My mom tells me that she would love for me to be single forever,and prefers that I have no one,parents would you rather have your kids be single forever?
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Crystal
ANSWERS: 31
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Absolutely not but I don't want them in bed with someone (male OR female) before they're adults either. I don't want to see them with dirtbags.
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That would be an awfully lonely existence.
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No, that's cruel. Everybody deserves to be loved by a significant other.
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No, not really. But it depends on what makes THEM happy.
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No. I would rather they find love and happiness and have their own family, with companionship and kids. :-)
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Perhaps your mom says that... but she may not REALLY mean that! Any loving mother in her right mind would never ask of her child to remain single, in celibacy, with no-one to share anything until the end of her days.
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No. I just don't want my kids to get w/ someone cuz they are lonely. I want them to be happy & mutally respected in a relationship. I will hate the day when my kids leave the house, but I am looking forward to it. My son has put me thru the wringer & I just hopes that he makes the right choices in life b/c I don't want him to wind up divorced or heart-broken...just happy.
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I think your mother is looking for a reaction out of you by telling you this. I find this line of thought to be almost 180 degrees apart from most parents. Unless you are a really nasty person who would make a man miserable (which you probably aren't) you should have the opportunity to find a partner and have a family of your own. I think mom just wants to see how much influence she has over you. I don't have kids but I am old enough to be your mother.
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Heavens, no! Having said that, I don't want any of my children to settle, either. I hope that each of my kids finds that special someone who makes them incredibly happy.
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I'd rather my son be alone than with the wrong person, but I hope he finds someone who will be good to him and someone he can be happy with.
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Gosh no. I want to be a grandma one day. I want my children to grow up and find a person to love and love them back. I want the same for you. I know I'm not your mom, but I think watching children grow and develop into young adults and then full adults is the best reward. And then they give you grandkids. Can't get much better then that.
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Wait till she decides she wants grandkids. Might be different then. lol
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I just want them to be happy.
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I really want all three of my girls to find a nice guy (or girl). I want them to be happy with someone and hopefully have children one day. But if they want to be single and are happy with that choice then that would be ok too.
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No, and I would honestly be worried if my mother said such a thing to me. It sounds horribly selfish, like she wants to keep you under her thumb for the rest of your life, taking care of 'her'. If she's serious, be careful. You can lose many good years if you buy into it. I've seen it happen to people and it's not pretty.
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Only if that was their decision. But it is their choice not mine.
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No...I want my son to find someone to love and be loved by -- whether it's a girl, a guy, or whatever. Just as long as they respect each other and treat each other well, I'll know he'll be well cared-for after I'm gone...
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What?! I couldn't imagine my mother not wanting me to be happy and find my own way in the world, single or otherwise, and I wish my child the same. I hope she finds someone that makes her very happy in the future, and that she still finds time for me. I would never say anything that selfish to my daughter.
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Holy cow. With all due respect, that sounds terribly selfish of her. My kids are very little but it's my dream to see them get married to wonderful people and have a family of their own.
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No, never. We parents will some day pass and our kids would be alone and perhaps lost in this terrible world they have grown in. They need to have their own families, they have the right to have their own children and lead their own lives the best possible to the best of their knowledge. Regards.
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I don't really think your mother means what she said to you, but I could be wrong. If I ever become a parent and have children, I'm sure I would prefer them to either be alone or find someone who is a good match for them. After all, it's better to be alone than to be in an unhealthy relationship.
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that is a very odd attitude. With respect, her experiences in life are not an indication of what yours will be.
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no if that would have happened i wouldnt have a beautiful 6 month old grandson. i made lots of mistakes in relationships but luckily my daughter hasnt.
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heh i'll tell you what my mom said to me as a little kid. "Women are manipulative and will do alot of things to hurt you. " then she said to me and my sister not to long ago "Don't you know to me nobody is good enough for you" i think she is trying to keep us single lol
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That is wrong and my situation is similar. MY mother always expects her children to do what she wants...that is why my oldest brother(actually listens to her and is 35 yrs old) still lives at home and my middle brother moved out without telling my her. I'm in an interracial relationship she can't stand and pretends its not there. I think i would rather my mom tell me she wants me to be single forever to be honest.
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Is she telling you this because she has another agenda such as taking care of her in her old age? If so - RUN! No, I wouldn't prefer my kids to be single if they don't want to be. I'd love for them to experience life with a partner. Unfortunately, for my eldest, that won't happen because he's severely disabled and needs looking after. As for my youngest son, I hope he finds happiness with another person should he wish to do so.
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actually i would just want my kids to be happy single or married. PS your moms advise was horrible lol but she probably regrets something in life lol
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I just want whatever makes my children and grandchildren happy.
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That sounds selfish to me. You should want your children to be happy and single may not be what makes you happy.
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Nope. I'm not a parent yet, but I know what she might feel. Maybe she doensn't want you out of the house yet or not a part of your main priority in a way... i dunno if it's making sense. She maybe doensn't want you growing up to fast. But I would not want my kids to be single forever unless they chose it themselves. ^^
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Ha, whether she means that or not, I know I'd never want a kid to get married. I dont even want a kid and I know how to get away with that. In the future, I might get a partner, but I ain't gonna dare slip a ring on any pretty girl's finger.
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