How would you respond to a call from a former spouse informing you that he/she were contemplating suicide?
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go out there, find him and tie him to a pole so he cant do anything to himself!
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I'd try to get him help.
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i would talk to him on the phone and not let him go find out whats wrong and tell him all the reasons he should not do it
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first I ask them to meet with me. I would then offer a suicide help number for them to call. The worst thing to do besides hang up on them is tell them to stop acting crazy or seeking attention. although a very high percentage of people who reach out for help in this manner have no intention of following through with it and seek attention. there are those that do and there is no sign that we know of that can say if this person is serious or not. so it is important we treat all with the compassion we can. try hard to talk them into seeking professional help.
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I've been there & done that. I've called the police & they went to his house every time. He was too drunk to remember the next day
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I would come and see them as fast as I can. Talk to them and let them know that taking their life in their own hands is not the best option. That the ones that love them will suffer for their action. They are being selfish and don't realize how important they are to the ones they know. My cousin took his life and it has crushed everyone that he knew. It was one of the worst days of my life.
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Ask if he needed any rope or bullets!
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Yes! My ex wife could really do me a favor and just kill herself, she doesn't need my permission, and I refuse to give her aid or comfort!
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I think all life is sacred so I would make every effort to save even the life of a lowdown, lying, two-timing scumbag like the former spouse to whom you refer. My response would be keep him on the phone while dialing 9-1-1 on another cell and give the emergency responders his location. Maybe a few days in the psych ward would straighten his ass out enough that next time he would call someone else.
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I would call the police.
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I would seriously hope it was my daughters' ex who had dialled the wrong number and if it was, I'd tell him to get on with doing it, so that my daughter and her baby could live in peace without his threats, attacks and abuse being present in their life every day and every night at any given moment. ~ If it was anyone else I'd call the police and seek immediate help for them.
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I really cant stand my ex husband but if he called me saying he was about to do something like that I would be there in no time at all. We have a child together and even if we didnt I would still be there. His life "is" worth something.
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"Hello... Spaceball isn't in at the moment, but if you would like to contact him, Leave a message after the tone....... BEEEP!"
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I wouldn't be surprised. I would dial 911 from whichever line was available and keep him on hold until they arrived and then change my number ASAP.
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Call the Police but keep away myself in case they wanted to kill me along with themselves :o(
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thats like wining tha lotto,
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if there were no children involved , i would say 'you have a wrong number'
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*click*..
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"Am I still in your will or at least an IRA beneficiary?"...Just kidding, I'd try to talk her out of it and call 911.
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It all depends... If I was receiving alimony, my garage would be filled with the blue-white smoke from my tires peeling out of the driveway to go and save her from herself. If I was paying alimony, it would truly be an ethical decision. j/k
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Yikes! You probably know her well enough to know if this is a time when you really need to do some sort of intervention for her. Or, if she is chronically trying to manipulate you then you to intervene on yourself if she is suceeding. Either way most cities have a a suicide prevention service that can help you with this and give you some sound advice on how to proceed. Best of luck to you, what a difficult situation.
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I would get his address and then call 911 and report him. Let the professionals deal with him. I certainly couldn't or he wouldn't be an ex.
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I wouldn't hesitate going to them and making sure they were unable. If this includes having her put in a hospital for "mental evaluation as they put it.
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I'd be so scared and worried. I would call his mother I'm sure.
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Am I receiving allimony in this hypothetical question?
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Did you change your Will and beneficiary designations after the divorce?....just kidding, I'd call 911 and let the pros deal with it.
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I tell them to make sure the gun was fully loaded and pointed directly at his face before he pulled the trigger. But lucky for me, my ex died on Thanksgiving day last year.
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I would talk to her. (We're still friends, of sorts.) She IS the mother of my boys. If I didn't try, I'd feel extremely guilty. By the same token, she had said, NUMEROUS times (drama queen) "You'd all be better off if I just died." Only ONCE did she ever DO anything, and it was (supposedly) not serious and I stopped her anyway. After we talked, I'd decide how "truthful" she was and probably call 911 and give them her address.
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I don't know. As much as I hate that B*TCHY ice queen, I don't think I could let her kill herself knowing how much it would hurt my son. To hell how much it hurts her.
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I'd talk to them and find out what was going on. If I felt he was serious, I'd call 911, and I'd be out the door!
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Do it bitch, do it now.
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I would hang up on them.
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I would do what I could to help but if that involves calling the ems for them I wouldn't hesitate.
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i would advised them to get help. also consider that they are reaching out to you for guidance
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You talk them softly cause that person is probably serious, then you call a family member to get there and help..if no family call 911 imediately..
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find the local number for suicide hot line. if you are not trained in talking to them, you may say the 'words' they are looking for as 'the sign' and they will commit suicide while you listen....so, best thing is, give them the suicide hot line number, block their number, and spend time with someone who is positive. unless of course, you want to be dragged down that avenue....then in that case....you will both need help.
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Yes. I would take immediate action in whatever form was feasible, including calling emergency services and going to see them myself. We might not be together, but I would still help in whatever way I could.
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I'd call her guardian.
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I'd likely laugh and fall back asleep... Seriously, if you knew some of my ex's you'd probably do the same...
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If my ex-spouse called me, I would encourage her. She was the proverbial bitch on wheels.
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I would tell him to stop being so f*ing selfish, think about the kids and go to a friggin meeting. Then I would call his sponsor and pass this information on to him.
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I would absolutely help him. We were together for 11 yrs. No kids together. Although we were not great as a married couple we remain great friends-at arms length of course. I respect his new wife and their life together. Even if the divorce was not amicable how do you turn your back on 11 yrs of history?
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I would tell her to call her mother.
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Find Help for him/her immediately. Not you!!
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I would call her parents and let hem deal with her insanity.
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What's it to do with you?
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hold them
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I would hang up on them.They have no place in your life anymore otherwise they would not be an ex!
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If this is an attempt to make me feel sorry for you so you can come running back into my open arms you are sadly mistaken. However, if this is a genuine crisis and you need some help, find someone who cares. Are my words hurting you? Well now you have a tenth of the hurt that I felt when you recited your monologue about how you never loved me and then walked out slamming the door behind you!
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Easy I wouldn't answer the pnone, that's what caller ID is for.
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what if i was a person that is thinking about that now.?
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call someone from their family immediately to go to them, Keep them on the phone after you get someone to go to them (just incase its for real). If they have no family call the police and send them to the persons home. (what a wake up call if its not true) They might just be playing head games with you, but you cant take the chance....you wouldnt want to live with the burden "maybe you should of done something.
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I would call the police so they could go check on the person.
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Verify if I'm still the beneficiary or not.
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If I could not stand him. I could care less, but on the other hand I would call the cops.
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Not sure, there are lots of greats answers posted... I would try to keep them on the phone, maybe even invite her/him out for coffee and a chat, sometimes it's just that moment of doing something... But each person is different... my brother tried about 10yrs ago, he called me i went over with some friends, at the time he drank alot, so I invited to have a drink, that's how I got in the apt... You have to know the person... if you are wrong it's too late.
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I would ask he/she if she would like to talk about her feeling that way. Then I would ascertain whether she was serious or not. If she was, I would ask her to promise not to do anything to herself until I got there. When I got there if I thought she was really a danger to herself I would ask her to go with me to find a counselor or suicide prevention worker at a local mental hospital. You must always take someone seriously when they tell you they are contemplating suicide because it is usually their way of asking for help. To ignore it could result in his or her death.
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Inside I'd be absolutely bullshit mad but I'd talk with them a little while and try to get them to talk with someone one a suicide hotline. I hate being manipulated.
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I would take them to the hospital and tell the staff they are very suicidal and let them handle it from there.
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I would be receptive and nice but stay away. I would then call a close family friend or relative of the Ex and make sure they were aware.If I felt it was an emergency I would call 911 and give the address to assist the ex dangering themself.
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Is your life insurance police up to date :-)
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Just keep talking...positive, kind words. Try to see them and get help for them. Don't give up until they improve. This just does not go away...they need someone to talk with and get better. =)
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I would do whatever I could to help her. I would hate to think that my ex killed herself. I wish her a long life. I decided long ago there is no revenge I can get beyond the thought that no matter how far or fast she runs once she gets there she will be in the room with her. That is a fate I would not wish on anyone.
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Call the police.if this person is going to hurt themselves they aren't in the right mind, and must be troubled. They need some help. Not like they're freaks but they are in a hard time and need help.
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I'd say "grow up, your kids still love you."
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Are kids involved? If you two have kids, I would play on that and tell them to think of the kids. If you don't have kids, then I would remind him that suicide is a sin. However, if he is not religious, then I would just say that you would not like to see them commit suicide.
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yes
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let me come over first to MARK THE SPOT so you dont miss!
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If it were my first ex husband, I would ask him if he would PLEASE take his wife with him. My second husband did threaten to kill himself if I divorced him. I told him he needed to talk to his councelor a bit longer....we ARE divorced, and he is still alive.
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Not sure if this angle has been covered, but I'll throw it in... It depends on the type of person your ex is. My ex would throw out the suicide threat to try to guilt me into taking him back. He couldn't stand me letting him go. Someone got the police involved (after his threat). The police convinced him to get some help. The therapy that was triggered from my ex's threat, helped him stop trying to win me back by outrageous means. So even if you doubt the ex would do it, still call the police if they can't convince the ex to get help at least it's documented that he/she is acting inappropriately.
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I had this happen to me when I got divorced a couple years ago. When he told me his plans of suicide, I gave him the number to a suicide hotline and recommended that he call there, or another professional. As soon as he hung up I called his Dad to let him know what was going on so he could go check on him. (He ended up going to a mental hospital for a couple days, but did not harm himself)
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I'll phone his new wife...... +4
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Well after going through the divorce I just had..... I would hang up. No doubt about it.
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I don't know I can honestly say I'd hate to see anyone kill themselves but I would rather just stay out of it and avoid all the drama. Let her call her boyfriend or her momma.
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----------------->my EX WIFE i tell her TO GO AHEAD AND JUMP and ask her if she need help or i just push her so she no have to think about backing out
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