What kind of mother allows her 16 year old daughter to have a 28 year old boyfriend?
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A VERY BAD mother.
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The kind that is itching for a grandbaby.
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A borderline lawbreaker.
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Probably one who understands that it's psychologically and historically normal to be attracted to people once they hit puberty. That's why people hit puberty you know.
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One that does not care a great deal for her childs welfare emotional or physical. Maybe Momma likes the look of him, and wants her kids life as messed up as her own after all the guy is probably not that much younger than her, he is not 50 is he? Now DR that.
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a bad mommy who has lost control of her kid
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One who didn't get the instruction book that arrives with the birth of each firstborn child. Everyone knows we women are born with a natural knowledge of how to be a great parent. Everyone knows that, right?
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The Britney Spears-type mother.
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I don't think allowing has anything to do with it.
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Hopefully it's not another welfare baby for us to care for when she gets pregnant.
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A bad one.
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I see it as kind of a subjective thing. Depends on the individuals, the culture, the time period, etc.
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Excuse me, i dont mean to be rude but theres a difference between going to a movie or for dinner and having sex, the boy in question may want to get to know her. I think that maybe you should consider getting to know him better, perhaps try and learn his intentions. And from my experiance age difference doesnt tend to make the biggest deal, unless of course it involves an adult interacting sexualy with a child, casual dating may be fine.
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I'll probably get downrated a bunch, but, well, I'm due for it so that's fine. I don't see much wrong with it (as long as the 28 year old isn't the type to take advantage of anyone).
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A jealous one!
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How does 'allow' come into it? Is is not legal?? In Australia a child can legally leave home at age 15. I was the mother of a child and also living in a marriage like relationship at age 16 - with no negative effects befalling me, my partner or our child. Mothers usually know their children very well and I imagine the one in question has thought long and hard about the best way in which to deal with the situation. I believe it's far better to allow the contact and be able to keep an eye on things than to refuse them contact and have the girl sneaking off with him and not knowing where she is or what is happening to her.
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one who doesn't know about it. i dated a 25 year old at age 16, and my mother did not know about it. and my mother is actually a very GOOD mother, she's always tried to be really on top of things with me. i just used to be a bit of a shady character, not her fault. (eventually she found out- when i was 18 and we had just broken up.)
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One that had a 28 year old boyfriend when she was 16.
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An understanding mother (who may have had the same experience)? i am turning 17 and i am very mature and open-minded for my age. I have friends of all ages but i find that i get on best with people of the same maturity as me.. one of my closest friends is 30. But what does it matter if you're happy?
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Here in the US, an adult that age being with a 16-year-old is called a pedophile and it is a crime called statutory rape and the guy could get jail time and be in the pedophile listings. I had crushes on guys that age when I was 16, but a 28-year-old should know better than to take advantage of a kid's crush. The mother is basically aiding and abetting a crime.
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i don't think you can even classify the "woman" as being a mother.....i don't believe a mother would allow that to happen.....
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the kind who smokes and drinks with their kid too. The kind who says, "i'd rather her smoke pot with me than be out getting high where she's not safe" the kind who may also say, "i'd rather her having unprotected sex in my house rather than in a back of a car" THAT KIND
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one thats trying to more of a friend to there child then a parent with displine
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age is nothing if they love each other.
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An irresponsible one.
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the kind of mother that wants to sleep with the 28 year old boyfriend. selfish bitch. lol
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dumbass
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WOW... are we talking redneck famlies here? coz that is pure statutory rape if ever there was any... wow!
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eh.. I don't know. I don't think I'd do that if I were a mother. That's a huge age difference! Not to mention a little illegal. :/
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not a good mom, i can tell you that. the age difference is way to much!
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The kind that has no idea about what is going on out there and silly enough to believe she truly knows. Regards.
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NOT A VERY GOOD ONE!! sounds like she want her girl to grow up and move out quick. but doesnt say very much for him either..
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Mother's aren't perfect and neither am I and thats why I am not gonna weigh in on this one.........
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..sounds like an 'excuse' for a mother. Irresponsible!
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A BAD one. Not much else to say. A mother who allows an adult to engage in molestation is a real fiend.
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the kind that's too weak to understand the concept of good parenting
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bad mom... she doesn't care for her babies
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hmmm... an odd and possibly mentally disturbed one?
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it depends on wear u live e.g age of consent laws but if there happy i'd leave them to it and if the mum tried to split them up it it would prob push them closer together
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well I don't know about the mother but as a single father the first 28 year old knocking at my door asking for my 16 year old daughter will be carrying his nuts home in a ziplock bag full of saline solution.
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The kind I'd like to meet ;-P
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a bad one! and a mother who wants to be her daughters friend rather than a parent
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A very ignorant mother. Possibly one who is living through her daughter, most likely had a traumatic childhood or is too busy dealing with her own issues to even have time to realize her daughter.
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A mother who is also sleeping with the 28 year old herself, or wants to. That's the only thing I can think of that makes remote sense.
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A very busy mother. Would a 16 year old boyfriend be better? How about a 16 year old girlfriend?
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a mother who was probably molested by an older family member. She has no idea of boundaries.
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an ignorant mother
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It depends on where one is in life. I was 16 had a great full time job, had my own apartment, went to college full time, lived 800 miles away from any relative, was financially stable and knew no one my age in the same mindset and/or situation. I dated men in their late 20's then. I also financially and career wise was in the same place if not surpassing them. Who knows. Anything is possible.
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A very stupid one who has no morals. I will be damned if I would let my 16 y/o daughter date a grown ass man no matter how inlove she thinks she is with him.
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a mother that probably has a 60 yr old bf...ewwww
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The bad parent kind.
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a bad parent?
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One that wants to get her pregnant and marry her off!
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only a parent that did the same thing when she was young!! but it still doesnt make it right!
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The kind of mother that's absolutely nothing like mine.
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Come to Camden County Ga. and you can find out why. It seems to happen a lot here and it mostly involves younger highschool girls with 25+ military men. Nothing against girls wanting to be with military men. Its the fact that 26 year old men want to be with a 15 year old 'child'.
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After reading a lot of the answers, it's kind of changed my mind. I'm thinking it probably depends on the situation. What culture they are from and what the relationship is like. I can say that if I were that girls father, I would probably be pretty pissed off regardless. I more question, what kind of 28 year old dates a 16 year old girl. I'm 26 and wouldn't even think of dating anyone under 22. What could he possibly have in common with a 16 year old?
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One nothing like me. I'd fight that "tooth and toenail", as the old folks used to say!
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Not the sane kind.
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well whats the 28yr old like? age don't matter but if he is a negative influence on her then you should probably limit how much they see each other. If they are in love and they want to be together unfourtanetly you can't stop them but u can give her advice and guide her. In the end its her descision if she wants to date him all you can do is let her know how you feel about it and why then its up to her. At 16 they are independant and they will do what they want to do, hopefully you gave her good morals but its her descision leave it at that. Make sure she has condoms and shes on bc, shes way to young for a baby though.
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Definitely one that won't be getting the mother of the year award. Glad I don't have girls.
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Hey! I'm 17 and I have been dating a man who's 30! It's not bad, he's a good man, and my mum knows she can trust him!
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A bad mother. That's just unacceptable.
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I see much wrong with the mother's judgment...
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one who is not observant to the fact that 16 is still a child who deserves protection.
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a normal parent .....she cant help who she likes sojust let her date him .....there is nothing wrong with that parent
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The kind who doesnt seem to care!
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One that's high!
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a rotten one, she should go to jail with the 28 year old.
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A mother that also wants to have sex with the guy. My 2 cents.
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A very unintelligent one...
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A Mother who's hell bent on getting her 16 year old daughter out of her house and out of her hair , so she can get on with her selfish irresponsible life without being inconvenienced or put out by actually having to act like a parent!
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A mother who realises her child's life is not her own. In a lot of countries and states, nobody is in a legal position to stop the relationship thus there actually isn't much the mother can do.
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A Redneck, the 28 year old is most likely her brother or cousin.
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an unfit one
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Someone who is probably needing some psychiatric help!! Guy must be a child molester!! My oh my what the hell is wrong with people today???
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One soon to be a grandmother.
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After reading all these answers and a silly idea or two, I can't judge the mother without more information on her, the boyfriend, the daughter and the situation. It may be a very normal and aboveboard situation or it may be statutory rape or it may be real rape, etc. Just can't judge from the information given. But, isn't that a lot of the questions on AB?
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i'd be more disgusted with the 28 year old boyfriend!! What is he doing!!!!
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Not a good one.
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ever think that you can not put a price on love let alone an age difference. i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and we have an age gap.
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lol.. i was engaged when I was 17, and my man was 27 If the girl loved the guy, and he loved her, why not people..
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A crazy one! And I thought i was crazy for liking my 20 year old friend! Yikes!!!
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well a mother that dont care about her daughter...
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that is no mother!!! what kind of 28 year old dates a sixteen year old???
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an ignorant one
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I mother on drugs
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The mom wants to be on some Jerry Springer show, or soemthing.
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A mother like mine who had no clue. My dad knew things I did, but didn't know who I was dateing either, but he lived 2 hours away and couldn't do anything about that. I only told him things incase I did turn up missing or something. At least someone had an idea what I was up to. Did I mention he went grey before I was 17? Now I just have to keep it from my daughter, because I would never allow this.
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a stupid one
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a very stupid mother
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The open-minded kind. ....is he a pedophile?
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A bad Mother!!
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a bad one. ya know the one who will buy them cigs or beer.
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A mother who doesn't care, is living through her daughter, or thinks that her daughter can handle it, it is unlikely though that a 16 year old can handle that though so be careful.
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A good mother,that sees love not on one side of life. There is nothing bad in it,as long they a moving fine.The only thing the mother needs to do,is to keep advising her daughter on keeping relationship. I dont see anything bad in that.
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It depends on who's side of the story you're looking at. And what the guy is like. Example; The mother think's the guy is far too old. She's only thinking about the time that her daughter will be 28, and him being around his early 40. The daughter is deeply in love with a GOOD-guy. They're close and they're never seen apart. It really does depend on the person they are. If the daughter is immature, and the guy is a 28 year old guy is literally a bum, dresses bad, and doesn't bother to give a good impression on her parents, then the mother's point of view is right. It's all down to the people they are.
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One that has given up.
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an ingorent shite
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IT APPEARS THAT THE DAUGHTER TELLS THE MOTHER WHAT TO DO. IT IS NO WAY IN HELL I AM GOING TO LET A 28 YEAR OLD MAN TAKE MY DAUGHTER AND USE HER UP. I AM SORRY NO WAY. SHE IS YOUNG GIRL. SHE DONT NEED TO BE EXPOSED TO A GROWN MAN. LET HER BE A TEENAGER AND NOT LET HER GROW UP TO FAST.MOM YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR FEET DOWN AND DONT ALLOW IT.
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