My mom dates mainly black men and shes white. I always get embrassed because my skin looks a little hispanic and some think im mixed. Is that normal to be embrassed by her choices?
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I just wonder what is so embarrassing? Is it the color of the skin only? Is it that she dates dorky guys? Are you embarrassed that you don't look like you match? I would say, that if these guys are good to your mom, and don't do anything wrong, I would say it's fairly not normal, but it does happen. It sounds like racism from the way your question was worded.
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it can be embarrising I suppose... She likes they way they treat her & the sex... IF you have questions about you being white & another culture talk to your Mom about your Dad (ASSUMING you don't know anything about him) ALWAYS question your mom about her choices to keep her safe...
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You don't state your age in your question...but I would guess teenage...not sure but just guessing...and YES it is normal to feel the way you do...but not just about her choice in men...but probably her choice of music, clothes, food at a resteraunt etc. Once you get some more years on you..and life experiences..you'll understand her choices better. YOu may NEVER agree with them..but you will understand them and respect them more. Good luck to you...and like the others that answered...it doesn't hurt to ask your mom about it....the more open you are with her..the better off you'll both be! Take care!
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I thought you had a step-father who doesn't think you are his. Why is your mom dating? I thought she was married.
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I would feel insulted too. I'm proud of my race, and although I don't think of other races as lesser, I would not want to be confused for another race. I'm hispanic, and I'm proud of it.
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It is normall human nature to have mixed feelings towards things that may seem different. It is up to us to overcome these fellings because all of us are different in our own ways. As to your question, yes, it is normall to be "embarrased" by her choices. You may feel that others will judge you because of her choices. Just remember, true friends, as well as men and women, will not care of your or your moms choices as long as they are legal, moral, and honest.
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being embarrassed by your parents is totally normal for a tween and teen...and sometimes even when you are an adult.
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Nevets and Sciencegeek: I am proud of my race. I like the way I look, and I can trace my ancestry to Moctezuma. Going back to your opinion that the word I used is invalid, the word race is actually being argued over by a large number of scientists and educated persons worldwide, some claiming the word to be superfluous and other claiming that it has a valid definition. I suggest that we are merely on opposite sides of that argument. For you to be running around posting your opinion as a fact about this word everytime someone breathes it on this site is both irritating and blind to the rights that others have to their opinions. Added to that, a word is defined in a large part by its usage, and I'm sure that everyone understood what I was saying in my comment. I am not racist, I spent my entire time in college on a committee that worked to prevent discrimination and reverse discrimination for college applicants. For you to assume so is insulting.
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Hey I have light skin to! Its cool you should embrace it. I am black/pourtirican.
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You are YOU and you are important. Genetic background's got nothing to do with the person you are. Perhaps you should feel grateful because if we were all conceived from a mix of genetic backgrounds there would be no racism.
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Hey girl, Dont be embarrased. Be proud of you what you look like. If people make incorrect assumptions just politely correct them and then go about your day!
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It may be better if you tell your mom that you feel uncomfortable about it. It'll help her make a different choice next time.
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I think that only thing you should be concerened with is how they treat your mother...I don't really get why it embrasses you. It's not like she dating animals...black people are part of the human race. It's a big world out there don't be so closed minded.
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But wait why would being mixed embarass you? ... :@ that is nothing to be embarassed about. That comment actually hurt.
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It's normal to be uncomfortable about people mistaking you for his daughter. I am not comfortable when people think my mom's boyfriend is mine, because he certainly isn't. However, I find it a little strange that you're bothered by the skin thing. Your skin is your skin. Be alright with it. I'm heavily mixed and I think it turned out pretty nicely. It's not an insult to be mistaken for another race. I get mistaken for hispanic frequently and I have no latin background at all.
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Might it be that he may not represent the best of black American male culture and you're just thrown off by the fact that he's black? If he were a decent black man, would you feel this way?
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I am white and my husband is black. I have two white sons from a previous marriage... he has two black sons from previous marriage. You should see the six of us walking through the mall or eating out at a restaraunt! (And we live in the South!) You can sense the confusion on peoples faces, but we are not embarrassed b/c we all love one another equally. My sons are not embarrased of me for them having a black stepdad, and visa versa... The main thing to remember is that we are all made in God's image, and He is a colorful Creator indeed. Hold your head high, never feel embarrassed by the color of your skin and always remember that the beauty inside you is what really counts in this life. Don't let anyone elses small mind influence your perception of of your WORTH. And to put it more simply... shake them haters off!! Stop caring so much about what other people may think of you or your mom's dating situation. Just be you.
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Just go with the flow. If it does it for her then its ok. It is normal to be embarrassed but you shouldnt be if you know what i mean. But isnt that what moms are for? :P
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Yes, it is normal to be embarrassed by things your parents do. The important thing is what you choose to do about it. I highly recommend that you leave it alone and let your mother make her own decisions.
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Yes kids get embrassed by what their parents do, but guess what there is nothing wrong with who she dates because of them being black.
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She is your mother..it is one of her most important jobs to embarrass her children...
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don't worry man. scientists say that in the near future we will all have medium dark hair, eyes and complexion. its just evolution. race mixing is highly misunderstood. race is highly misunderstood. race is only a RECOGNIZABLE difference in skin color. more accurately, my mom and dad were both white, but their ancestries are from two very different parts of the world. while it doesn't sound like race mixing, biologically it is the same thing.+3
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It's normal for kids to be embarrassed by their parents. I'd hope you have the self confidence and respect for your mother to not cause issues for her, however, if she does find a suitable partner no matter what his race may be. In the big picture, that's not something that matters at all.
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It's a parent's job to embarrass their children...one way or another, at one time or another, all children are embarrassed by their parents.
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yep toatly my mom is white fucked a black dude i born he left she got married 2 a white guy now (im not raciast) and now my last name is white and every1 asks are u adopted so in my opinion yea but ull get over it
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Your being embarrased about her choices is a product of who you are now as a person. If you see only a black man, then you might have some issues. If, however, you see only your mother's happiness, then you've reached another level.
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well all be mixed eventually. maybe well all be one race someday.
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I'm sorry to tell you this, but that comment is highly racist. Who cares if you are mixed or not of if your mom dates black or white or asian men? it's her life and her happiness. It's not like she dates drunks or abusers, that would be a problem and you would have every right to be concerned.
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As many times as I have said this and as many times as it has completely pissed people off... I'll say it again. Mixed people are beautiful! Mixed babies are beautiful! Nothing is "wrong" unless you feel it is wrong and as long as you have the balls to deal with the consequences, you can feel whatever way you want to about anything.
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I think it's more embarrassing to be an insecure, racist douche than the choices of others. Your mother's choices are HERS. Your skin is going to look the same regardless. If she dated white men, some might conclude that you are mixed anyway. Your hangup is with yourself and being preoccupied what others think of you.
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She likes big d*cks!
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It might be normal but why get embarrassed? We are all the same under the skin. I am white and my wife is black. I don't even see color.
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It is totally normal to find your mother embarrasing. My mother has been married to my father for 50 years and I still pretend we aren't together in public. But your issue shouldn't be about the color of her friends skin.Its her life. Why are you so concerned? Why does your mother's black boyfriend affect your life?
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Well, not really. You should be proud of who you are and not care what other people think about such things.
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