bug me in the least. i have pics on my myspace of when i went to the Marine Corps ball with a total jerk, but they are still nice pics!
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It is an awful feeling, it makes you feel abit sick in the tummy but you just have to keep reminding yourself that that was then & he's with you now. It's one of those things you wish he would throw away so you don't have to accidently come across them. At first I was curious I wanted to see them but now I wish I never knew where they were!
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I hate it. Lots of mixed emotions all at once. I can't help but feel sick to my stomach and extremely jealous. I know it was before me, but it still makes me wonder what kinds of feelings they shared together, and if I'll be able to warrant that or better from him. I know it's silly to think that way. But he was married to her for 9 years and had two kids. She obviously meant something very special to him. But then I remember that I was with him first (waaaay back in junior high), and I have him again now. That little bit of solstice keeps me from wanting to put them all in a pile and burn them. :-)
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i have seen pics of her and i cannot stand it ugh but i dont say anything because he is with me not her but still it bothers me a lot but i know him and i are ok and he loves me but she is the mother of his baby and we had broken up for a two month period and they tried again so he has like a pic of her but im jealous of her more because she has his child his first child and i dont and it hurts because like here is a girl who they hate eachother but she will always be in his life but me a girl he loves could be out easily and also because i cant have children which sucks but its nothing against her what so ever its the idea but i keep that to myself and am happy im with him he picked me in the end and thats how i see it
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yes, good because they're permanently destroyed, I'm the best looking chick he's had, and coincidentally the one he married! ;)
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ok, well seeing as he isn't my "current partner" anymore (although we still have our small flings)...when i look at pictures of him and his ex, it kinda makes me jealous because i can see in his eyes that he's really happy, and it always makes me wonder if i've ever made him that happy before...esp after finding out how she used to treat him like garbage and yet he was still that devoted
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ohh, this was a mixed bag of feelings. When we moved in together, (he was divorced for over 2 years) I was hooking up his computer and start putting programs that I use, I came across his wedding pictures as much as I wanted to delete them I didnt and waited for him to delete them.
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Yes.It was proof that he had a life before he met me ;)
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I feel nothing. I feel grateful she is with me now.
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Yes, I have... but only one or two. I have no feelings about it. I wasn't there. She had a life before me. At least she had someone then.
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made me feel a bit upset because it was on top of his desk.. while the portrait of him on the beach that I painted was under piles of papers and books where it couldn't be seen. it wasn't like it was an elementary painting either.. i could have easily sold it. i asked him about the pictures of him and his ex.. all he replied was that how he meant to throw them away. he wasn't very believable
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jealous
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