I just had my birthday and one of my co-workers got everyone to sign a card for me. I work in a small department with only about 7 people. Everyone signed the card except for one person. I always sensed she disliked me. Should my feelings be hurt?
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mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 30
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No your feelings shouldn't be hurt, hey it's their lost, and anyways it's just a person you work with, it's not like it's your family, a lot of people don't get along with their co-workers.
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No... There's no way to know if they were at their desk when the card went around for signing. And it's just a co-worker... Why should your feelings be hurt?
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no it is not worth the time... lol she may or may not have been asked to sign and if she chose not to sign you work in a small department so I would let it go and move on! You do not have to get along with people you work with, just work with them...
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No one can tell you how to feel, but she should be ashamed of herself for being so petty that she couldn't sign a card wishing you a Happy Birthday. It's always a shame when a person can't get past their own small mindedness to do something nice for someone else. Their loss in the end though;)
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it's always better to have someone just not sign something at all, as opposed to signing and saying something incredibly awkward. just speaking from personal experience.
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don't stress over it because you cannot make everone happy - but you do make us happy, what else matters
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Don't give it a second thought. You are who you are and some time someone isn't going to be happy with you. It isn't about you as much as it's about them. If you know you're kind and respectful of everyone, fageddaboutit.
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That gives you a 86% approval rating. maybe you should run for president?!?
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At least she didn't DR you. Maybe she doesn't celebrate birthdays. Or maybe you didn't sign her card last time?
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Meh, whatever. I read on the internet that that chicks mom has a beard. =P
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live your life, do your thing. its not worth being stressed out about someone not willing to cope. theres always gonna b someone that doenst :like: just live life :)
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No, she sounds like a bitch. If you feel that way ignore it. Cause you got the friends and nice people that actually know you and like you. If she has no reason to be mad at you shes just jealous and thats how everyone should look at it. get over it honey, its a small thing and shes a small thing :)
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Nope, I would not let something like that hurt my feelings. You be the bigger person, pretend like you dont even know or even care for that matter. When there birthday comes around sign there card. There the one that should feel bad. Do you have any idea why this person would dislike you.
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Some people just don't do the whole birthday card / gift scene. I don't, I hate it and dislike doing it. Has nothing to do with the people. I don't think this is enough information to find out if she dislikes you or not. But if you really want to know just ask her to do something casual like have some coffee after work and see what happens.
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make sure you prominently display the card from everyone (except her), maybe they knew better than to even ask her. Does everyone know she's a bitch?
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You'll never know for sure if she delinquently left you out....or what her intentions are....I'd appreciate the 6 people who did sign your card. I would'nt leave the 7th out until you know for sure what her intentions are.
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Hi ! I have been in that situation before.Dont get disheartned by it. There is no where in this world where everyone will feel the same way about you me or anyone else. so let them be petty and small minded. life is way too short to be worried about if my next door neighbour likes me, and my housemate so on. you just be polite back to her regardless of how she is to you. Then it will hit her that why is she being such a moose when you are so nice and polite.
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There are always gonna be people who don't like you, and i wouldn't allow her the power to be able to hurt me.
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No, you shouldn't let your feelings be hurt. Not everyone is going to like everyone and if that's the way she feels, just stay out of her way unless it has to do with work and or if you are just saying "hi" to be the bigger person.
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No,but when her birthday comes around sign her card.
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You might also have to take in account that she might not have been given the chance or wasn't there when the card was being passed around to be signed.
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Don't let it bother you..why focus on 1/7 of your co-workers? You've got the other 6/7 to focus on..smell the flowers and ignore the weed/thorn! :)
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Work isn't generally about feelings. Try to put it behind you. She didn't stab you in the back or make you lose any money. This is a chick-thing. I too have got hung up in emotions at work. I actually quit a job because of how another woman made me feel. But this is just a slight, not daily harrassment. True that: there is nothing in life more important than happiness. So if this person makes you SO miserable that you need to quit, then quit. But don't let a wort associate have enough importance to just "hurt your feelings." (S)he's a stranger. You haven't seent their house. You don't go to their parties. Fuck whether they hurt your feelings. That can't if you don't give them that power. Um this point is further evidenced by you asking US if your feelings should be hurt. GO GIRL! I take this as meaning you aren't sure, so that is better than LETTING someone who should be only a professional contact HURT you. They don't have the right. You are in full power of you. I think men aren't as likely to get side tracked by this stuff as we are. We need to program ourselves to let work be about work.
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This Bitch is obviously jealous of you, Dont let her bother you hun, I myself have worked with bitter, twisted peeps before, I just ignore them and get on with my own work. She is obviously a jealous saddo. Big smile at her when you see her, and hold your head up high.
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no, she probably just doesnt like you - why do you care? why would you give her so much power over your feelings? is she that important to you? i didnt think so. :)
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I wouldn't have expected her to sign it. You can't please everybody and it sounds like she's somebody not worth pleasing anyway.
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Maybe she is a J.W. and doesn't sign anyone's birthday cards. Don't take it personaly. I have learned that you don't draw conclusions... the claim agent at the insurance company is not moving my payment along.. I think he is just stringing me along... I go to the office and find out that his father died suddenly and he was hit with a softball at an office game and is blind in one eye and has been out of the office. I think my father in law is rude because his mother died recently must have come up North to go to the funeral and did not contact us. I learn that he has been in a coma in a hospital in St. Petersburg for 3 months and is very ill. My husband thinks his sister is miserable because people outside of the family have been hearing from her and getting photos via email. Comes out that soemthing was really wrong with hubby's email where he didn't even get stuff his own wife was sending him. He finally calls his sister and give her a different email address and the pictures come through. Things are not always what we conjure up in our head.
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I agree I can't tell you not to feel hurt, but don't let it interfere with who you are and your work and birthday experience. Just know that that is her problem and if she wants to be that petty than that too is her problem.
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Not at all. Don't waste time worring about people that don't matter.
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not at all,you cant have the whole world loving you,how boring would that be.you waste feeling on people that dont like you ,you will always have your feeling hurt, screw them,there the ones missing out on a friend,move on to the next person in line thats waiting to be your friend.
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