Get him to finger your G spot. But make sure he gets his orgasm first. Because watching you cum in a huge way will turn him on, but you wouldn't want him in you for some time. Also, has your orgasm problem started recently or has it always been there?

You have to find a lover who knows what they are doing is patient enough and cares enough to do it for you.

Try different ways to stimulate. Like instead of rubbing, try tapping the clit . . . wet and semi-dry to dry. Use various speeds (and I know dry sounds bad . . . but just try it (more than once!!) and I bet you'll be surprised:). Use something cold/cool instead of warm all the time. Like a toy. Even just the side of a clean water bottle gliding across vertically or a dildo. Not inside you, just play with your clit . . . like teasing you as it circles around in and out of your labias. Experiment with yourself to see what you like and then when you do find a technique, share it with them. Try different positions (instead of on the bed laying back, try laying over the back of a couch with your legs up as he stands/kneels behind the couch to reach you . . . I know it sounds odd but I heard that one from a sex expert:). Maybe watch some porn?? Have that on in the background so you can get that extra boost to get you going. Then I bet what he does would feel good!! :) Also, if these don't work . . . it could very well be a medical issue. Taking any medicines? It could be a side effect . . . easily. MANY medicines have this negative. No meds? Something else then b/c to not feel good down there when you want to . . . there is something wrong with that :( Talk with your doctor. If you're not comfortable being that open with your current one, see a new one for this problem. But remember that they can't help you if they don't know what's wrong. It took me awhile to talk with mine but I needed to b/c I couldn't . . . as in tried but couldn't orgasm either. And I'm 22. Stupid medicine *shakes fist :p* Now I'm on a different one and it's okay so far. There are drugs out there (prescription) that can help you also. Maybe try some Horny Goat Weed. It's not pot :p haha it's a safe herb that increases libido and intensity for both men and women. You can get it at any health store or GNC might carry it, too. Okay I better stop here :p Hahaha hope one of these works!! :)

I am a 47 year old guy and it seems to me that you are just with the wrong kind of guys. Perhaps you need more stimulation. Perhaps you would prefer the BDSM lifestyle or maybe you just need a man who is familiar with female anatomy?