You catch your 12 year old son looking at child porn!... how do you approch this!?!?!... is it ok because they are around his age in the video?
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Child porn is disgusting and highly illegal. His giggles will be the least of your worries when the Feds come banging down your front door.
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It is certainly not ok for anyone at ANY age to watch child porn. I would explain to him the reasons why.
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Although, the curiosity is normal behavior, this is not okay. This is where you step in and teach him right from wrong when it comes down to "sex". It's going to take a lot out of you because it's not a "one-day" conversation... It's over a period of time. Now that he recognizes what's going on... explain to him how inappropriate it is to think of sex in that manner and what someone could do to him as they have to those children.. it's traumatizing what those kids are going through that were taped to be put on the Internet.
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er. the fact that it's clid porn makes it illegal. with normal porn i think its just time to have the talk about the birds and the bees and 'self love'.
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Why would it be okay at all let alone because he found a kiddie porn site. That's right....a kiddie porn site. You know, the ones they bust down your door at 3 o'clock in the morning for?
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I personally would not feel equipped to handle this. I'd have to get some professional advice.
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its still illegal.id turn the site in to the authorities.
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well it's still illegal so i would be upset, I mean i wouldn't label him a pervert or anything but we'd have a serious talk and I'd ask myself why my computer wasn't blocked from such things.
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Be careful. You get caught and try convicing the cops it was your 12 year old that was downloading that stuff and not you.
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yes and no. yes because he could be curios. and no because that porn shouldent even be on the internet in the first place....<o_o>
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It's not "okay" in one sense, because as stated, it's illegal and immoral from a standpoint of it harms those who are participants (willing or unwilling) in the videos, pictures, what have you. However, due to his age, aside from the fact of it being illegal, it doesn't follow that it makes him immoral or depraved. Young people are typically attracted to other young people. As a 16 year old, I was much more attracted to 16 year old bodies than I was to 25 or 30 year old bodies. I think it's completely natural to be curious about others your own age and feel that attraction. But, you do need to explain to him WHY he can't be looking at young girls (or boys) on the internet. Don't just reprimand him and tell him "NO!", you need to give him an explanation so that he has a thorough understanding of the moral and social implications of his behavior. Also, be sure that the feds don't come knocking on his parents door looking for them. That could turn into a very bad situation. If he keeps doing it, his parents will most likely face the consequences. That should be explained, also.
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It kinda depends. If it was just naked images, then I'd be more worried about the illegal side of things, and the fact this does and probably will (experience...) carry on through his teen years, and the girls he looks at could go as young as seven or eight. If the material in any way depicts sexual or physical abuse, I'd suggest immediate intensive psychological evaluation. I'm not saying that you shouldn't get him counseling the other way, I'm just saying if it's only softcore then he probably won't need anyone else telling him how wrong and perverted he is - I'm sure he knows well enough already. Now that the damage has been done, here's a program that you should look into downloading for your own security: http://www.ccleaner.com/
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kids are naturally curious. Talk to him about it, and keep an eye on him, it could be unhealthy too.
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I wouldn't go jumping to conclusions about this boy just yet. The search term he used in limewire could be fairly innocuous to a child that age. Just exactly what was he looking for? Was it to see normal vids of a 12 year old. We can see he typed in something in the age group he is in. Curiosity to see what other 12 year olds get up to with their cams? Unfortunately he came across illegal videos, and looked at them. Talking with him and telling him what he looked at is illegal is the appropriate thing to do. Also limewire should be removed from the PC. Now that he's seen these vids, I would say it's time for a talk about sex with this boy. He really doesn't need to be labelled yet. Oh yes! A child this age needs to be supervised while on the internet in future.
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rite on!
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Kids are naturally going to be curious. I guess for his age, child porn is more relevant than adult porn. It's not neccessarily right, but you shouldn't come down hard on him for curiosity, maybe he just needs information.
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Well recently a 12 year old kid in my school got suspended for having pron videos on his phone and sending the to people for 50p so i do not think it is right
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Where does he get child porn. It is strictly unlawful to own or distribute child pornography. If there is child porn in you house get rid of it. He is curious for sure but too young for porn at all. Talk to him and find where he gets this stuff. It could be from someone who may be preparing him for sexual activity or molestation. Be vigilant and open for him to talk to intimately.
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Well, I think that you sit down with your son and talk to him about why pornography is inappropriate viewing material while living under his parent's roof. Additionally, is this young boy watching adults having sex with children or watching other children his own age engaged in these acts? I lost my virginity at age 12 and it still surprises me to think of my own 14 year old daughter sending sexual inuendos in her text messages. Kids are curious, and sadly, they become curious at an age when they do not feel comfortable talking with parents. Try not to make him feel like a dirty pervert, but certainly discuss why porn is not mainstream and try to garner his own feelings about what was going on.
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i think the previouse answers have been great on giving advice on what to do about handling this with ur some what i would say is that it could very wel be just a curiosity for example everyone has heard of the little boy looke at his older sister when she's changing even though when he grows up he could be repulsed i would certainly have a seriouse talk with him though and let him know u just want honesty and u wont get mad as he will be more inclined open u need to assess wether this is a morbid curiosity that he is just far too young to understand or something that needs further attention but also i would urge u to go to the police this will prevent any questions being asked of u or ur husband if this shows up on ur pc which is quite possible as limewire downloads are monitered to prevent copyrighting but also it could lead to the persecution of the sick b*st*rds who put the video on the web in the first place
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I'll give you my advice and you can take it or leave it. Here goes. Not only do you have to protect your child in this situation, but you need to protect yourself, especially if he got this pornography online. When and if this connection is discovered by authorities, all computers and IPS that accessed it will be under investigation. I would talk to your child. Find out HOW he found this particular web address and then contact the police. Your child is potentially a victim of a pedophile attempting to "groom" him. This is a typical tactic of online predators. Get your child professional counseling in dealing with this. It not only helps your son, but will remove any hint of suspicion from you and others within your home. Get blocks and filters up on your computer TODAY and no longer give your son unsupervised access to the computer. Good luck
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noooo...i am wondering where he got child porn from....this is not okay.....................good luck....Brian....
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I hope you were joking because I couldn't help but laugh.
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As the parent of a 12 year old with internet access you really should have already been talking about sex in all it's forms and all the stuff related to it. You have to be open, honest and talk frankly about it. If you don't tell him everything there is to know around the topic of child pornography, not only will he think such acts are normal, you will also leave him vulnerable to becoming part of it. Tell him how it starts, where it starts, explain grooming. Have you told him how to stay safe online? Does he know about talking to strangers online? You cannot afford to be embarrassed or hampered by your own preferences. The internet is full of every conceivable sexual theme with child pornography being the one area that presents a clear and present danger.
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