by 
Shirou
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I think a lot of people feel they need to be fake to measure up to how they want other people to see them. It is all just dumb really. Today it is all about who HAS what, not WHAT YOU ARE as a person. So sad.
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We are too concerned with what people think
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you think i'm faking! not being myself! i'm insulted! lol
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because we don't like ourselves. if we did, we wouldn't try to hide our personality. thus, only confident people don't fake. or else, they could be hiding those traits they don't like about themselves while emphasising on those traits they like. depends on the person i guess!
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Because "being yourself" is one of the most difficult things there is. Maybe the only difficult thing, in fact. Who are you? What does that question even mean? How would you know if you're "being yourself" or just acting out some behavior pattern conditioned in childhood, or acting on some false belief you adopted from someone you admired? It's really useful to just stop what you're doing on a regular basis, sit down for a few minutes, and reflect on the question "who am I?". Almost everything we do is affected by who we think we are, but we rarely study that question in any significant depth. I've been interested in this topic for about 35 years now, and it's been my experience that the answer is like an onion: there's always another layer underneath the one you think you understand. So a good approach is to treat that question as a lifelong research project -- a project to find out who you are. Along the way, of course you're going to have to fake it many times to get by... so go ahead and forgive yourself for that, but don't forget that the real goal is to see through all the layers of the onion.
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Some people loathe themselves. self loathing / self hatred/ autophobia
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Because we all seek the approval of others. Everyone, on some level, has to seek a level of conformity, which means we will always compromise ourselves to "fit in."
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Because some people feel by 'being themselves' they won't be accepted. If they're a fake--and get rejected, then it wasn't really their true self that got rejected.
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Because if you are yourself, the ones who don't want to be and expect you to be just like them, will hate you for it and do whatever it's in their power to take that away from you by whatever the means
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Some of us try to fit into a mold of what we think others expect us to be. We do it to try to fit in. We quickly learn what some people find acceptable and adjust to fit that image. Problem with me is that I'll only bite my tongue for so long, then I'll speak up.
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Because no one can handle our true selves. We have to feign normalcy, banality, and pathos to coexist and interact with the neurotypicals who share our breathing spaces. We must trade passion for complacency, ambition for conformity, and hope for disinclination. It's the survival of the witless.
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I don't find I have to fake it and I try to be myself. It's too dishonest a life to always have to fake it and pretend. That's too much stress for me. I find it better to find good friends and real people that aren't artificial or want you to be something you're not. Then we can all just be ourselves without feeling uncomfortable.
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Our actual self isn't really modern enough in it's raw state to be accepted. An example is manners, I'm sure there would be some manners we would all throw out the window if no one cared for them, we all hate when we have to turn the other cheek, even though yes...it shows your intelligence, but we can't just go around dissing each other all day. These are just examples.
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You never should have to fake it.
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I don't. Just read my answers and you will see that I am myself.
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Because people want to be liked, be cool, be socially accepted and will do whatever it takes just to fit in!
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You DON'T have to fake it. Just be yourself. Everyone else will envy you.
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Short answer: we can "just be ourselves". The thing is .. it's a deceptively simple answer .. and rather difficult to actually do. However, this question is posted in the SADNESS category. Why? Are you sad? Is someone asking you to "fake it" vs "be yourself"?
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In most cases its a life long journey, to discover one's self. And just who we really are. Example: Back during my childhood years. I looked forward in following my Father's foot steps. I even told in my Sr. yearbook when they asked, what my future plans in life were. That it was to continue farming & part time Carpentering. We'll many years have gone by now. And during those years,I have traveled many paths. Some but very few, were the path's I had planed on. I will have to say tho. That as time went on. I learned from past experiences. Each being a basic foundational part of life. Just like the clay used by a potter to reform & create. All those paths, and the experience I learned from. Made me the person I am today.......Just my point of view tho..........Thanks for your question & plus 5 for it......................M.C.S.
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Ain't nothing fake about The Chief! If you're Navy, you'll understand.
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We can! Screw society, just be who you want to be. If you want to be alone, be alone. Just make sure you are mentally ready for it - it can be daunting, even depressing for some. I for one, quite enjoy solitude - and not just as in "vacation time", but regularly. Some people may think I'm rude or insane for not being a talkative windbag...I couldn't care less. They're the ones wasting their time with frivolous gossip.
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Young children are fun and interesting because they are always themselves. As people get older pressure and expectations from other people causes people to fake. Peer pressure at school, social pressure in our communities, the need to fit in at work are all forms of pressure that causes people to fake. The need for approval can be strong and it's safer to not stand out and to fit in with the herd. It takes a kind of courage and maturity/ self-acceptance to always be yourself.
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When I was younger, I tried to be who and what my parents wanted me to be. Then I realized that it was better to just be me. My parents liked me anyway! It is hard to try and be someone you aren't....
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because we want them to see us as if we're ok.
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Because we're afraid of the judgements of others--afraid of being rejected? Because deep down we ourselves think we are no good and are afraid of this being found out?
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We can and we don't. You have to get used to the idea that you are going to win a few and lose a few when you decided to dance to your own tune and be yourself. It's how you find the dance partners that you enjoy dancing with the most.
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Because there are many people who won't accept you for who you are.
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You can. Its called being alone.
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I know a lot of people who are fake, i don't think that they can help themselves. They are so used to putting up a front that they start believing that it's reality.
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As I've gotten older, it's easier just to be myself - I'm a pretty nice person (I think) so what have I got to lose?!
- M.C.S. - Dave RELATED QUESTIONS
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