Scorned women, would u please help me give my young friend GOODadvice? Her b/f left her for another girl 2 months ago. They have a 6 year old daughter. The new g/f insists on going around w/them for Halloween. I say Yeh right, what do you say?
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Someone should write an etiquette book for newly significant others. The only person that everyone should be caring about is the daughter. That child would like things to have stayed the same, most likely. Therefore, the new g/f should understand it's about the child not about her. I do wish that people who have children would marry for the child's sake. I have a grandson who to this day wishes his mom and dad had gotten married. He's 20. It's just a little vacant spot way down in their soul. Just my perspective.
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im not scorned im in a happy relationship but i still may be able to help you this new g/f has only been around a few months and the poor little girl is confused and scared and inviting another woman on a 'family trip' (which is what holidays is about - family) she should not expect to be brought along happily! she is not family. is the mum and dad taking the girl out?
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If it were me, I wouldn't care what the other girlfriend insists on. I'm with you Lisa!! But, it's not up to us. Mom needs to sit down with Dad and let him know how she feels. And the little girl should have a say too. The new girlfriends feelings just do not matter. She's a home wrecker along witht he ex.
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If I were your friend, I would give the father a simple choice. Either he can go trick-or-treating with mother and daughter, or NOT. End of story. If the father is so concerned about his new girlfriend, he should just spend the evening with her. (I'm not a scorned woman, obviously, but I believe my opinion is valid, as a parent)
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I agree with everyone else Lisa, its not about making the new girlfriend happy, its about making this little girl happy. Dad needs to explain to new GF he has other obligations and they are too his child.
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Let the new GF come. Who cares? The kid will probably like the bigger crowd. The more the merrier and all that. I mean, all the adults need to start getting along. What if he ends up marrying the GF? Best be on good terms with the two of them now, instead of making enemies of them for later.....
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I say it is too soon to grag his GF to family functions. Let him go around with the little girl and her mom to get candy. What are they gonna do jump each others bones on the street...really come on! I also think he should leave after going around with the girl and not spend the whole night there. He made the choice to find someone new and now he should just suck it up that he wont get to be there every second of the daughters life. He can do things with her on days he gets to have her over to his new place. The new GF can get to know the daughter on Daddy's time. Perhaps after they have dated for awhile and the mom has had more time to get over things and find her own BF then the new GF can start joining things. I think the new GF is scared for her guy to be around the ex...which I can understand...but there is a kid involved and she chose to get involved with someone who had a child. The rules for that are different than dating someone without a child.
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Well let see how does the daughter feel about the new G/F, I mean in this day an age having an extended family is not out of the ordinary..Right?...So if the little girl likes the new G/F then there should'nt be a problem....ask her, if she says yes then let the new G/F tag along. If she says no then tell the new G/f to beat it...simple I think....from experience..
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What? With the mother? No. If it were just the father, ok, but not the whole fam damily.
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It should be up to the child. If she would like for everyone to be there, then they should. If she doesn't, then the new girlfriend needs to stay home.
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YEAH FUCKING RIGHT!!! thats bull. a 6 year old shouldnt have a new mommy after two months.... what are they 15? jeez, tell your friend thats bullshit.
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If the mom is going with the dad to share the moment with the girl, new girlfriend should be put in her place and stay home and give out candy. I am scorned, burned, and beaten by my separation, if my ex even SUGGESTED this, he would be VERY sorry!!! It would be different if a few years had passed and everyone was comfortable with each other, but from the sounds of things, dad is on a rebound (2 months?) and this new woman should have minimal contact with the daughter. I would tell your friend to be strong, stick up for what she knows is right, and for now, that would be for her daughter to have enough time to accept her new circumstances before being introduced to new partners of EITHER parent. If she is not alloted the time to accept the new reality, she may become bitter, sad, and lash out. It's just too soon.
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Yeah, right!
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Your all full of shit he can take her trick or treating on his own or the mom should be saying something in the terms of uhhhh get lost loser you lost that privelige when you fuckin cheated asshole? No sis dads a sperm doner not a daddy now we have to join the other single moms. But.......................................theres still feelings obviously or he would be the last one invited if I was the new gf id tell him to go get fucked as the mom should to. by the way halloween is a man made holiday doesnt mean shit. And children should never ever ever be used as an excuse or a power play in anything the last thing i would want to do is be around my ex on a holiday you split up for a reason this asshole wants his cake and eat it to both women need to tell him to drop dead.
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She should be allowed to be a part of everything thats what a relationship is. He really shouldn't be going period his new commitment is to her now. He gave up his rights to do family things when he cheated thats what he gets. The new gf needs to tell him if he goes its over and the mother needs to figure out why she compelled to have an untrusting cheater in her life. she also needs to tell him that hes not welcome and she needs more time to get over it it takes up to a year to get over a cheating unworthy someone.
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The NEW girlfriend CAN'T change who the parents are! The OLD girlfriend CAN'T change who the NEW "squeeze" is. The little girl CAN'T help anything about the situation and DESERVES to ejoy BOTH PARENTS! So. . . . .they ALL need to "get a grip", be MATURE, and care about the interests of the CHILD; NOT themselves!
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