I don't think cheating is brave at all, just brazen. It's usually done in a pretty cowardice and shady way.

It's not a question of bravery, it's a question of risk-reward analysis. Generally speaking, if someone decides to cheat it is because they believe they will both gain something from it and get away with it. Admitting they cheated would simply negate the benefits of cheating in the first place, thus most cheaters do not wish to do so. This of course says nothing of the morality or ethics of the situation, merely the reason why it is not at all a question of bravery, and regardless why they don't usually do that.

they are at heart little babies that want everything.

Cheaters aren't necesarily brave, or even evil. It may have been a lapse in judgement brought on by alcohol, drugs, or just stress. Then, they are ashamed to admit it, for fear of hurting their s/o.

The cheaters I know (my ex being one of them) live in a world of lies. I'm not sure if any of them ever tell the truth. They are too busy covering their tracks...

Actually, IMO the people who cheat aren't brave, they're cowardly. That's why they don't have the balls to own up to it.

A cheater is automatically a liar..liars never own up to anything.

I agree with some of the other users, in that cheating is not a brave thing to do. Cheaters are often cowards who want to have their cake and eat it too. They are either too cowardly to end it with their significant other, or to speak up and try and improve the relationship.

Why do criminals plead "not guilty"? They like what they're doing, but they don't like getting caught at it. Besides, they might just get away with it if found not guilty.

Cheaters aren't brave, they are sissy heads. If they were brave, they would be honest with their partner, and not sneak around and lie. They are too scared to do the right thing, so they pansy out and cheat!

Cheaters are sneaks and cowards. People that lead double lives are despicable. Just be honest and get it over. I wonder how an adulterer or a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend can look at themselves in the mirror every day without getting sick and vomiting.

There is nothing brave about cheating. It is only pure self indulgence and selfish acts. They can't admit it because they don't want to admit that they screwed up. Cheaters are the same as liars, untrustworthy in every way.

Perhaps the secret is part of the excitement of cheating for them? Perhaps they want to avoid a row about it? Perhaps they are ashamed? Who knows. Ask the cheater in question.

they are to afraid to face the consequensces

If they admitted it, they wouldn't have someone to cheat ON.

Cheating is definitely not a brave thing to do.

If cheaters are brave enough to admit it, they will not cheat??

Psh, why would you even cheat if you don't plan on getting away with it?

My guess is that they aren't brave at all. They are truly insecure and need to cheat to feel good about themselves. Crazy to think that it would actually make them feel good.

Cheating has nothing to do with bravery, and the time I did it, I told my then boyfriend the very next morning.

Cheating is cowardly. They're not brave at all.

It is not being brave to cheat... it is stupid. They should fix the siuation they have created. Admit it now they are just trying to hide something they may regret or are not big enough to own up to.

I think some people 'cheat' in order to cause chaos in their lives--kind of like harming themselves. Maybe it's not a fully conscious form of harming oneself, it could just makes sense to not tell the truth, and thusly, cause even more chaos. I'm probably over-thinking it. :-p

Cheating is bravery it's weakness.

Because they are adulterers and adultery is the highest form of treason in a relationship. They are hardly going to confess to that.

they are just 2 damn sorry....trying to cover up their tracks. If the wanted u 2 know, it would have been a 3 some...lol.

Now that would be STUPID.

Because they are low life cowards who most of the time don't see anything wrong with what they did. It's all about me me me with them and as long as they are getting what they want they give no thought to how their actions will affect their partner.

Cheaters are not brave, but self-serving, don't you think?

I view it as one person said above, It's all risk vrs reward. (If I can have a threesome and no one will know but me then why shouldn't I?) I don't think there is anything ethically wrong with that. I don't feel guilty when I cheat unless she finds out and thats just because I hurt her. If we knew every lie someone told us though then we'd all be hurt all day. So I guess ignorance is bliss. In addition I think its selfish for a women to want a guy to herself alone because then all the other women wouldn't be able to share me and they'd be less off. :) Its all in the bible if you read up on it.

they arent really being brave they are running away from their other relationship and finding a new one so they dont have to deal with the issues. And they like the thrill of something new and being caught. its not bravery in the least.

Cheaters are not brave in the first place, they don't have the guts to either break up with you or talk to you about their problems with the relationship so they continue with your relasionship as they start another so it is still hard for them to admit it, I say, If a cheater can't leave you, YOU leave them!

While I don't know that I would consider cheating brave, for arguments sake I will agree for the moment that it is. Cheating, is a form of dishonesty, so is lying. If you are in the habbit of being dishonest, then you will behave dishonestly, whether it's through actions or words. A sudden burst of honesty in openly admitting to cheating, would be inconsistent with a pattern of dishonest behavior.

There not brave, they're cowards. They cheat because they're selfish, cheaters are never brave, just inconsiderate.

Cheaters are cowards who have gotten away with things probably for the better part of their lives. They are weisels who charm their way into your hearts just so they can eventually cheat (Have their cake and eat it too). Or they think they are so special that they can do anything and deserve to have it all. Also I believe that cheaters aren't truly happy in their existing relationship and they aren't going to admit it for fear of losing and what would be the fun for them if they told the truth, it wouldn't be fun.

Because then they would have to admit to themselve how big a peice of crap they are.

Because cheaters are not brave. They're weak. And yet they have too big an ego to admit their weakness.

I hardly think that there is anything brave about cheating...

They're just not brave enough to hurt hard enough to break the bridges.

I dont think cheaters are brave. I feel they are cowards and that is why they cheat. They fear being alone this is why they stay in an unhappy relationship.

Cheating is NOT a form of bravado or bravery - it is self centered egotistic "i'm the man" attiude. In stead of bravely facing whatever issues they are or are not having in their HONEST relationship they become dishonest and cover their tracks bcuz they do NOT want to smear their own good name. Personally I think it does it them up inside, they have to live with what they have done. Every time their spouse does soemthing sincere and nice for them that shows his/her undying sincere love it must make them feel crappy knowing they are undeserving of it. Most cheaters I know have the balls to do it BUT not enough balls to ever want it known. They cover their tracks, look over their shoulders all the time, wonder who is talking, who knows and is today the day my wife/husband finds out and everything blows up in my face???? It MUST be a sad way to live. I know I could not live like that. Cheaters want to reap the benefits of being adored by more than one and yet hang onto the marriage/realtionship that is public. Their wife/husband on their arm is who ppl respect....the side dish is nothing more than a horrible dirty little secret which would SHAME them if ever found out

Cheating really is the opposite of upfront and brave. It's a sneaky act.

Lol at all these bullshit responses of saying stress or alcohol lead to cheating. Thats a load of shit. You cheat because you have no self control or respect for your partner. People who say they cheat because they are unhappy need to smarten the fuck up and try to fix things before pursuing other people. If someone can't fix the relationship, then end it. People who cheat live in a world of lies. Most people who lie can not admit to their faults in almost every aspect of life. It's psychology. If a person can get away with something, then they are more then likely going to act on it again and again and again, until finally someone catches on.

Idk I was.....

you dont have to be brave to cheat.sex is quite a straight forward activity for most people.although clearly in your case you suffer from some sort of pre traumatic stress problem.

because they aren't brave to begin with, just so stupid they cant remember the answer to the questions on a test.

because their little bitches. =]

Because they can't or won't make up their mind which one they want to stay with.

First of all, cheating is not at all a brave act. That's very cheap. Brave is that person who will feel bad that he cheated (that should be for the first time) and will admit it sincerely.