What is the biggest mistake your parents made with you?
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Gone to The Secret Garden
ANSWERS: 43
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Not being able to say no to me, or giving in all the time when I put up a fight. I'm a spoiled brat now, who took until the age of 19 to be able to say 'Sorry' to someone and mean it. Oh, and making me clear my dinner plate before I left the table, causing me to overeat, and now be a bit overweight. I didn't know how to portion out my meals, so they made me eat everything, so now I have food issues.
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Not wearing a condom... Lol, no really though: My dad left me at school one day for like 4 hours! (I had after school detention) and it ended at 5 and he forgot about me till like 8:30. We called the house, nobody picked up. So I sat there, rumaging through my bookbag looking for something to do...
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Conception.
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Not even trying to find me the help I've needed at certain points, and now I'm too scared to get it. I feel like if anyone actually knew what's going on, I'd be on mood controlling substances or in an institution.
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they could have gotten me a tutor to help me get through school and my other subjects. they wanted to send me off to some church school for boys. i said no, not me. they should have persisted, i might have liked it.
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Not actually following through with the threats to leave us with the gypsies when we were bad... I wish they had, at least we would have learned a trade and got some sort of an education and medical care albeit natural medicine?
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Abandoning me. My father left the three of us when I was 11, and mother mentally checked out in the bottom of a bottle shortly thereafter.
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My mother beat me too much I think. As much as i don't want to, I hate her now for it. Although she was a single mom and worked 2/3 jobs keeping a roof over my head. I still see her menacing face when I think of her. I dont call her anymore unless my grandma or some other person or my wife tells me to call her. But I would be fine if I never saw or heard from her again.
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they never taught me how to speak our native language...
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Not spanking me enough ;)
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allowing me to make my own rules.
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what parents
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Over-protecting me and not allowing me to make my own decisions and interact with other kids.
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Putting too much emphasis on outward appearances. Let me just stress that I think my parents did a great job raising 4 kids on 1 income. That being said, some of the comments that were made about not gaining weight, getting chubby, etc. were very damamging.
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My mom's biggest issue was that she didn't trust me. That was her mistake because I was a good kid, straight A's, no drugs, no drinking, no partying, and I have always thought for my self. My only less than desirable qualities were my sarcasm and my complete inability to believe in God...her lack of trust still bothers me.
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They didn't encourage me. I was recognized twice in grade school as being bright/gifted, but all they cared about is that I didn't fail. Somewhere in junior high, I (consciously?) switched into low gear. It wasn't hard, but I didn't care. I just tried not to fail. This lasted throughout high school. I graduated with mediocre grades. I feel lile if I had more encouragement, I would have done better, and perhaps even gone to college right after high school.
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She didn't talk to me about relationships and what I should avoid.
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They did not performed the exorcism when advised to...
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When my mother was upset with me, she wouldn't tell me why. She'd just give me the cold shoulder for a few days.
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My mom was very laid back. Allowing others to raise me. She tried to be more of a Buddy than a Parent when I was young. Only as I got older did she ''Try'' to parent. A little late though. The Guilt trips were something I still (to this day) fight to stop. BUT I think I came out alright.
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not enough sport, i am now 21 and trying to make up 4 it
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Having me?:)
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Giving me RITALIN. Then ignoring me when I complain about the side effects. All while being adamant that doctors are the gospel and asking me to be quiet about it. I feel like crap to this very day.
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My mom would always take me everywhere with her and my dad would take my sister. To this day, my mom and I are close and I have virtually no relationship with my father. My sister has none with my mother. I feel like if we had just done things as a family we might all be close.
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Overly "protective". Tried to keep me sheltered from the parts of the world that THEY had issues with. Underestimated my ability to stand up for myself. It makes me shudder just to think about it. +5
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letting me get away with whatever I wanted and allowing me to be a spoiled brat!!! I still ended up with a pretty good head on my shoulders, but I very easily could have ended up going down the WRONG path!!
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Trying to tell me WHAT to believe rather than HOW to think for myself.
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.not talking to me about ANYTHING .not protecting me from my family .telling me how stupid they thought i was .telling me how no man would ever want me .telling me that i didn't need an education because i was a girl .not really wanting me around .the hate and the pain but i'm an adult now so everything's okay :)
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They let me have everything I wanted they left me alone w the wrong people they put me in the middle of their divorce they told me zi was bad at math and science they taught me how to lie and steal they never believed in me Hugs and kisses Ma and Pa!!!!!
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made me to trusting
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For one, (since I'm an only) telling me that they wish they had a different kid that isn't me. Two, when I was fifteen, my mother accidentally gave me some oxycodone by mistake and I had to wander all around my school feeling sooooo out of it. I couldn't go to the nurse because the medicine wasn't prescribed to me. I know, stupid on my part too but I really thought it was my own medication because it sure looked similar.
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Not having another brother or sister.
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Never trusting my judgment.
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Too much physical abuse due to her stress raising me on her own.
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Too much physical abuse due to her stress raising me on her own.
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With all due respect to my father, the one thing he did that has really made my life difficult, is transfer all his fears on to me. As a kid (and a daddy's girl), your father is your hero. Now imagine that hero terrified of everything from cars to random explosions (you shoulda seen him during 911...) to you name it. It has definitely made my life pretty interesting! As for my mother, her biggest mistake is giving me her contact information.
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Making me feel like I never should have been adopted. When my adoptive mother would get mad(every month when the bills arrived) she would say either "I wish I never adopted you-life would be so much easier" or "I could have so much more, a trip to Europe instead of adopting you". My adoptive father supposedly wanted a "son" not a girl. Hmmm-I think that covers it:)
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not being there. and when they were, psychologically abusing me and not protecting me.
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Not getting the abortion. I was a terror. =P
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Not using birth control.
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moved in middle of highschool can really fuck you over going to a completely new high school not knowing anyone.
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They made me??
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In my eyes they have only made one.WHich would be forcing religion upon me when i was younger. always going to church, wearing certain things, do things with friends. But now they realize that it was the wrong thing to do, and as a adult let me make my own decisions about life :D:D
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