So my boyfriend and I (gay males) were talking about getting married, and when we got to the ring part we realized people would assume we were married to women. I thought putting them on a necklace would work, cause its closer to the heart. Ur thoughts?
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As long as the two of you are happy with it, go for it
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I think that's a really cute, romantic idea.
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I think that's a pretty cool idea.
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That is an awesome idea, but why would you care if they assume that you are married to a girl, the only people that you worry about is your family and friends, and they will already know.
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Anything you feel would show your togetherness.
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Just wear them on your fingers if you want to. The people who matter will know who you're married to.
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wear womens rings in your size
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The necklace idea is a good one, makes sense. Good luck with the marriage.
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omg tht is a great idea! & to make sure ppl dnt think ur married 2 women u can always hav them engraved w/ sumthin special.
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They think you're married to a girl. So? Doesn't matter. I say just do the normal ring thing. It's a traditional part of marriage.
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There are some great rainbow /sterling bands on amazon(I think). Not gaudy rainbow, but just enough so anyone familiar with the colors would know. Congrats to you.
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I think it shouldn't matter what other people think. If they just assume you are married to women then they aren't that close to you, are they? And if you wear it on a necklace, it might be hidden under your clothes so then NO ONE will know you are married. I think maybe if you got matching rings, and wore them on your left hand, if you were together you could just show the people, or if you aren't together, and someone asks, just tell them the truth. I know you aren't afraid :)
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Wear them on the wedding ring finger. Here is a great business opportunity, though. Design wedding rings for gay couples that somehow convey that the wearer is part of a gay couple. I can think of a couple of designs. Is some entrepreneur looking for an idea?
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Congratulations!My thoughts are that you shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone :)
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What does it matter what other people think?
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why does it matter? if i were getting married i would just get a rainbow styled ring one of the previous ab ppl answered with. necklace idea isn't a bad idea either but it really doesn't matter what everyone else thinks of you unless you want everyone else to know.
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Well, it's your decision, of course. But, I know plenty of gay men who wear their rings on their fingers. A few wear them on their right hands, but most on their left. My partner and I wear ours on our left hands. Who cares if people assume you're married to women? You can either correct them, or just let them think whatever. You should wear them however you want.
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I think it shouldn't matter what people r going to think. But I love the necklace idea. Super sweet!!!
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why do you care what strangers think of your rings? the people who know you and the people who matter will know. rings on a necklace is cute but don't do it just cause you think people will assume you are heterosexual if you wear your ring on your finger. and if i remember correctly (heard this in a movie) the reason the ring is put on that specific finger is because a blood vessel that runs through that finger leads directly to the heart. i hope you two have a happy and blessed life together. :)
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Equal marriage rights should mean equality in tradition as well, to the best of your ability. Wear the rings on the ring finger and don't worry about what people think.
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Homosexuality is a sin, therefore, you are a sinner. Enjoy hell. Also, i think you should put the rings on your belts, closer to your asses because that is where you are getting pounded...cheers!
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That sounds ok, but so what if people assumed taht you were married to a woman. Don't worry about what other people think. I just think it might be easier to lose if it is on a chain around your neck.
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You should feel comfortable about the marriage and wear them on your fingers. Society has probably never been as ready as it is for same-sex marriages. There will always be people who don't like it. You only live one life. Live it for yourself and not for others. Good luck.
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you put them rings on wherever you want and don't worry about what someone else thinks or says about where they are placed, you love him and he loves you and that is all that matters.
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The wedding ring is just an outward symbol of your "taken-ness". It's the easiest way anyone can tell you're off-limits. In my opinion, it doesn't matter who or what you're taken by... just that you are, indeed, taken. Of course, if you feel more comfortable with the necklace, don't let anyone stop you! but if you're planning on wearing rings to show you're married, the necklace might nullify that silent notice.
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I think whatever you feel right with is ok.. and good luck whatever you do!!! im sure you will have a great future together xx
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Why worry about what people assume? I think if you put them on a chain, people would think the commitment was "less" than it really is. I know divorced women who wear their wedding rings in that manner to signify "divorced" status. When it comes down to it, your relationship is really only the business of the two of you. If you want to wear rings, fine. If you don't want to wear rings at all -- don't. It's the marriage/commitment that is important, not the trappings.
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I think it's a great idea!
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to my understanding the ring just sayes "I'm taken, don't hit on me", not who you are taken by. what does it matter if people make incorrect assumptions. BTW, thank you for identifying yourselves as gay, so often people put it in the subject and expect us to have looked there... I never check the topic.
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Wedding rings on chains generally signifies that the spouse had died, or is inabsentia. Who cares what people assume? You know what is said about people who "assume" something - the make an ass out of U and me....... Wear your rings on your fingers with love and pride.
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Screw what people assume. Do what feels right for you. And congratulations!
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A ring on your finger symbolises commitment to someone, not to a person of the opposite sex. It just means 'I'm taken and I'm proud of it'.
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What do you care what other people think? When I got married I didn't think, hey people are going to think I am straight and married to a guy, which I am, but it isn't anyone else's business anyway. Besides, I don't really like rings so I never wear mine anyway. Rings are just to symbolise your commitment, you could just as easily go out and get matching tattoos. Just do whatever it is that the two of you want to do, and congrats!
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cute.
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I don't think that people would assume you are gay just from wearing a ring on a necklace. But the being closer to your heart part is a really cute idea! :)
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Putting the ring on a necklace to be closer to the heart os a lovely idea. The reason people wear a ring on that particular finger in the first place is because you have a vein that runs directly from that finger to the heart. It is totally up to you, but I would say wear the ring properly, if people assume your married to a woman I assume they do not know you, and your life partner, so what does it matter what they think? Do what you feel comfortable with and good luck to you both xxx.
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I would wear the ring on my finger because I'm married, just like anyone else. Who cares what others think? If you don't want the ring on your finger don't get one at all, it's just a symbol and if the symbol isn't important to you, you can find another way to represent your committment.
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Does it matter that they think you are married to women? A ring is simply an announcement that you have found your life partner and are no longer "on the market". When I meet a married amn or woman, their ring doesn't announce which person they are married to, so I am little the wiser. The ring is not really as statement *about* a partner, it is a statement *to* a partner (I am happy to announce our status to the world) and a statement *to* the world *about* yourself (I am happily partnered - don't chat me up but do invite my partner to social events). None of that makes any statement about the gender of the partner.
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You obviously have gotten pretty much past any concern as to what others think insofar as your loving relationship, which I assume gives great reassurance and satisfaction to your partner. Don't allow this glitchy concern for the minor issue of the wearing of your rings interfere in that, or in any way lit it diminish yours or his sense of confidence. Wear your rings as both of you feel most confortable and enjoyable...but not for reasons as to how others think. Your marriage is between just you and your wonderful partner...and may it last happily forever. That's my wedding gift to you...and the dumbass AB points, of course. [Don't you go re-gifting, now! :-)]
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Why would you care one way or the other what strangers think? The point of the ring is commitment, isn't it? Who cares if others think you are committed to a relationship with a woman. What business is it of theirs anyway? Isn't that a private matter between the two of you? Happy New Year's Eve Day! :)
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gay marriage should be illegal everywhere.
MrJosh 
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