Whether he means to or not, he is playing games with your heart. If he's this confused, he needs to be in NO relationship and get his head straight. You have no obligation to wait it out if he does. I wouldn't recommend taking him back now. You'd be asking for more pain down the road. Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat is as well.

If that is so true then he would've been with you. My ex said the same and I had to make up his mind for him. Yo should not put your life on hold for someone who does not know what they want. Until he knows for sure himself he will be no good to you anyway. Right now the best thing for him is to find out who he is and what he wants and to take a break from all relationships. He obviously does not respect you or his girlfriend too much if he is doing this to both of you all. Is that really the kind of relationship you want? Look at the future and just not a wuick fix for the present.

can't have your cake and eat it too? what? mr mr wants to have you both. he might need some relationship counseling or something. do i detect polygamy? he needs to figure out what he wants and try not to drag you or his s/o into a bunch of drama. all 3 of you will be better off in the long run. there is such a thing as friendship! ...and believe it or not; it's not so bad. perhaps he should try that.

You should move forward with your life and forget about him. Once he's done playing mind games and figures out what he wants, you won't be there. He doesn't need you to help him figure out his life. He is telling the other girl, she is the best gf he's had, etc. You are better than that and you deserve so much more. Find someone else who's less "confused" about things and knows what he wants.

I've been through this. If he he says he wants to be with you then he has no reason not too. My ex told me she was confused and needed time, turns out she needed time with him instead of me. She told me that she would either choose me or be single, yet she chose him. She dragged me through, over and under for three weeks before crushing me. He's playing games with both of you. Trust me, end it with him before you get dragged like I did. He'll contact you if it's you he wants, and by then, you might not even want him back.

Maybe he says this so that he can still have sex with you..what do you think? I think he's talking through both sides of his mouth..actions speak louder than words..if you're the best, then why is he with her? :)

He isn't after a one true person relationship. He's using you both, I'm sorry. Forget about him as there is no going backwards. He wouldn't have tried moving on if he knew his mind or still loved you, it would have been too painful. But he has moved on. Let him go. Find someone who wants a permanent relationship with you and respects you fully.

im going thru the same exact thing rite now. I was a junior and he was a senior and we begin dating in the end of the year. He liked me and we started dating. i then came to find out that he had a one year old son with a girl who graduated a year before. i though i was up to the challenge and i was. But mr. wasnt. the whole time, he's making plans for us, taking me to his church, crying to me, telling me he loves me, and even wanted to have kids with me. Well one night i had a feeling he wasnt doing right and i was right. the truth came out and he was messing around w/ baby mama the whole time. We broke up and he claim he would be by himself. the nextday guess who car i see at his house. Anyway they are together and supposedly she is twom months pregnant again! meaning she concieved while we were together. he calls me everyday like he's my man and tells me he loves me, and want to marry me but he's confused. I love him so much and really wants to believe him but i've heard it all before. Besides, if he wanted me, he would have been with me, but he chose her. It's all mind games sweety. the man you're in love with is full of shit and you just have to admit it. i know is hard cuz its hard for me, but hey thats life. do your best in just winging him off. im in the process of that. sooner or later guys gon be jocking u and and you'll forget about that loser. in your heart u may still hope, but put that hope in the back. if its meant to be, yall will be, but for now u have to let him go!

girl... if I had a dollar for every time I heard "You have been the best girlfriend, better than her, I love you more" I'd be rich, he probably wants both but doesn't have the guts to say to your face his REALS intentions, it's better if you make him choose or just walk away... because if he really loved you and was sure of his feelings/intentions he wouldn't be confused in the first place

Yep...my dear boyfriend just did the same thing ... but I'm probably a little older than you. Still hurts the same tho. He was avioding me yesterday - and then finally called and said he ran into an old friend that he realizes that he still has unresolved feelings - CLICK. If he loved me his feelings would be right there with me. No need for anything futher to be said and I didn't care to hear about it. I deserve the best - which he is not capable of giving. And those two deserve each other. He is fixated on her because he couldn't conquer her - and she wants him back to prove that she can get him. If I am wrong and they end up with a wonderful relationship, then more power to them both! I would be happy - but I do truly doubt in the end they will be. End all contact with him...you will be for the better - and we WILL get over it!

Men should always be judged by their actions (going back to his ex) and not by their words.

"Confused"--about WHAT? "Best girlfriend"--as far as WHAT? If you ARE the "BEST GIRLFRIEND..."--then there should be NO confusion!!! Are you willing to be PLAYED any further? If so, then hang on. Otherwise, keep it moving!!!

i wouldn't wait around for him....they all use that line so they have a rebound incase things don't work out again....

Do our exes know each other? No lie, this is exactly what happened to me! I stopped believing the things he said soon after and distrusted anything he'd said before. It sucks that we can hardly talk to each other now but honestly, I'm pretty sure we can both get over it. You're boyfriend would have chosen you if you deeply mattered on that level. There shouldn't be any confusion. I'm sorry about your break up. Hope things turn out ok for you.

Wow sweety the same exact thing happened to me but kinda worse at the end. Trust me it might be true but you dont wanna be with someone that still loves somebody else but saids he loves a lil bit more. I got back with the guy that did the same thing to me and im not happy anymore, i loved him soooo much he was my world my life and he did that to me with his ex when we broke up for 3 months. My heart is destroyed because of him, its not worth it getting back together, its been 2 months since weve been back together and i can already feel that a break up is coming soon from my part, he saids he loves me, and he wants to marry me and he cared for her but the love for me is completly different its stronger. And i wish he could understand that in my eyes if he loved me soo much he wouldnt have publicly humiliated me with his ex infront of all our friends and his family. Pictures on myspace and her going to see him, oh btw i was still seeing him when we broke up and he was fucking her =) so dont feel bad things could be worse but im giving you a heads up so u dont make the same mistake i did. Good luck. Dont take him back, itll never work as long as shes in the picture and she will be unless she died. lol

I bet he was saying the same to her while he was with you. Way to have his cake and eat it. Believe his actions, not his words. Sounds like he's trying to keep her and have you too.

MOVE ON HE WANTS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS AND YOUR LETTING HIM.

Simple, call me =)....ill make you feel better lol

I'm a senior in high school && so is my ex boyfriend. he broke up with me for the girl that he's with now && he's been with her for about nine months. the whole entire nine months my ex && I have been messing around && he tells me he loves me but he loves his girlfriend too. I have to see them at school together && kissing && holding hands && shit && as much as I try to make it seem like it's all cool it really hurts me. I really live this boy he's the only boy I ever put time into. he gets mad if he hears me talking to other guys or if other guys try to talk to me. && all of his friends know && some if his family know that we still mess around. they tell me like don't leave him alone he really lives yu && my own friends tell me not to stop talking to him because I should fight for what I want because I never know what's going to happen. I completely understand that but there us only so much I can take. if he cared for me then he wouldn't be with her in the first place && he wouldn't have left me. he tells my best friend how he likes what he can do with his current girlfriend like spend the night over her house whenever he wants && her parents && her mom love him && how I can't do this or that && how my family doesn't like him. idk what to do about it anymore. after almost a year it's just so tiring. I'll tell him I'm done with him && he'll tell me the same but somehow we always end up talking again && having feelings for each other. I know this isn't love but yet I have no idea what love is. I'm just a kid. I feel like the girl is kinda stupid for getting with him two days after we broke up && she knows he's cheating on her.. but then again yu can call me stupid for sitting here && waiting on a boy && waiting for something to happen when it doesn't seem likely. && knowing that he has a girlfriend && seeing them together all the time. so I guess my stupidity beats out hers huh ? smh I really need some help && advice in this situation. PLZ !

If he thought you were better he'd still be with you. Make this easy. Easy for you and easy for him leave him and never look back.