sweetguy let me tell you, you need to say........ To hell with how people will judge you! They will do that no matter what you do in life. I wish you a long life of all happiness! {Hugs}

Hello my friend. I would deal with it by being myself and not worry about the harsh judgment of others. Those people are not friends and I would not waste my time or sacrifice any of my happiness worrying about what they think. Life is too short!!

You know so that's why it seems you'd be putting it OUT THERE. The way that we all joke and carry on no one knows who likes who or if they do. Just have fun, be yourself, flirt with her, who's gonna know for sure?

If some people judge a posting harshly, that is their problem. There is absolutely no need for you to make it yours. Be yourself. Enjoy Answerbag to the fullest, and use your Power of Ignore on those who would spoil it. The Power of Ignore is one of the most powerful tools we have.

Who cares what anyone else thinks? Their judgment doesn't define you or your relationship. YOU do. Go for it, relax and be who you are.

Life is short... fleeting.. you know that... you could have died recently. It's better to just come out with it if that other person is okay with it.

I don't mind putting my crush out there.......I just wish she'd wear the lavender leather..........She'd have to wake me up for not being myself with a big slap in the brain.....SNAP OUT OF IT!!

Lou, it doesn't matter what other people think. The only thing that matters is how you feel, and how you express your feelings. If you feel like being open about who you like, and they're okay with it...then by all means don't let anybody stop you.

Life is just too damned short ! Just lay it on the line and say what's in your heart. Who gives a damn what anyone says or thinks ?

I think you answered your own question by posting this question. I think you were hoping he would see this and know it was him without you having to say anything. You sly chicken.

Hey bud! We have to get it all off of our chest. Regardless. I just speak my mind, and go, hoping that good will come from it... SaraMonster, I am in love with you. I know you feel the same way. Thank you for posting those new pics... you are beautiful! wink wink. Oh, sorry about that bud, just had to get that off my chest. I suppose, if a certain member saw that, she might be a little upset, but, I bet would appreciate the audacity... Go for it buddy!

i honestly don't care if i have a crush on someone and that someone feels the same towards me i don't care who knows it as long as i am happy, i even changed my avatar to match Jay's not long ago, i think you should stop caring what others think and be happy *hugs* :)

Just do it, don't ever care what others think. Be yourself. Why, really would anyone here judge you. It's AB, I don't think anyone would be that mean here, I honestly think, if you think someone is special, you should always let your heart lead the way:)

Sweety I agree with everyone else... who cares what people think! YOU do what makes you happy and her happy and forget everyone else. I am so glad to see you back and hope you are doing well!!! {{{{hugs}}}} :)

meh...if they have an email on their profile, tell them that way. If they don't, then they don't want to be bothered anyway. Regardless you should be yourself...in public or private. If someone doesn't like it then it isn't meant to be.

What do you have to lose? Some people may not agree, but half of the people on here have never met you, and though their advice has great impact, their opinions should not, especially when it is keeping you from going after the girl you love. NOTHING should EVER stop you from going out there and sweeping her off her feet. NOTHING. Go for it, asweetguy, any girl would be lucky to have you interested in her.

Exchange emails and take it off line if you're really that troubled by what others think. You should always feel free to be yourself.

Seriously, if i had a crush on another ab'er and had issues with other people knowing about it, i wouldn't be bringing it to their attention. That said .. I personally would not allow my feelings for them or others opinions of me, to stop me from being myself, whether in open or private :)

Do what I do to hush the critics Love everyone ;) Live your life how you choose my friend ... the offer of love to another is never a bad thing, regardless of what others may think ... Any love is good love ... their is much time for regret ... but never enough time to love. Goodluck!

Its your life to live, not theirs. Do what you feel is right, for you and this special person.

I would try to contact the person to see if they might be interested in becoming interested in YOU. Unless you know that they can't for some reason. I hope you get to work it out, dear.

I would, personally, still be myself. To heck with anyone who would judge you for doing what makes you happy. Life is short. Why toture yourself? If they already know, they know you; they probably are a little apprehensive about you not bieng yourself. It is clear to me that this is toturing you, so why not help yourself? Just be yourself, be happy!

It has nothing to do with anyone else honey, its your business and if you like someone and she likes you back then to hell with everyone else!!! Go out there and shout it from the rooftops, nobody has the right to judge anyone else here.. you make sure you are happy babe!! Hey and you know what?? she is one lucky, lucky girl!! take care xxxx

Just email her and keep it private

Thanks Eeveryone for your help. This person has known for a few weeks now how I feel about them so it's no secret to her. I guess I am just getting tired of always having to watch what I say or how I interact with her for fear some jerk will figure it out and make fun of it. Especially since there is a very significant difference in age between us. This person has been a truly great friend to me over the last few months and has helped me to realize that sometimes holding on to the memory of someone we have loved so deeply and lost is not only hurtful to ourselves but to the person who has passed on. She's helped me to see that just because someone lets go and moves on with their life doesn't mean they don't love the person anymore.It just means that they have grown and matured enough to realize it's time to let that person go and be at peace and for the surviving person to move on. Never in a million years would I have imnagined I would ever feel anything in my heart for anyone ever again. When I lost Edna 3 years ago I just wanted to die right along with her. I could not imagine ever opening up my heart to someone else ever again. I know in my heart that this crush will more than likely never become anything more. I'd have to be a fool to believe that but at least I now know that because of this wonderful and beautiful friend there is hope that I will once again love someone in the way I loved Edna. For that I will always be greatful to this friend for.

JUST DO IT, GO FOR IT........ We will never have any regrets if we don't try & see what life holds for us. If you don't do it, you will regret it worse then if you did do it so with that being said crack your knuckles & get to emailing hon. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Really....who cares what others out there will think. Like they really know who you are anyway! For those who treat you harshly....ignore the losers. Just be yourself and screw them. ; )

Some people are going to judge no matter what you do..or don't do. Frankly, it's no one else's business and I will agree with the others..no one should be afraid of being who they are because of the opinions of a few. :-)

dont worry about what other people think just go for it. anyone who has a problem with it is just jealous in my book. good luck!!.:-)

Oh, who cares what the hell other people want to think. You be happy. You deserve that. Do whatever you want. And that means being yourself. If you're comfortable with it, it's nothing to do with anybody else. And from reading some of your comments, so she's a bit younger. Age is nothing :)

I think you should probably flip your attitude completely and throw out all the rules in your head so that you don't care if you're harshly judged by anyone and so that you just do what you want to do.

If they laugh you off of the site you can always start a new account and resort to living life as a sockpuppet. That's what I am to this computer...

Asg.... I would have to say that if you have a crush on another AB'er and did not want everyone to know about it, you could most likely not let on about it on AB, just to them in private, if you want them to know. The best way to do that is email or on an IM program of some sort. Sometimes our personal feelings need to be kept personal. It's just easier to live with yourself that way, once in a while, isn't it? :~)

Your AB name describes you perfectly. :D You deserve happiness--go for it! Age is no big deal--actually, when you are adults, it means nothing. (I speak from experience.) God bless you. (((I am sending you the best wishes.))) :D

I have a crush on pasobrio and don't give a damn who knows. those idiots that think they can, just don't bother me in the least.

You know how I feel about people and their opinions. Screw 'em 'cause they don't matter. I say follow your heart and do what feels right because life is too damn short. What have you got to lose? Not a damn thing.