Single mom of three, unexpectedly pregnant with #4???
I am a single mom of 3 boys(13, 7, 2). I left their abusive father almost 2 years ago after being with him since age 13. I am 29 now. I havent dated much or introduced them to any romantic interests since then. Now I am accidently pregnant with my boyfriend of 1 month, and he wants to keep the baby and be a family. Is this a bad idea, or possibly meant to be? We are both financially stable and have a great connection, however it seems insane to consider this because of the changes my children will face. They have experienced alot of trauma due to their father and he is no longer in the picture because of the safety issues. Any non judgmental advice is so greatly appreciated!
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i would keep the baby, they can be awful cute, wish i had one at nny place
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Do you have any family or support group? I think you really need to follow your beliefs and reach out for support. Good luck.
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Unfortunately the chances of your boyfriend's plan working out in a good way, especially for you are about 1 in 50. If he wanted to get married that might be a little better but after being with him for only a month the chances of that being successful in the long run are extremely bad. The affect on your kids to go through with the pregnancy then putting the baby up for adoption would look like you were abandoning the child. I would only suggest abortion in a last resort situation but, right now, that's you. For the sake of your kids I would end this pregnancy before it becomes obvious that you are pregnant.
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You need to reach out for stable support in the real world. Trust in yourself to make the right decision for you and your family. All the best.
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That's probably something you should have considered before you had sex with the guy. Getting pregnant is always a possibility when you put Tab A into Slot B.
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You need to keep your legs closed and stop screwing welfare.
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Linda Joy Who said she was on welfare? She said they were both financially stable. -
Wakko I wonder where she takes the kids for heatlthcare. My guess is some program such as CHIP. That's welfare.
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You don't get 'accidentally pregnant' at 29 after having 3 kids. By now you know what causes them and how to prevent it. Unless, of course the condom broke or your tubes were tied and it miraculously happened anyway. This is a CHOICE you made by CHOOSING to have unprotected sex. And your children will pay the price for you and your boyfriend's selfishness. I hope they learn to be more responsible than you are when they grow up after seeing the damage it can do. However, I'm sure if it doesn't work out (and I agree with Joe that it most likely won't) There are plenty of couples out there who are not able to have children that would love to have one to love and care for. Don't make yet another mistake and murder the poor child!
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