I am 19 years old, My Fiance is 21 almost 22.. we have been together for 3 years, we have our own apartment , he works full time and so do i, we dont make alot of money but we make enough, am i to young to want a child of my own?
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probably i'd think so, but i think as long as you keep a level head about things in life you'll be ok. just make the right decision for you and your fiance. i wish you both the best
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To me, it's not how old you are when you have the child but how old you act. I've met 16 yo wonderful mothers and 40 yo horrible mothers...and vice versa.
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I think,really, it's all up to you. If you really want a child and feel like you are financially and emotionally stable, then do it. I don't think it's a matter of how old you are at this point. You're an adult and you're obviously in a serious relationship. You're old enough to know what's best for you right now and what's not. Good luck! And I love babies! :) hehe
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Not if you can afford a child. Them boogers are expensive, time consuming, they poop a lot, and they have a sleep cycle that is the exact opposite of yours.
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Personally I would wait a until you guys are married and have some time for the two of you! I think it's great that the two of you both work full time and are excited about building a family. I have two children and I wouldn't change it for the world, they are my life, and are so much fun. At the same time they are a lot of responsibility there is no more just you! Make sure you are 100% ready and willing to not be number one anymore :) Good Luck! :)
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No if you BOTH feel ready then there is nothing wrong with it. I'm 20 and pregnant. I think it's cool cause I will still be young when there older to keep up with em and still be fun. You BOTH need to be ready for it. Good Luck!
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I think it's something you both have to want. If that is the case then don't let money be what holds you back. You seem very clever and resourceful. If you and your man are committed to raising your kids together then I don't see a reason why you should not. If you are the one driving this and your fiance is hanging back then wait. It is ideally a two-person endeavor for a lot of reasons. I did it as a single mom and survived but it was not as nice as it could have been. Good luck!
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Why want only a child. By God pleasure twins.
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It's not that you're too young. You're just too poor. If you can barely make ends meet, then how do you expect to raise a child? Let's just hope that the child doesn't get sick. If that happens, you're going to be in deep trouble. My parents had me when they were way too poor, but they had family members that helped. So unless you have someone to back you up, I suggest you hold off.
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oh honey, are you too young to want? hell no. but lets be smart....not alot of money with both of you working, so now take your salary out of the mix, and HOLY CRUD increase your expenses big time. now, sleep deprivation, lack of any social playtime, and incredible anxiety about everything you cant even control. wait, make some money to put away, get married(for the babys sake), make sure you guys have done evrything you might ever want to do as a couple....then put on the brakes, and have a baby(bout 12 yrs from now)
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You are young and have plenty of time. You say you are managing but will you still manage if you have to give up work and have a baby to support or have to pay for child care. I know it is not romantic to think of the economics but it is a much harder life when you are young with a baby and no money than it is being a couple who at least are managing. Why not try to save some money, in your future fund for the time you would need to have out of the work force. If you do have a baby.
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My first response is NO..make sure you are not only stable but looking at the future ...kids are expensive from the get go..gone are the days where you can buy the dungarees and generic shirts and cheap tennis shoes..yes I know you are to young to remember..but you are also aware you have to have name brand and expensive shit now. Not to mention saving for college..on the upside people have had kids all these ages despite finances..Is it narcissistic ?or because you think you are ready for real?
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You are not to young. Get married. Then have your baby but be mindful you will not have any extra money for movies, games, DVD's, makeup and gasoline.
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you should wait untill you can afford a child. they are very expensive and if you hardly have any money now then nows not the time to have a baby. live your life while your still young. then when you think that you can afford a child they you should think of having one but at the mean time i would say hold off
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im at the exact same situation with you except me n my partner are a year younger. im 18 hes 20 nearly 21. we have said about children but we arent planning them he even had a dream that i was pregnant. if i get pregnant we would keep it. x
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Age is relative!! What you need to think about is how your lives will change with a baby in the picture. You won't truly be alone again for about eighteen years. Are you ready for that? It sounds silly, but its true. Does your fiance want a child right away? If I were you I would wait a little while. Enjoy being married, being together, make some plans for a baby, save some money. It costs $204,000 to raise a child born in 2008 to adulthood...
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YES!!! At 19 U have only lived 1/4 of Ur total Life & only 2 years (ballpark) of life in an Adult Age Status. So, 2 years out of 60 possible Adult years, doesn't give U much "Problem Solving" time as an "Adult" who could be "Properly Outfitted" to raise Children. There is an old saying: "Be Careful what U ask for." There is a new TV Show I suggest U watch where kids Ur age are given charge of children to raise 24/7/X weeks. From what I've seen & heard, they all want to be "Sterilized" & beg their Parents to come home to live!!! Seems there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between "Fun @ the Park" for 2 hours & holding a "Puking Kids Head" All night long & then going to Work the next day!!! John
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I would say yes. Sooner or later you wil regret it. Wait until to are about 22 then you can start to have children. That way you are old enough to know how to look after it properly and how to treat it. Even if you dont know how to, you will learn quickly by the way they respond to you and your voice.
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No, you aren't too young to have a child. We had our first child at age 20 and we're doing fine. Now, it may be more prudent to wait a while. I wish I had waited, I wish I could have the exact same children, but 2 years later. I think I could have given them more things, had a more secure environment, and would have been more emotionally mature. I'd hate for you to have those feelings too. For now, invite friends or relatives over who have kids and see how that goes to satisfy the maternal feelings that are coming to you. Even have them stay the night.
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I would think that maybe marriage should be the next goal and then save some money for the future and get ready for having a family. Discuss who will work before and after the children will come. What you can do if there are emergencies, get the home ready, even find a new home more fitting for childrearing.
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i was 24 when had my son...able and READY...it was one of the greatest things and times in my life .raising and be a full time mom and wife..i enjoyed every second ....(except the times he was seriously sick, 3 times, it is scary) so, i say u have time and probably need a little more to be ABLE to enjoy, even if u are READY!!!
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You aren't too young to want a child of your own, but you will be too irresponsible if you plan to have a child without marriage. Wait until you and your fiance are married and have adjusted to married life before getting pregnant. You will probably benefit most if you can wait until you have purchased a home.
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You're not too young - it appears you're getting ready to make committments, you have some stability and independence, etc. There's no such thing as a convenient, non disruptive time to have kids, but you are both still very young and you're not yet married. Have you thought through and discussed career plans, school plans, life plans, goals and ambitions, etc. Have you thought about how children will change your lives and what changes you will need to make to parent? You're certainly not too young to want a child, that doesn't necessarily mean now is the best time for you to have one.
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No you are not too young. You are in your prime childbearing years, but there is no hurry. What does your boyfriend think about having a child? You might want to factor in his feelings into the equation. You might also ask yourself, what am I going to do with the child while I am at work? Where is the child going to sleep? Will you have to move and can you afford to move now and the medical costs just in having a baby, not just yours but now the baby too. If you can see your way thru all these questions, go for it.
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sure have as many kids as you like you could set a new record for most kids ever that would be cool you could have like 30 kids
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You're never too young to WANT one. But to have one is something totally different. Also, it's not so much the number of your age but your maturity. Do you really think you could raise a kid? Or do you just want something cute and cuddly?
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If you feel a need to ask for feedback on a site such as this I would submit you may not be ready to be a parent. You can want anything at any age I would not say that desire is dependent upon age. You asked.
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I would say wait awhile. If you really want to have a baby start saving up money because you will be missing a lot of work later. It seems easy and like you have enough money for it but you should always be prepared. Think of what you will need in the future and make plans according to that. You have plenty of time to start a family. :)
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i cant say for you personally cuz ima a guy and im not too sure bout ur situation but if you are just getting by you might wanna save up first because having kids isnt cheap and welfare will help but its not always enough and the way the economy is going it might not last too much longer...
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