I was raped and molested by my uncle in 2004 and now my life is destroyed i also got abuse by my family 4r 9 years help?
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You need to find a trusted adult and tell this adult. You should be able to find help, not the least of which is help in coping with the trauma and your feelings about it. You need to find legal help, too. I suggest telling a school counselor, teacher, worker at your local healthcare facility, your doctor, etc. Pick one that you trust most. I'm sorry that you are going through this. I've been there myself. I wish you all the best in your healing. http://www.rainn.org/ I have personally found these books very helpful: Courage to Heal Secret Survivors
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POOR GIRL, you need some help and couselling. Do you have an adult you can talk to? Was this abuse reported to School, Social Services or The Police, all of these would get you counselling. You must have some help in this area you cannot go through the rest of your life with this hanging in your closet. It has to be brought out so that you can see none of this is your fault and you must never feel ashamed or guilty about something that has been perpetrated apon you. YOU are the victim and must be made to feel worthy and help with the rebuilding of your self esteem. I wish I could help you more but PLEASE get somebody to talk to about this
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It's so good that you asked! Everyone here is with you, pulling for you to make it. You are just one step away from a wonderful life. But it might be best to talk to TWO adults at once, say the principal of your school and his secretary, or a minister and his wife, or the desk sergeant at a police station (he has to write everything down officially.) Once you do this you will be protected, not ignored, and not abused again.
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I agree with AR's answer. You certainly should not be going through this alone, NOR are you alone. As she said, find a professional at either a hospital, clinic etc. Find a family member or any adult you trust, and maybe find a safe place to stay. EDIT: I can relate, so to get well PLEASE call this number, they are VERY helpful and can guide you in the right direction. ((safe hugs)) http://www.rainn.org/
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I have also been through what you have. Please know that you are not alone in what you've been/are going through. Although my abuse was not from a family member, it was just as traumatic. You should most definitely tell a very trusted adult, whether it be a teacher, counselor, or a friend's parent. You need to get counseling and get out of that situation. I am so sorry for what you have had to endure and wish I had just the exact words to help you feel better. Just know that you are not alone and there those of us that understand your pain. But, I can tell you that with counseling and facing it head on, it will get better and you can have the life that you want. I am 34 and have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful children. But before that, I had quite a few years of acting out and self-hatred for what was in my past. It took me a long time to forgive myself, but once I did, that's when the healing started. Please don't keep quiet. Find help in a trusted adult and seek out counseling. I wish you all the best and please let me know if there is something, anything, that I can do for you.
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Well honey, everyone on here has given you such wonderful advice. I would definitely talk to a counselor. If you don't know how to find one talk to your doctor and tell him or her about it and ask for a recommendation. My daughter went through hell with drugs and prostitution. She is able to deal with her life a little better because of group therapy and counseling. Get help soon and remember that everyone here is rooting for you!
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first I want to say I am sorry that this happened, by all means know that it's not your fault. Have you talked to family members that you can depend on? oviously you have family that you can not trust. Pray to your Higher being(GOD)for strength and he will lead you in the right directions he have never failed. Get your school counselorers,teachers,church minister and or Police Station to hear your confession. These individuals will not turn their heads , their responsible for looking out for you when you can not get it from loved one. I know that you may not want some people to know this because you will be embarrassed by some, talked about by your peers,feel dirty and insecured, these are normal emotions for someone that have been violated. what is not normal is that a you were abused,invaded,and disrespected by someone(s)that lied to you about love. Remember you are not alone, there are many, this is serious, but you can survive it. Get help.
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You must find help. Get some counciling, and don't turn to drugs and alcohol. Use your pain to be determined to succeed in life. So stay strong for us all. And you may help another girl who may be in your situation.
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I know how you feel, Its hard, I know. Whenever someone abuses you again call the police ammideatly. If you need any further advice, Come to me. I know how you feel. WE will get threw this together. Love you all, AnswerWoman532
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It's hard to believe right now, but your life isn't ruined. Bad people have done unspeakably terrible things to you. You deserve better. Don't forget that. It's easy to blame yourself, but that is a mistake, and it can lead you to destructive behavior. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Seek what is better - get advice from a professional. Call a rape hotline, and the kind people on the phone will guide you to professionals who are experts in helping people just like you. Often they are people who were once in your situation. No child should be subjected to this horror. That includes you. You are not to blame. YOU DESERVE BETTER! Please get help, now. There is a better life and you are the person to lead that life.
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You need to find a better living siuation,and talk to a counsler.
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Find help, you shouldn;t have to face this alone. They're is a lot of help available to you.
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My sister and I was molested by our older cousin, and it didn't come out for years and i can't say i know exactly how you feel but, i know how i feel. Tell someone, someone you trust, anyone, really you should tell someone in a high place like the newspaper or write a magazine and put him out in the light so everyone can see him for the true monster he is...But besides all that, you are not alone, my life has never been the same but its slowly getting better. I talk to a counselor and i know if i couldn't confide in her i'd be lost. I know i'll never be the same person but maybe i'll be a better person because of all this. You will come into your own way to feel and turn your life around, just keep your head up and strive for something better!! And truly try to talk someone it makes a difference:) Good Luck i know its gonna be hard.
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you should find a really good therapist to talk to about these kinds of things. not that someone here can't help you. but this is a serious thing your going through. you should speak with a professional. good luck. i'm very sorry this happened to you.
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I don't know how old you are, but your life it definately not over. Those people who've hurt you will live with their actions, you will 'live'! Chin up, I KNOW you have a beautiful future. It may take a while, but your going 'up'. Believe me, just watch and see. (I've been there).
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Get help, seek out a counselor.....you deserve to resolve some of the issues....you deserve it for yourself
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I can see how hard it would be to get over something like this in your life. I say put that fuck away for years. I personally feel that rapists should be castrated, they cause so much pain and suffering to their victims. Stay strong and positive and you can get through this.
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That's horrible. I'm terribly sorry about what you are going through. It must be hard. If you would like me to, I'll pray for you. Even though I have never had this experience and therefore cannot say "I know how you feel", God knows how you feel and He cares. You are never alone. It would also be good to tell someone what you are going through, such as a trustworthy adult. I really do hope that this helps you in some way. :) -In Christ's service. Thank you and God bless you!
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I would call an attorney immediately. If no attorney is currently available, please call the police. Are you a minor? Do you have a place to stay? You should seek immediate help. Are you currently being abused? What is your domestic situation?
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you have someone to talk to. As a child i was also very badly abused, I also had a uncle who was very nasty, showed himself to me and so on. Hang in there. You do need help geting yourself together. Talk to your doctor, he will giveyou some names of people to contact. There is no shame in reaching out for help. There is no shame in what's happend to you, it is NOT your fault. What is a shame is not facing what's happened and holding it inside. First thing is to get your feelings out with someone who deals with these kinds of things. You are not alone!!! It's happened to lots of us. And we're still here. It takes time. It takes shareing your feelings please get help. :) ((((((HUG)))))))
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I would suggest the same as the others, talk to a trusted adult. But it may be also helpful to call a Domestic Violence shelter. They sometimes have a sexual assault advocate to speak with and if not, they will talk to you or direct you to a place that can help. If you live in the U.S., I have numbers to all the shelters in the U.S. Let me know if you need this.
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Ugh, I'm so sorry. :( You should go and stay with some adults that you trust and call the Social Services or any organization similar to it. As someone who just got away from her abusive family, I can tell you -- your past is so much easier to deal with once you're in a safer environment.
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Your uncle belongs in jail...big time. Your life is not destroyed. Right now you are in crisis. Help is out there for you. Your family is dysfunctional and no support at all it seems. If you have no money or resources, maybe try a local church or shelter. Anything is better than being so open to another attack by these people.
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If any abuser comes in front of me,I would love(really)to kill that asshole in front of whole world,So that no other person should dare to do such types of heinous act in future!!By the way ,My sympathy is with you.Please see some renowned psychologist who can change your mindset through cognitive therapy and proper medication! Try to be positive and optimistic!Spent time with people who are optimistic about life!I hope life will have many happy moments ,stored in for you!!Keep the spirit up!!May almighty bless you!!!
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I am sorry such a horrible thing happened to you... but you are the one allowing it to destroy your life now.
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Have you told anyone? Because if you haven't you definitely should and I would highly recommend that you go and see a counselor. Those types of things don't go away for a long time. The pain seems to linger forever but you have to stay strong. I'm here if you ever need to talk.
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dont be "destroyed". feel dat u r new in this world. if possible take this case to police. leave the place where people know and abuse u. start a new life. hope god helps u take out of it.keep smiling
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It's not your fault. I hope you are able to have peace in life despite your dark past. I have struggled with things of a similar nature that have haunted me for much time. What I have done, is acknowledged that it is a part of my past that can not be changed, while recognizing each moment as an opportunity to enjoy life and grow. Many people have been through it and still have been able to enjoy a good life. Remember that although it might be very painful, you can still claim this moment as your own and make of it what you want. I know I do. I hope you the best in life. Sincerely J
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