Ok, i need advice. My soon to be 17 year old has been pestering me to have her tounge peirced, knowing that this is not something that I am real excited about having her doing. What should i tell her? Its for her birthday.
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Tell her that tests have shown that the stud on a pierced tongue will remove the natural enamel from the inside of all her teeth in a matter of two years. The dental bills after that point will be astronomical...and should be borne by her.
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Tell her "buthha monggg wradda mff." When she asks, "what's that supposed to mean," tell her that's how she'll sound for the weeks it takes to heal. OK, I may be exaggerating a little, but it may get the point across. Or, you could tell her that you are just too worried about infections to permit this. And you're the parent, you get to decide. Best of luck!
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Tell her HAPPY BIRTHDAY, and let her have it done :-) Shes old enough, and we all learn in our own way.
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Here mom yo... http://www.painfulpleasures.com/piercings_gone_bad.htm http://www.livescience.com/health/061018_ap_tongue_piercing.html http://www.geeked.info/piercings-gone-bad/
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there are 2 ways you can go you can let her have it done and she will probably regret it when she is 30 and has a posh job or you can not let have it done and suggest she has something else done i.e belly button,top of ear,lower ear but i don't think she would be as pleased.hope this helps
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tell her she can wait for one year, and then she'll have your blessing.......
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Not only is it looked at as a sign as being pretty promiscuous, but it also damages your teeth from clanking against them all the time. A 17 year old girl with a tongue ring just isn't attractive. And the guys who think it IS attractive, aren't the guys you'd like your daughter to be dating. Also, there's the risk of infection, and hitting the major vein in your tongue which can cause you to bleed to death, not to mention it makes you sound like a moron, even after it heals. It makes you sound like you have a lisp or speach impettiment...I know someone whos had one for 8 years and they say you get your normal talking skills back...you don't, it's still noticable...I just don't see the point in wanting to sound like Cindy from The Brady Bunch on purpose. The biggest thing that stands out is the impression she will give off...and that's that she's a 'naughty' girl. Definately NOT the impression I'd want MY daughter to have. But that's just me....good luck with making up your mind about it.
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Tell her not as long as she lives in your house with no job. If she moves out and gets a job, then so be it. Until then, no. She's 17, not the legal majority age of 18. You're responsible if anything goes wrong right now with it even if you let her. If something goes wrong and you sue the person who pierced it, a judge will still go off on you for allowing her to do it. You might win the suit, but you still would not be seen in the judge's good graces and you would not get full recovery for damages.
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Say "no", give her the reasons for your decision, and tell her she can get it done at age 18 when she is legally responsible for herself. Remember to inform her of the consequences if she tries to get it done w/o your permission. I do believe it is illegal to be pierced or tatooed without parental consent if you are a minor.
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make sure it is what she really wants..... make her read the side effects, and what could happen if it gets infected. she should know what diseases can come from it, then she should make a decision, if she still wants it, go with her, tell her that it is all on her, and be supportive
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Check to see if she will be able to wear the stud in school. The schools in my area make you take them out. She can always wait until she is 18, it is only a year away.
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Count ya lucky stars she doesn't want it splitting =) Let her have it done, if she regrets it she can just take it out and it'll close over.
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http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/615893 my opinon on this subject and many others started on this February. enjoy.
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If she wants one and knows of the possible health risks, then fine. Importantly, don't for one moment let any conservative, testicle-bashing notion of confident sexuality cloud your reasoning. As long as she knows what condoms are, that's her private life.
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Check out the internet for any horror stories about piercings, if there are any. I friend of mine was watching a girl get her tongue pierced at a reputable shop and they hit something. It started gushing blood and they had to take her to the hospital.
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There are too many negatives from tounge peircing.For her best interest, it would be good that she abort her intention.Tell her she is intelligent enough to understand that taking such risk is unwise.Give her other alternatives such as do a hair job or facial massage with trendy cosmetics for her birthday.Wish her a Happy Birthday.
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You could have her go to the dentist and have them show her the detrimental effects the piercing may cause. I am sure they have photos. Plus, there have been studies showing that a bacteria can form that cause complications with the heart. These complications can be similar to the ones caused by periodontal disease. People tend to be unaware that the health of your mouth is important to the health of your heart. She wants to do something exciting and different-try to think of something that you do approve of and steer her that way. After that, she may still do it with out your permission, so prepare yourself for that.
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Shes too young to be advertising that she gives head.
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Tell her not this year- ask her if she'd rather have her ears pierced again, or this month you'll pay for her gas or car insurance (if you don't already), something that's worth her waiting. Lie and tell her that in your state, you cannot get pierced under 18 even with adult consent (I'm pretty sure this is actually true in a lot of states, so you might luck out). Tell her, yes, the piercing will close if she takes it out, but that doesn't make the potential side effects an less permanent. Tell her that if she still wants it next year, maybe. (this is what my mom always said about the stupid tattoo ideas I had when I was 10, and of course I'd completely forget two weeks later. She's presumably smarter than that, but hey, in a year, who knows?)
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would you rather consent and get it done right or protest and have her get it done by some guy in a van? cuz thats whats gonna happen. look at it like this its a piercing its not a tattoo it can be taken out if she does not like it and if she has her ears pierced whats the big difference?
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Well, be honest. You dont like the idea of it, but she is seventeen... you can only stop her for so long. She's old enough to make this decision and maybe thats something you need to consider. My parents weren't happy with me getting a tattoo, but my mum still came with me when I got it done (i'm not gonna lie, i'm a wuss) and held my hand because it was my body and my choice. She may be seventeen, but does that really matter? She's probably gonna be just as mature when she's 18 as she is now. And then she'll probably get it done anyway. Also if its getting done for her birthday hopefully u had some control in where its done, hopefully a clean place with a good reputation.
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My kids and I made a deal. When they left for college I would approve of anything they wanted to do, buy they had to wait until then. This was my way of getting them to wait another year and think about their choices. They agreed and we all got what we wanted.
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Go ahead and get it done. It really isn't a big deal and unlike a tattoo it isn't permanent. She can take it out, the hole will grow over, no harm done. I had my tongue piereced when I was 21 and to be honest with you, I have met more people that dislike it than like it. She will grow old with it quickly and that phase will pass.
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don't do it. if she wants to she can do it when she's old enough, but i don't give in to stuff i'm being nagged about.
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Go to google images and type in tongue piercing infection and show her the icky photos. Eeewww!
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Hmmm...well If your answer is a firm no what else can you tell them but no! I can say that she is 17, only one more year to 18. If she was 15 I would say no. It is kind of in and she will eventually get one done anyway. It is nice to show that you have some trust in them and that you can let them get a piercing or a tatoo as long as they don't go over board. I think there are worse things that she could be doing like drugs etc. If she is usually a good girl why not?? As they get older it is sometimes good to let them make some decisions for themselves even though you may not agree. They don't rebell as much if you give a little bit of freedom a little bit at a time!!!
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Ask her if she wants a rod and two balls in her mouth ALL THE TIME.
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Do you permit her to perform fellatio? That is the main advantage and allure of having a tounge piercing
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It's great that she asks you and doesn't just do it behind your back. I think all the comments above are great ... she needs to see all of them and then see if she feels the same.
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http://www.drdeneka.com/pages/patient_library/piercing.htm I couldn't find the article I read a while back, but I found a link to a dentist's site that basically gives the same info. http://www.cda-adc.ca/jcda/vol-64/issue-11/803.html http://www.ada.org/prof/resources/positions/statements/piercing.asp http://www.nhvweb.net/NHHS/tongue%20piercing.htm
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I personally would say "NO". If a place does it without your consent, BIG TROUBLE FOR THEM!! My opinion is as long as your child is living in your house, if you don't agree with it, don't allow it. When my son was about 15, he asked to get his tongue pierced, I said NO, so he asked to have his ear pierced, I said NO......he said "can I dye my hair blue?"........I said OKAY and helped him do it. It was summer in the south and it quickly turned green and he had it all cut off.
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say no, but tell her she can get her ear or nose pierced. give her the option to get something else pierced so she feels like she has control of her body. if she still is asking and telling you she will anyway, tel her that if she does she has to pay for the dentist for the rest of her life because the stud will remove the natural enamel on her teeth. and one more thing, dose she know that a tongue piecing is not only for look but for enhancing oral sex. guys will think that she is easy. my friend regrets getting hers pierced for that and you can still see the hole if you take it out.
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Let her do what she wants. It's her body in the end. If she gets sick of it, all she has to do is remove it and the piercing will close on its own.
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offer to get her nipples, belly button and lower regions pierced too. Along with some tattoos. But it has to be all or nothing
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My mom paid for me to get my first tattoo at 17! Just think of it this way a tongue piercing is not permanent and can always be taken out at a later date! Because my mom didn't allow me to get any more piercings after I had my belly button done for the second time I went crazy when I turned 18 I got my tongue and my nipples and my belly button done 2 more times!!! So I think that a piercing that can be taken out later is a small thing that will mean a lot to your child!!!!
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As you are the adult in this relationship looking out for your daughter's best interests, she should consider your feelings on the matter & why you have reservations about getting this done. Out of love for her you are reluctant to pay for something that you may both regret. I understand that. As a parent I wouldn't like to pay for someone to inflict harm on my child no matter how they tried to convince me otherwise. I actually think there are some risks involved with it. Some will likely tell you there isn't. Commonsense will help you work out what you should think. Teenagers can think it is the most important thing in the world to have & that they need it to find friends/be popular/etc. Maybe wating until she is an adult might make a difference to her decision & maybe it won't. Tell her how you feel about her. No doubt you love her. Maybe when she realises how you feel she may wait awhile.
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i always heard my house my rules....she can do it in her own house lol
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Wouldn't you rather her do it with you and with your permission than behind your back. Alot can go wrong if she does it and hides it from you. Better safe than SORRY!!
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Tell her she can when she is paying her own dental expenses.
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Just let her get the piercing. Her boyfriend will thank you, they are good for oral stimulation.
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Ask yourself if it's rational to not want her to do it. You might realize that it isn't a big deal and that you should just give her the freedom to do it.
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Tounge piercings are not good for you because they can cause massive infection and if the person doing it makes a mistake and cuts your vein, you're in big trouble.
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You should tell her that if she wants her tongue pierced she can pay for it herself and that you will not pay for it because you do not approve of it. Just because it is her birthday does not mean you have to pay (and sign) for her to do something you don't want her to do. This means she probably won't be able to get it done since she is not turning 18 and will not have a guardians permission. If after a year she still would like the piercing, she will be able to. You should never compromise your values.
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Ask her about why she wants to do it and discuss her reasons and yours in a mature manner. Chances are that she wants to do this to feel more adult. By talking to her about it and respecting each others opinions, she may feel like she is getting the grown-up attention she desires and might not feel the need for the piercing after all. If she still does, also ask her if she knows the procedure and the risks involved. This might affect her decision as well.
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OH...thith ith not goot at all!! Tell her that thshe will thound like thith when thshe talkth and thshe might gag wonth in awhile. It'th really hard to thalk with theeth thingth.
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Show her from your view why you don't agree with her. She seems old enough to make choices for herself, but remind her that it is painful, and cannot be reversed. It might also affect her boyfriend, and possibly her job.
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If you are against it, don't pay for it. Let her know she is perfect just as she is, and self-mutilation will surely not be an improvement!
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