Do you drop friends if they become too much of a problem to you?
by 
Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 47
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Nope. Once you become a close friend of mine, you're a close friend for life ( with very few notable exceptions ). : )
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maybe not drop them, but limit the time i spend with them and balance it with more positive friends
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No, but it's been done to me.
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No, I would figure out what the problem is, face it with them and get on with life.
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I'd say: confront your friend with the problem. This may result in a fight, but if he/she really is your friend, you should be able to work it out together. If it's a kind of problem like: the friend is ill (in whatever way) and needs more attention... DO give them the attention required. I've been very ill for a long period of time and some friends just deserted me, and that really really hurts.
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if u can drop em because of a few problems they arent your friends
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I dont drop them, they seem to drop themselves.
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I only drop them if they stop behaving like friends and show no more interest in being friends.
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no.. i only drop friends if i see that they r not the ones i thought they were..when they pretend being good but in real they r very bad...
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No, I never drop friends. They are much too valuable.
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will..dont talk to them for about a week.then one going to talk to you.dats what it do.if your a teenager like meh.den thay will talk to you again. but for adults ders a 50 to 40 chance they will talk to you
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Yes. I am not a psychiatrist, nor a psychoanalyst, nor a priest. I have friends who are normal human beings. I was in a relationship with someone who was a compulsive gambler..that also means he was a compulsive liar. I did not know that when we became serious. When I found out I tried to help. You cannot help someone who is ill, whose illness is beyond your area of competence. It is a lost cause. Same thing with friends who go wacko on you, or weird out on you. Let the professionals deal with and help them. It is kinder to do than to waste their time with your inept attempt to help.
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No never maybe a little time apart after doing all I could but never dropped, A friend of mine recently did this to me and I was shocked and hurt I would never have imagined, I believe a friend is someone who you can talk to about everything all your troubles apparently she didn't
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If after trying to fix the problem, and it doesn't get resolved, then yes i would drop a friend. Some people just don't get it, and I want to surround myself with positive influence. There are fewer people who hold a positive influence than those who hold a negative influence. Also people who I want to be around, and not who I feel obligated to be around just because i know them. I only have a few good friends who I would ever tough it out with, and have for the last ten years. But those friends work right with me. can't help those who don't want to work with you.
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No. Yes I have lost the thread of friendships which were close over a period of time but never for this reason.
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No if we have developed a true friendship, I will distance myself from them so it is tolerable, but I will never drop them.
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i am a very loyal friend and i have stood by them when the going got really rough and all their other so-called friends bailed on them. but i will drop someone if they turn to the dark side ~ the ones who stop treating you like a friend ~ they become disrespectful or the friendship becomes a total one-way street with you doing all the giving and them all the taking. i dont need that kind of aggravation in my life and i dont like to hang around negative people who want to make you as miserable as they are. my true friends care about me and want me to be happy ~ and vice versa. but since that has rarely happened with my friends i would want to check that something else wasnt going really wrong in their lives to make them act badly. i realize sometimes people in pain alienate others as a defense mechanism. if that were the case id try to get them help. and if they apologized and their screwup wasnt really egregious and they wanted to be friends again the door is always open ~ all is forgiven.
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No I just charge them more... "Rent A Friend"
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I drop anyone if they become too much of a problem for me.
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I've only dropped one friend and that was because it was my ex and she lied to me and left me for someone else. Especially when she knew I always wanted the truth no matter what.
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I've only dropped one friend, and yes she was too big of a problem for me.
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I did one time. I had to. Our friendship became too twisted for me.
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Yes. I generally don't like to hang out with tons of people anyway. I'd rather have a few good friend that represent the kind of person I'd like to be. I have one friend that I know I will be pals with the rest of my life. I do end up "dropping" friends because of this. I'm cool pickin' up coffee or beer sometimes with old buddies, but I'm not going to spend lots of time trying to be best friends with everyone.
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No, when I become someone's friend I accept them for who they are, with their problems. If they are holding up their end of the friendship and want to be friends, then they have it.
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i dont mix with friends now as i have always seem to get ones that want what you have ,want your boyfriend or slag you off and act two faced and thats one thing i cant stand two faced people ,id rather someone say what ever is on their mind i respect people for that because thats the kind of person i am i wear my heart on my sleeve and would be there for my friends no matter what but i just seem to get the p*** taken out of me ,i dont bother with no one now only my sister she is my best friend and we are so close shes always there for me and if she has a problem with anything i do or say she talks to me about it ,my daughter is very close with her kids and my partner and her partner are close too ,after the bad friends ive had id rather do with out after all ive got a best friend forever my sister.
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absolutly. I do not need relationships with people who are detrimental to my wellbeeing and why anyone would let my little sister into their lives is beyond me. if someone is not an asset why keep them around? even more so if they are a liability.
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I dropped a friend only when I realized he was bringing me down with him. I was a good friend, he was not.
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no i generally don't. i like to keep friends. they are good things besides if u start droppin friens left and right, ur gonna get a reputation that u are a lousy friend that has problems wit ppl and soon people will start droppin u as a friend. ive seen this happen bfor
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It depends on the friend. If the situation is becoming abusive yes I will.
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drop friends??? please clarify.
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Not unless it gets really bad. If its effecting your everyday life to the point where your depressed then yes.
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I have before, they were very negative people that I needed to get out of my life.
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Well freinds like that I haft to let go because if they are not happy with themself's what make you think they care if you are having a good day I need positive people around me.
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Friends?
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I'm not sure what you mean by that. If you're asking whether I drop them when they're being needy, then, no, I don't. But if they are unkind to me for an extended period of time, then I will.
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I have a very diverse, eclectic group of friends. Some are straight arrows, and because I believe the love of Christ applies to all, some are train wrecks. I have one friend that I tried to hold onto for a long time, but its hard to stay in touch when the other party is in prison more than he's out. He has a violent temper and it flashes in an instant. He has hurt people and put them in the hospital. And every time he did, he would come to me or my husband for help. After a while, we just couldn't take that risk anymore. He could have gotten us in real trouble even though we always told him to do the right thing and turn himself in. So we regretfully had to let him go. But if he ever gets his act together, I'd pick him up again. Beyond that pretty big issue of becoming a problem to me, it takes a lot for me to drop someone.
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The question is rather vague, but I only drop friends if they keep doing the same thing over and over again that is hurtful to the relationship. There are so many people out there.. why waste your time with someone who does not attempt to meet you halfway? smoothie?
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I have "dropped" many, because life is to short to get caught up in their messes.
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Not usually. Someone would have to be cruel to me in some way for me to drop them. It is true that friendships sometimes have a beginning, a middle and an end, but that's just a natural process.
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Yes I have dropped many friends since my mid 20's. I'm 43 now. It's a cycle of life, people move in and out of your life, like seasons. I only drop them if they are down right MEAN, gossipy, cruel or jealous. I am the type that would do anything for you as long as you are not those things. Life is too short. I am proud to say that I have great friends from childhood that I am in contact with. Stay away from your kid's friend's parents. It has always been disasterous for me anyway.
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Called survival.
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Only if they aren't true friends, like down right mean , gossipy about you and etc. I call them toxic friends, and not healthy to have in your life. Some p eople in your life you have to keep at arms distance at least.
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Sometimes, I phase them out, if I cant take them anymore.
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It depends on the problem...if it's a temporary situation and we have a strong history, I'd talk to them about it. If the problem is a pattern of bad behavior of some type, I'd move on.
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1000% sure, when I was in high school, I used to have some really nice friends, they are married now and their kids are studying engineering and medical like my son does. We meet once in a year or more then a year, because I live in USA and they live in INDIA. I met some friends in USA, they are very selfish, relationship breakers and taking an advantages only, they take help from us, but they don't help us back, like my family does. That's why I don't like to be friends with anybody. I just talk with nice people and respect them too. Some of them are behaving like pimps and prostitutes and don't behave in good manners too, I feel like to kick their ass or spit on their faces. That's why I keep like that kind of people far away from me. That's why I don't care much about friends or anybody behave like that. Some of them don't know what's friendships means. Nonsense friends.
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i don't do friends only assosciates
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I have very few TRUE friends so I'm willing to try and be there for them through thick and thin...but I believe you can only help a person so much. I'm not willing to stay friends with someone who's going to drag me down to a level where I don't need to be or put me in a situation where I could go to jail.
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