A guy i am dating says he will call then doesn't, when i text him to call he does, i ask him if he is sure he still wants to catch up and he says yes and he promises to make more effort and then he doesn't call again?
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tryingtogetgrip
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Honestly ttgag, this guy doesn't sounded very interested at all. He sounds so casual I think it's a stretch to call it 'dating'. Can you continue to be bothered expending your precious energy and self on someone who isn't? Kind regards.
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The reason he doesn't just tell you that he's not that interested or that he doesn't really want to catch up...is because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. So...you have to read between the lines. This will happen quite frequently. A lot of men would do anything to avoid hurting a woman's feelings, even if they have to tell a few white lies to do so. The bottom line: if you feel confused when dealing with a guy, he's just not into you. The right guy will come along--and there will be no confusion. That's worth waiting for!
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he is a chicken guy, he cant talk to girls on or off the phone. you need a stronger person for a guy friend. he has no back bone. or he is just shy in which case makes him less than a chicken. more like an amoeba.
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In a relationship like this you need to ask yourself and weight the good and the bad. How often do you feel good about where things are going with him. How often do you find yourself crying wondering what you are doing wrong. I think both men and women need to be more upfront about how they feel about someone. DONT LIE about it be honest because you are hurting the person more by lying and draggin them threw the mud. The sooner you tell them that you dont want to continue this the sooner you can move on with your life and meet someone better that will not lie to you. DUMP his ass. He want to but he is a coward. Tell him that you dont want a man who lies in order to make himself feel better about the relationship and where it is NOT going. In the end he isnt taking your feelings into consideration at all, he is only thinking of himself
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Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Instead of texting him, make yourself less available. Then if he doesn't make a better effort, move on.
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As the old saying goes: "He ain't the only fish in the sea." Think about this: If he treats you like garbage now, do you think he'll treat you any better when and if you date him on a steady basis? He's a loser - and a liar. Forget about him. Cut your losses. Move on to a guy who will appreciate you for being you. BUT . . . (do I really have to finish?) Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Because you asked. "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"
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Okay, I went through the EXACT same situation! You know what I did? I warned him that him not calling me, and me always have to push him to make an effort made it seem like he didn't care about me at all. Then I told him if he didn't improve, I'd break up with him. Of course, he said I was so important to him, and gave all his usual excuses. I said, "okay, but I meant what I said!" Guess what? He didn't improve. Guess what else? I dumped him. Guess what else again? Months later he apologized, and he never meant to hurt me like that. I gave him a second (to be more precise, a billionth chance), and since we got back together almost 3 months ago, he's called me everyday since. And he's shown me that he loves me by calling me, and spending time with me and doing all that romantic stuff. So, warn him, and dump him if he doesn't improve. It worked for me!
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I am going through the same thing and now I'm just getting over him He will never be in my life like that again. You should just tell him that he isn't worth being in your life if he isn't going to be there for you.
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Better to leave the bloke alone. He sounds like is isn't very invested.
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I would do the ultimatum thing and stick to it . Nicely , but firmly . he has to call on his own or you are gone .
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He's a dude. We're all shitty with that kind of stuff.
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