It is not what would you do, it is why haven't you gone to the police already. If you firmly believe that your daughter has had this happen to her then why are you waiting and asking us for....go to the police. That is your first port of call. Always.

Go straight to the police with a lawyer I hate not being able to rate you yet - Because I can everybody else that I couldn't yesterday - I think something is wrong

Of COURSE the answer is to go to the police ASAP!!! If that does not get you satisfaction, and your sure you know who did it, I know of a really deep spot in a lake. And I can find a heavy concrete block. Only if you need it of COURSE!!! Get your daughter help right away.

If you've already seen the police and a doctor about the rape, I think the next step would be to take your daughter to counselling. She has been through a great deal of trauma and will require the support of a trained professional. Despite not talking, your daughter may find other ways to express herself through play and drawing therapy with the counsellor. This also gives her a place away from home to feel comfortable in. She may be uncomfortable about staying in the house given the neighbour is just next door, so it could be an idea to take her to stay somewhere else. Alternatively, the home may be a comfort to her as it is familiar and it might be best to leave well enough alone. Ask her about it (staying at home) and see if you can get a reaction. She needs to be as comfortable and in as stress-free an environment as possible, where she feels, most importantly, safe. Once she is convinced she is safe, it might be easier to talk to her about what happened. Tell her you aren't angry at her and you won't get mad about what she has to say. Above all, be patient.

I know what I'm supposed to do, but the chances of the police getting him before I would are pretty slim. In all honesty, I think I'd do something stupid.

In all honesty I;d kill em. F*ck police, my little girl has been raped I think I would rip his head off. I'm sorry it is not right or ethical. I don't care. No one hurts my baby

If someone did that to my daughter, I would hope that I would involve the proper authorities. But, my gut instinct tells me I would go vigilante on his butt... tell the boys to take him out to the cow pasture (way out), strip him down, tie him to a tree, pour honey down his front side and let the cows finish him off. While they do that, I'd tend to the emotional ramifications my daughter

I know a lot of gut instincts are to seek revenge. I've thought of this question before, having children you do tend to consider such things. I've asked other people and most of them have said 'I'd kill him' or 'I'd get someone else to kill him'. If I killed him or got someone else to do so I stand a good chance of being imprisoned. If I am imprisoned who would take care of my already traumatised child? Who would take care of my soul? I think it would only give me momentary satisfaction and would be at least as damaging again to my daughter. Regardless of my gut instincts I would go to the police. If the police did nothing I would move. Ensuring my child has enough support is a priority. I don't particularly care if anyone thinks moving would be a cowardly option. I only care that my children are protected in this situation.

The only thing stopping me from ripping his testicles off with my bare hands and making him choke to death slowly on them would be knowing that I would then go to prison and be leaving my daughter behind. I can honestly say it would possibly be the hardest thing I would ever have to resist not killing the f*ck. Secondary to that, if that person wasn't locked in the deepest nastiest hole on this earth within the next 10 seconds of me finding out what he did, then there would be hell to pay. Even the idea of something like that happening makes me incredibly damn angry. It happened to the daughter of a friend of mine. She wasn't 8 though. She was 12. And that poor girl is still trying to deal with what happened less than 4 years later. I had to restrain her father from attacking the filth on sight, and I had half a mind to dive in myself anyways. The sort of people that would do something like that honest to god make me physically sick. Even thinking about something like that happening makes me so, so incredibly angry. The man that did that to my friends daughter was killed in prison. Seems that even the other criminals couldn't stand someone that truly disgusting. I can't say that I cared in the slightest when I found out.

I would be calling my brothers for bail money. Because by the time the police got there he would be lucky if he was only going to the hospital!

Once again, someone (I presume the same person) has negged me -2 on the question itself. NOT ON. This is a fair question in the Ethics category.

kill him slowly.

If you are convinced HE is the one, your first step is to take your daughter to her pediatrician and see if there are signs of trauma, and make sure they check her for STD's etc. If there is proof of trauma, then I would go immediately to the police or DA and charge him. The MOST imortant thing to remember, is kids feel guilty and like its their fault, so she MUST see a therapist ASAP to help her through this, as she will isolate herself from everyone including family.

I am really hoping and praying that your family is not going thru this terrible tragedy right now, Sing! In this situation, I would hope that I had the restraint to allow the police to handle it. I definitely do not want to be sent away at a time when my daughter needs me more than at any other time in her life. But, gut instinct, I hope my family is with me continually until this idiot-pervert is arrested. If not, I would probably do something that would take me away from my daughter.

I'd find a group of big, nasty, mean and crazy gay men (don't know where, I just would). I would pay them a lot of dough (cash up front) and have them rape him. Preferably with the wife watching, though she gets out unharmed. Afterwards, when the gang was done, I'd go over there and beat the ever loving shit out of him with a wooden baseball bat. Then probably cut off his balls and make him eat them. In all honesty, I'd probably just beat the sick fuck to within an inch of his life. But if the opportunity arose to have HIM raped, then I would take it. Rapists have no place in this world. Rapists who rape underage girls deserve to rot and be raped in prison for the rest of their lives.

I would come up with a plan to kill him. And I'd get caught.

I'd kill, skin, and dismember him....and if I'm feeling generous it'll be in that order.

My gut instinct is to kill him and throw his body into a pig pen. *waits* ... ............. ..................... .............................Yeah. It's not passing. That's what I'd do.

I would casterate him with a dull rusty knife.

I would have to kill the neighbor :)

I'm sharing this with you because I remember this case from quite some time ago. I watched it with my husband and he informed me that if something like that ever happened to either of our children, I would have to visit him in prison because he would do the same thing. The jury gave him 5 years probation! Click on this link if the video doesn't show: http://www.sikvid.com/vids/2479.html

I'm quite sure I would want to go vigilante, maim and kill the &*#(@! but my child would need me so I would ensure his prison mates knew full well of his crime and let the "system" take care of this repulsive low life piece of garbage, the prison-way.

First let the law take a rape test and match DNA on him. Then get him in your own time.

confront the situation she is crying out for help! she needs her mother more than ever and the mother should stand up to the situation .. if not it can happend again please do something let her know she has someone to care for her, let her know she's not alone and most of all let her know that that is not right and something can be done to avoid this happening to anyone or her again.

confront the situation she is crying out for help! she needs her mother more than ever and the mother should stand up to the situation .. if not it can happend again please do something let her know she has someone to care for her, let her know she's not alone and most of all let her know that that is not right and something can be done to avoid this happening to anyone or her again.

Well, what you don't do is talk about it on AB. I hope this is not a REAL question.

Speak with the police. This is not a situation I could handle on my own nor should it be.

im hoping that law enforcement is already involved

Well I hope the police have been called, and give them all the information youve had on it. But for home life, the best thing you can do is try and make your daughter happy and reassure her your not mad. Usually children who have things happen to them blame themselves for what happened and think their parents are mad at them. Try and ease her mind about that. Try and keep her active though cuz a childs mind will sink the more they become inactive. Just say lots of I love yous, and try to explain what happened wasnt her fault and sometimes people do things becuase they are sick and need lots of help and punishement. Think about what creates joy, not happiness in a childs heart...and try to make it happen.

i'd defer the matter to mr. smith and mr. wesson.

Frontier justice. Right away.

Probably call the police from his front lawn with a hatchet in my hand, see if I can't bait him into trying something that would justify hacking his skull into many many pieces. Toss it over into my own yard when they got there of course.

Well listen there for a minute, unlike most good people calling the cops, I would capture him in my cargo van with the help of my brother for example. Drive the dude to a hangar outside the city about 40 miles west, tie him down naked to a chair with hands tied forward, stuff a rag down his throat and duct tape it, open my tool box and start a long and painful work session on him avoiding vital organs. You don;t wanna hear the rest of it, believe me! :)

The answer is in the question. "You are quite sure" you say which also means your not sure. I'm quite sure of a lot of things but you need to be certain. You handle your daughter and let the police do their job. If that comes to nothing and you want to progress it further, hire a PI. Your daughter would probably want you around instead of behind bars for dealing with a scum rapist. When he does get put away, just think to yourself, how many times will he need to pick up the soap in the showers.

I'm thinking of a BDSM crucifixion 'gone wrong'. That way it would look like an accident.

If I actually had children I would not answer because this stuff is archived and I could possibly be traced. Since I am 'fixed' i can answer. If I could prove it within an absolute certainty I would not kill the neighbor but I would injure him in such a way that he suffers for the rest of his days. Renal failure, liver failure, missing limbs, colon cancer, lung problems etc. Chemicals are wonderful.

cut the neigbours hands off until he tells the truth

turn him in to the police

Call the police and get her into therapy immediately.

Wouldn't be the first hole I dug.

Go shoot him!

Try to convince myself to remain calm. Getting upset will upset her even more. Reassure her its not her fault. Hug her to show her I still love her and that she's not dirty or ugly or unlovable because of what happened to her. I'd call my bishop to get a blessing for her (and me), call the authorities, get her examined and photographed make appointments for therapy.

you tell the police about it