Why do I feel like my life is over when I think about becoming a single mother? Should I feel guilty for thinking this way?
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I don't know if you should feel guilty or not...but your life certainly isn't over.
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Life as you knew it IS over, but you have a whole other life to live now, and just like any other life, it will be filled with struggle and joy. No, you shouldn't feel guilty, but you should probably try to stop thinking that was or it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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yes you should . your life is not over. trust me
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Your life is not over just changing as it will keep changing you have to decide if that's a good thing or not. I have two. They are the best thing in my life and have given me a purpose I didn't used to have.
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I have been a single father since my kid was 3. No your life is far from over.Not only is it a great experience,it makes you try harder and gives you a reason to make your life better.
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No, you shouldn't feel guilty. It's difficult and frustrating being a single parent, and at first, it doesn't seem like you can make it without that other person there. You feel like people are looking down on you for your situation, and you feel guilty for not having a "man" in your life. What you really should remember is that you are a strong woman who *can* handle any and everything that life wants to throw at you. Be proud that you have a healthy child and you are taking care of them, because they'll look back and be proud of you for making it.
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its not over its just the beginning you and you shouldnt feel guilty you feel how you feel but there are always friends and family around so you will never be alone and for when your baby is born you no your life isnt over were you will be giving it so much love so chin up life will only get better.
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you should not feel guilty - you are just looking at it the wrong way - in a way a PART of your life is temporarily over, i guess. but it's not a bad thing - the part that means you can be irrisponsible and immature is over, and drinking is over (for a while, till the child is born) you will not be able to just go out whenever you feel like it for a while either. but there are so many more rewards - yes you sacrifice a few things for a while - but, lady, you are getting something these petty gratifications can NEVER give you - a child :-)
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There is no way your life is over, don't be silly. Being a mum is great! I get so much satisfaction out of bringing my child up myself. Plus it definitely has advantages, your child doesn't see any rows and becomes a more settled person. Chin up Missy!
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I can understand you thinking that way. I was a single parent for a number of years. Let me tell you, and believe me when I say this.....you life is in NO WAY over. The best is yet to come! Have faith!
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Felt like that myself once. I left my nice large home, with my kids tow and a few toys, into a small housing association home with NO furniture and it was hard to adjust. Now my home is 'home' and I'm happy, settled, fully furnished. Who needs fights and arguments.
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no.. b/c you will have that precious baby you can come home to and will love you more than any person can.. and guys will still want you even if you have a baby.. but you will know which ones you want to keep by how they react to ur baby.. but don't be embarrassed to tell a guy you have a baby
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No your life isn't over...thats a very silly thing to say, sure it may be stressful You just have another life to look after now and think about the future and who else is gonna be in it
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You should never feel guilty about becoming a single paerent, many people including my self was brought up with one parent, truthfully one loving parent is far better than two parents who argue all the time, saying thagt every situation is different people become single parents through the loss of a wife of husband, neer ever feel gulity about being a single parent and your as being very silly saying you feel your life is over, pick your self up and be proud to be a single loving caring parent, beleive me that child will have a lot of love and respect for you trust me dont feel gulity, feel proud.
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I don't think you should feel guilty. I feel like the day I have children (single parent or not) my current life is over and a new more stressful/complicated life is about to begin.
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I have been raising 4 boys alone for the last 6 years. My oldest is 11, my next to oldest is 8, next is 7, and the youngest is 4. Its not easy but it gets easier.
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Perhaps you feel that every child deserves to have two parents. Do you? If so, that would explain why you're feeling this way. I don't think you should feel guilty, though.
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I think it's a natural feeling in that circumstance. I can remember feeling the same way when I was in that position MANY years ago. Just remember, it was your choice, whether it was an accidental pregnancy or not. You chose the act in which a child could be concieved. When you choose the action, you choose the consequences. Be the best Mom you can!
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the glass is ALWAYS half full. you need to align yourself with positive thoughts for the sake of you and your child. "If you change the way you look at things, things change."--Rumi
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You're scared; that's normal! It will be tough at times but it's really worth it. Kids make life worth living. Be strong! God Bless you!!!!!
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There are alot of single moms, it's one of the toughest jobs you'll ever have. Your life as you've known it, is over. The only thing bad about it would be for you to feel guilty for having the courage to live it. One step, one day, one breath at a time!
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Dont feel guilty for feeling the way you do. You will have many moments of being a single mom when you feel guilty. I am a single mom, raising my daughter with out her dad because he is and alcoholic and a drug addict. I only feel quilty for getting back together with him after I had her. We were not together when i was pregnant. Yes your life is over. I hate to say it but it is, but think of what your life is going to become. Your going to be a mom. You are going to get a chance to see a child do all there firsts. That is something that I can never put in to words. Or explain how I felt when I heard her say mommy and take her first steps and her first tooth. You will be so misrable and happy all at the same time and you will love it. She is 5 now and i have no idea who or where i would be if i didnt have her. Drop me a line if you ever need any advice. Girl you can do it.
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Absolutely not. A household where there are 2 parents can be a lot easier but it definitely doesn't matter if you are unhappy.... I recently became a single mother & it really isn't the end of one's life :)
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Try to think of it this way... you will be the one who has the pleasure of teaching your child all the right ways.. there will not be any conflicts.
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No, you will get use to it. Just think of your child and make her live as normal as you can. Don't stay with someone just for the child because you both will regret it. Do what's important for your child.
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I am currently dealing with the same feelings I am 22 and I feel alone because My childs father has not seen her yet No dont feel guilty you and I are going through a change in lifestyle be proud of your child and good luck
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i think it's normal cause sometimes i also feels this why
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You just sound scared.
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Because its hard. I know... I have gone through it twice.
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Depression in your situation is natural. you have your child and you have your health. everything will be alright.
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I am divorced single mother of 2 great daughters. I couldn't imagine my life now being back in a toxic relationship I am much happier.
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Yep..life is over.I'm 50 and my kids are grown up and have their own and my daughter feels just the same.. Gee..I came back to life so i guess that makes me the messiah! You may bow down to me any time now.
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your life will be very different.. but parts of it will be more wonderful than you ever imagined. Im a single mom (not by choice) and altho life is hard.. i get all my pleasure out of my daughter. i strive to make her life as wonderful as possible and it makes me feel great. Keep your head up sweets!
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Becoming a single mother has been a scary feeling for millions of women like yourself. You will be ok. Single Mothers, for the most part, do very well at raising happy, healthy children. Often times, they do better alone than they did as a couple. I will offer one piece of advice that you did not ask for. Be careful of whom you bring into the lives of your children. Being single isn't bad, so don't get involved with a bad guy who bring the whole operattion down. I've seen single moms, in a moment of loneliness, turn to the wrong man and let him wreck all of her hard work. Be very careful on this. ok?
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