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did the guy initiate the date? If you asked , then you should pay...
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who asked who out. If the women asked him out then maybe she will want to take the lead here. but if a man asked me out on a date I would expect him to pay for all of it.
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Of a guy ask then yes and if the girl asks and I know you men aren't going to like this he should still pay or go dutch but only at the girl's insistence.
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Whoever does the inviting should pay up.
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I would say yes, unless it was suggested beforehand whether or not to go Dutch, or the girl was the one who invited.
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YES Of course. (well thats just me, I try to always pay for my Dates meal. Im just old school though and feel thats proper. like holding the door or opening the car door or picking her up at her door, its just the way I was brought up;)
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He can if he wants to, it's certainly the "Gentlemanly" thing to do, although if she asked him out then she should do the "Gentlewomanly" thing and cover the bill. Or they could split it 50/50, whatever they decide on, it is after all, their date.
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I think whoever invited should be the one to pay.
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Yes I think the guy should pay for the first date. It does not matter who ask who out. I believe it is just the right thing to do.
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Yes. It's dating etiquette. Edit: Again, why -4? This is number three. Tell me about it. A comment would be the right thing to do.
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If he asked the girl/woman out, yes. If she asked, she should pay (he can offer to pay though- nice touch.)
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Tell 'ya what. You invite a girl to dinner and then let her know what her half is at the end of the meal, and that will be your first and last date with that particular young lady.
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of course man should be gentlemen
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If he asked a woman out he should, if she asked him out, she should.
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I think the man should pay the bill, but the woman should offer to go dutch.
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on the first date yes,it should be the guy that pays,even if the girl makes more money than he does. i would feel that it gets the relationship off to a bad start if he doesn t.this is my own personal opinion ,i myself would not feel comfortable going dutch or having her pay on the first date.
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Unless we're talking about a sugar momma here, the guy will pay for the first date according to accepted custom. The odds are 100% if it is a gay date. I'm sorry, but I had to add this one: gotta stay P.C. now-a-days.
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I don't want them to. They seem to get funny ideas about being owed something.
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Yes, He should pay. I guess I am old fashioned.
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Yes the man should pay. no offence to anyone but men do make better many than women. So yes he should pay. riz--
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If it was his idea to go on the date then definately.
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I think the gut should always pay for a date unless the girl is really adamant about paying
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It's always nice if the guy could pay first date. Then they can either go dutch on the rest of the dates or whoever does the inviting pays thereafter.
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MAY IT BE A FIRST DATE or THE LAST....a guy should never do that(exeptions are always there)UNTILL HE WANTS TO MARRY HER..!!
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And if you ask me...I make my dates PAY FOR ME is well;
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The guy is the gentleman. He MUST pay.
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Assuming the other person is female..aye :)
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definitely.i agreed to go out with him,thats a bonus!
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Absolutely, yes!
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It all depends who asked for the date. I ask,I pay.
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I think it would be gentlemen like to do so....
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A guy should ALWAYS pay for the gal's meal. It is just pure, common respect and old fashioned morals. Maybe I'm showing my age, but when I was dating, the guy paid for everything. It was proper etiquette and common courtesy. Besides that, if most of us guys are lucky enuff to get a gal to go out with us, ;-), we should pay, and hope that she will go out with us again. LoL!
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If you ask her out...definitely. If she asks you out, you, being the guy, should offer to pay(assuming you want another date)
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Only if your a gentleman.
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I pay no matter what we do!
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Yes I think so.
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As a very traditional guy, I would think a guy should always pay for their dates unless it is specifically stated before hand that you are going to a concert or whatever "dutch" and paying for your own tickets. First dates should always be the man's responsibility.
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Definitely !
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depends on who asked who out for the date.
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Who pays if there are two guys on a date together?
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Yes. Even after the first date, you wind up paying more often than not, but at least the woman I'm with offers most of the time. Now I know I'm practically begging for negative points, but I'm going to say it anyway: If you are a guy and dating someone, you want companionship, love and sex. You have to treat a woman properly to have the love and companionship you desire. As for sex, you can pay for that(I never have). Paying for dinner and a movie is more expensive. Sounds crude but it is a reality:)
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That is what my momma said. ;)
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As a matter of opinion, I'd say yes. And every date after that, as well. I don't believe there's any right or wrong answer, though. Except maybe "Let the bitch pay for herself!" That's a very wrong answer.
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I believe the one who offered the invitation does the paying, if my Emily Post serves me correctly.
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of course they should i mean its okay if you don't pay for it but you will be considered a pussy.
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Only if he's doing it to be a gentleman. If he's doing it because he expects the girl to put out in return, he should stay the hell home because he doesn't get it.
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yes , I am 53 and thats what I was taught to do and I have always done this
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Yes. Plain and Simple. I think its just the right thing to do.
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I believe the popular convention is that whoever did the asking out should pay. Essentially if you've asked someone "Do you want to come for dinner with me?" it would be a bit rude to expect them to pay for you. I do however think it's polite to at least offer to pay your share of the bill (and make sure you have the money to do so!), even if your date won't let you. It shows that you're not just there for the free meal.
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I have always paid for the meal and entertainment on a first date. Only a few women have ever offered to share the bill.
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THE GUY SHOULD ALWAYS PAY!!!! a girl asked me why...i didnt know what to say except i cant think of a better way to spend your money except on your gf
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If he asked the gal out...yes he should pay!
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My advice to friends is: if the guy asks you out for drinks, let him buy the first round and then you offer to buy the second. If he refuses to let you pay, then fine but at least he knows that you are not a gold digger and also that you are not obligated to "pay them back" later for their generosity. The same goes for dinner or lunch- if he asks you out, let him pay. But if you like him find some occasion to do something nice for him like making him cookies or reciprocating dinner or lunch some other time.
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i think the guys meant to pay for the first one
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Whoever asked the person out and made the arrangements and picked out the place.
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i agree with whoever invited should pay. m boyfriend disagrees- and always pays for all meals. he was not offended on our first date when i kept wanting to pay, but simply wouldnt let it happen. but i'm all for either splitting things 50/50 or one person paying-- as long as both parties are ok with whatever the situation.
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is this even a question??
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personally...i always offer to pay! they never except, but i think it's just a kind and polite thing to do :)
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Depends, does she look like she'll put out?
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I'm all for "who ever did the inviting should pay" works with my friend and I, and i try to do that with my boyfriend and I as well. I have almost always encountered men who prefer to pay for me, and if they are THAT serious about it I usually give in, but I dont think a woman should ever just assume a guy is going to pay for dinner or a movie or what not. It's nice if they do, but women should be a bit self sufficient too!
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You absolutely should or it's gonna be your last date with her, Bub.
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Yes the guy should ALWAYS pay for there date no mater what Hell i was brought up that way so its always been that way with me the girl never pays you should also meet her at the door and open doors for her she might get annoyed with it but at least she knows she is with a real gentleman. I am like this till they ask me not to do it for them any more but even then i feel like i should but i respect there wishes
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Its nice if they offer, but the girl should say we can split the bill. Unless the guy insists then just thank them and give them a kiss at the end of the night nothing more on the 2nd date, if you like them and you see a future you want them to respect you.
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i think they should be expecting to pay. personally i would offer to pay my half but when he says 'ah no ill pay' ill quickly agree! lol when i met my partner he was an idiot, the only time we went out or did anything i arranged it i paid for it all most of the time lol i do still arrange everything, and its genrally taken in turns, whoever has the money at the time
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No matter who invited who, pay for her meal you cheap little......
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I would.
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I think whomever does the asking should pay for the date. If a guy asks the woman out, he should pay. If a woman asks the guy out, she should pay.
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That depends... Is the guy a gentleman or an asshole? If he's a gentleman, then yes; he should pay. If he's an asshole, then he should just wait 'til she walks off to the bathroom and leave to let her pay the bill... (I'm kidding, by the way... No guy should do that) Hope this helps... :D
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+5 If I am going to do a dress, hair, makeup and panty hose, yes, he is paying
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This is crazy! a guy who pays for his date's meal in the 1600s was a gentleman, in 2009 he's a sucker, and nobody respects a sucker. If you ladies want to go back to being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen (without the right to vote) then ok, I'll pay for your meal, but if you want to be respected as an equal, then it's high time you started paying for your own food. For the record, I make plenty of money, and will gladly pay for outings with a woman once we've established a relationship -but on the first date, if they have the sense of entitlement that I should obviously cover their food, then it's that attitude (not the money) that will lead me to never call again. Ladies, if you let a guy pay for your meal, you're making a transaction, and yes, you owe him something -is that the kind of 'arrangement' you want to make?
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I always pay for everything...because it is just the right thing to do.... And eventually ill get laid that night so it all evens out
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Whoever did the asking is the one who pays. Thats the rule.
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