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Who said we should?
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Who ever does the asking should do the paying whether it's a date or not. As things progress (if they do) different arrangements can be made.
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Because the man 'usually' asks for the date
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It's not a hard and fast rule anymore. It used to be that way because women were hardly ever worth much in the work force, if they worked at all. Nowdays, it's more polite to assume that going dutch is the norm. +5
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because he is a gent' i always have lol
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whoever asks for the date should pay, but if i ask, id hope theyd insist, for the simple fact of being a gentleman...
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They're the ones who want ass.
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if he's the one who's offered to take you out in the first place then yes
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No special reason, I guess. It's tradition, dating back, I guess, to the fact that the man usually had more funds to do it with...and his ego more fragile. LOL. Anyway, it seems to work fine with most women, no? :-) +5
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to make a good impression thats all nothing else:)
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In my country it is the norm.
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He wants a second date or he wants something else?
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If he asked her out and finances were never discussed, I imagine that man would have a great number of first dates.
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Because we’ve paid beforehand+6
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Tradition I suppose.
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Putting the cards all on the table. When he pays for a first date at "Aragawa" (in Tokyo Japan), it might likely secure a second one. When he pays for a first date at Burger King it demonstrates he lives with mom; and no second date. :)
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He shouldn't necessarily. It's best if they each pay for their own food.
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He's demonstrating his intention for a future commitment. Much like a down payment on a lay-a-way. (No refunds)
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It's not necessary any more that a man MUST pay. Women are economically sound enough to pay for themselves and the man as well. But I like the word SHOULD in your question. I'd say (and I'm a little old fashioned, I admit) a man SHOULD pay on the first date merely to keep chivalry alive. It also adds to the "romance" of the date. (Well, I DID say I was a trifle old fashioned. :-) )
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I think its just out of tradition
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to make a good impression and possibly get a second date.
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s Ive always paid for everything in my relationships, and its because I want to. I feel it would be dickish to let the girl pay for anything.
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I'm guessing the girls have probably spent a lot more money preparing for the evening and looking nice.
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I just pay for my self, i mean its like ur buying ur second date....sometimes girls pay for me too but my point is its not a must or a tradition.
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Because women only want equality when it suits them.
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whoever ASKED the person for the date should pay for it ... whether it's he or she ...
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If a man wants to start the relationship off on the right foot, his good sense, manners and decorum with me should be on prominent display. I don't want some loser that doesn't even know how to treat a guest, because that is in essence what we are when someone asks us out.
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the man---always
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if the man asks the woman out, like how it should be for the first date. He pays. if she offers to go in dutch, politely say.. thank you but, i have got it. unless she insists on it, then you would not want to offend her in any way. it's a real tricky thing. but it is customary for the man to pay.
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