I'm 18. I'm from a developing country. I got a 100% scholarship from a quite good European college. The cost of living is around 5k eur/ year. The computer science program lasts for 3 years. My family said they couldn't afford it. I have never asked them for anything besides education. I know my family is not rich (but not that too poor either, my family is from the middle-class). They said they would consider helping me study abroad if I got a 100% scholarship, so I had worked hard during my high school years, studying for the SAT and doing extracurriculars just to get financial aids. Finally I got a 100% scholarship. Yet now they refused to help me. I tried to persuade them for months and then I realized what ever I do, they will never help me study abroad. I am having a part-time job online, my minimum wage is about 10-15$ per hour. I also have a friend who is willing to lend me 300 eur monthly for my 3-year program. I am trying to gather as much money as I can now to afford the plane ticket and get the visa done. However, I do this alone. I have no one to support me (except for the friend willing to lend me the money, but she also does not know how to give her opinion on this issue, she said it's all up to me now). I don't know if this is a right decision. If I left secretly, I don't know what would happen. I don't want to give my dad a heart attack and I do really love him. Also, I still have a decent life here if I stay. It's just I don't want to miss this opportunity.