How often growing up did you hear your parents say "I love you!"
by 
Jed Merrill
ANSWERS: 100
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ok im not even kidding we say it like every 10 mins :D very strong bond
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Quite a bit. I'm lucky.
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I can't remember ever having heard them say it, but I guess you don't miss what you never had and it didn't make it difficult for me to express my feelings at all.
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Not too often.
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Fortunately, every single day from my mom. I knew my dad loved me but he couldn't verbalize his emotions....
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Occasionally from my mom and almost never from my dad. But for some reason, now that I'm an adult, they both say it to me regularly.
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Every night before going to bed.. My stepfather would say it... My dad would say it evertime he had to leave... So, quite often!
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I still say it all the time, we say it every time we talk on the phone. I heard it a lot growing up... my family is very close.
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Not being raised by my mom, I heard it from her every time we spoke. My dad on the other hand I can't remember ever saying it when I was growing up. Now its exactly the opposite, I live close to my mom and never hear it from her but my dad tells me every time we talk.
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A lot.
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Not nearly enough...thats why I make it a point to make it the last thing my daughter hears every night.
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Never, they were divorced when I was nine months old.
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All the time
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Well, they said it quite a few times. They were very nice parents.
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meh. enough from my mom, but my dad is the kind of person who is either too tired to be serious, joking too much to get to the effing point, or in a fit of rage over what the republicans are doing at the time.
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I never heard it come out of there mouths not one time, I tell my kids that all the time that i love them !
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Every day from my mom. That's why I tell my boys that I love them at least 5x a day. My dad said it rarely. Amazingly, he did say it to me the morning before he died. I'm glad I said it back to him.
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not enough
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My mum alwals tried to sing that song "Have i told you lately" so i heard it a lot.
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Funny, my mother told me a couple of days ago that my father never told her he loved her,,, ever! I heard mum say "I love you" to Dad on the day he died.
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Never but I never thought about it growing up. Now I wonder why they didn't. Was it their generation? Maybe they never heard it either from their parents. I don't know.
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To be honest, I really don't remember them ever saying that to me.
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Never. Mum finally came to the point where she could say it, just before she died.
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Alot from my mom, but hardly ever from my dad. I know he loves me, but it would be really nice to hear him say it without being forced!
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Every time I left to go somewhere, if it was school, going to bed, or work, etc. but now it's when saying good bye on the phone, or leaving after a I visit them. So a lot I guess!!!!!!
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NEVER...a couple time now in my older age
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never' just told me how much i reminded her of my father' that i never met'
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My dad still hasn't said those words, and my mom only says them when she wants something.
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At least once a day. I make sure I tell my daughter often how much I love her and that there's nothing in this entire world that she could do to change that. I'll always love her.
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i never heard my parents say they loved me i had to tell them so they would tell me but what they did for me was more than words lol i love my parents for that.
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Like about 4-5 times a day. Once in the morning before going to school, on the phone coming from school, going out somewhere, random time, and before bed.
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My mom said it all the time I never ever heard my dad say it
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never
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all the time... im 27 and we still say it to each other when we get off the phone even if we have talked 13 times already that day...
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Not often, to me or to each other. Well, my dad did every week. I don't think my mom loved me. She never said it. And she though girls were meant to be breeding machines.
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I am very fortunate. I heard my parents say it to me and my brother, and to eachother, constantly.
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Every day.
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All I can say is not a lot.
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I don't remember ever hearing that. But I know they did love me.
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NEVER..:(
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every night and periodically through out the day well my mom at least i live with her(i'm still growing up:D)
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Never! All the memories that I have of my parents as a couple are flashbacks of a man and a woman who hated each other and were constantly badmouthing, bitching and being disrespectful. I quite often had to act as a referee trying to stop them from hurting each other. Those are my not so nice memories of my parents while acting as a couple.
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um... well not too much really, but...i knew they loved me by the way they treated me :)
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never, because they didn't.
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Not often, but that has changed now. My father is terminally ill, and he has told me countless times in the last few weeks. It has taken a situation of that gravity to get him to verbalise what he feels. With my children, I try to tell them at least once a week. For most people, becoming a parent is life changing, the experience educates you to what unconditional love means. Having experienced this, there is nothing I would not do to protect my children... How do you put that into words? I know some families splinter over disagreements of one nature or another, for them I truly feel sorry. I believe it is a small minority who do not feel this bond of love with thier children, at least at some time. So, when you become a parent... think about it. Dont leave it till the last moment to let your kids know how you feel. Communication is the essential key... It does not hurt to say those words.
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Several times every day. I was very blessed in that regard.
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Constantly ... and that IS awesome !!
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in those specific words i don't remeber to often but my parents showed me they loved me that's more than words could ever mean to me.
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My dad: I don't think I ever heard those words. My mom said it all the time.
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Honestly, like every 30 seconds. At least that's the way it seemed. How blessed I have been! :)
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Constantly, they still say it all the time, I hope they never stop saying it all the time.
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Those words never came out of the mothers mouth. My dad would say it alot..even when I would really piss him off..he would go on a rant in german..only words I would get would be the I love you..I am assuming what followed was but.... LOL
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I can recall my mom saying it a number of times... but only a select few times that my dad ever said it. I think that it was enough from both, however.
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every single day.. i just turned 18 and she still tell me she loves me.. same with my dad
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Rarley, but we all know then and now, that without each other it is hopeless. We always showed love through actions(being by you when your sick, doing nice things for you when you're down, accepting mistakes you make, etc) rather than words and i think thats more important.
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My dad, never but he wasn't around either. My mom, every day.
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Never they were devorced when I was 2
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Every day...still do! :D
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every day several times a day
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Very often, more from one parent than the other, though.
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A ton
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never
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not often enough
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Once or twice. I finally got my mother to put it in writing and to sign it.
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Not until I was an adult and put forth the effort first.
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every day. always at night before bed and when i left for school or what not.
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never
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never ever.. jus when they were drunk.. no hugs jus when they were drunk.. and thank god no kissing
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Just when it was my turn to buy
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I don't remember my parents ever telling me that they loved me. I knew that they did, but they just never said the words. It's very strange for me because now I have a 15 month old daughter and they tell her they lover her all the time. I'm not sure why that is...
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Not very often, closer to seldom. I tell my children as often as I can as well as my wife.
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All the time. And so I say the words all the time. And I married someone who never heard these words and doesn't value words as much as I do. I have learned the importance of different love "languages" to communicate love. There is physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts of appreciation, quality time, and acts of service. My wife is different - but boy do I wish after a hard day that I could just say "I love you and miss you". It doesn't translate. Instead I clean up after dinner, do the baths for the boys, and cook regularly.
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Every single day, still to this day...along with hugs and kisses...my folks rock! :)
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Very infrequently so my wife and I tell one another that we love each other at least once a day.
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about twise ... and both times they were lying
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Never. It was no big deal then, Now when i look back at my childhood i new they did though.
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Not very much that I remember. However, my dad said it to me after my mom died and it was so heartfelt that now those earlier times don't seem to matter.
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You know its funny. I think I've heard it maybe about like 10 times from both my mom and dad (20 times total). Then again my parents question whether or not I love them several times a week. Maybe I just spend too much time on this damn computer box :(
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everyday
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sadly I have to report, not to often..those were different times...it was believed you just "knew" and that's the reason I am telling my Family I LOVE YOU every day several times over..
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Through my childhood, never. She only started telling me she loved me shortly before she died about 8 years ago, aged 53. I dont know my dad
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Never.
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Every day.
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my mom said it all the time and tried to make excuses for my dad but I have known all my life that I was nothing but one big disappointment to him and the reason for his sorry lot in life. It's ok though my maternal grandfather was my substitute dad and I know he loved me.
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All the time. My parents have never been bashful about saying it.
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To be honest i have never heard them say it once.
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Sadly I can't say I ever heard them say it while growing up. I did however hear them say it when my father was dying.
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My mother and her ex never said it to each other. My mother would tell it to me, my brothers and family all the time though.
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quite often:
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every day:)
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Never. But there actions spoke it.
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They said it in how hard they worked to give us a good education, in their pride in our accomplishments, and with their efforts to provide security when there was very little. The actual words were rare, but we always knew we were cherished.
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Hardly ever did I hear my parent say I love you but as a parent myself I tell my child ever day a least 3 times a day ort moire that I love them. They are the world to me.
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Never!
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i never did.. my mom passed away when i was little... but i heard my mom tell me she loved me all the time
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They were divorced by the time I was 2 1/2 years old.
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Never
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i never really got the chance to know my father when i met him he was dying of cancer i was like 10 so it was so whatever and my mom never wanted me so she gave me away when i was 5 to my grandparents and they didnt want me so they gave me back when i was 11 and now im 16 ........... No one in my family has ever told that they love me
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Im 17, my mom still tells me everyday that she loves me.
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Not often. My Mom always tried to show it, but she rarely said it until my Grandmother (her Mom) passed away, and then she began to say it more, and she would hug me more often too.
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