Yes, if you are in an abusive relationship which you hate and another person offers you a good one, comfort, security, etc when you are with him, I think it is okay (assuming you can't get out of the other relationship). As a rule, I'd say there are very few (1 out of 300) time when cheating is valid

No - Never - cheating is cheating - Deal Breaker

no their is no reason to cheat on someone. If you are in an abusive relationship I think you should talk to your partner if possible or get proffessional help or divorce. Thats my opinion anyway... u don't have to agree.

No way, I dont even like cheats turned on in first shooter computer games so you get the really cool guns straight away. You just cheating yourself

Many cheat for aiming for luxurious life.They may even cheat for instant happiness.Cheating is a crime.It is a sin.

I believe people cheat to get to the easy way out. or they just cheat for fame and riches. whatever it is it is very wrong and people should not ever try to practice it

hell no. just break up, thats effed up to keep ur partner waiting for nothing

On a spouse, no. But cheating in general...eh, maybe.

No None not at any time or for any reason Love and marriage are not all about sexual relations and if they were impossible, then other ways of being happy together can take over if you love one another.

NO NOT EVER - NEVER NEVER NEVER Cheating is a lie. Cheating is not fair to yourself or to others. Is gaining an advantage by a lie. It is dishonest and damages your reputation and integrity.

Extreme Stupidity

NO There is no valid excuse for cheating. To betray the one you love, is just plain rotten and disrespectful, there is no need for it. I say that if someone is NOT happy in a marriage or relationship, try hard to work it out. If after exhausting all resources and it cannot be saved, leave!

no, not in my opinion. There may be situations in which the cheating is more or less wrong..

No

there are n number of excuses that can be given ,only that ones own conscience will never validate it

Never ever ever, If you don't have the balls to break it off before you stray, you should be banned to somewhere... Like maybe Utah.

no never cheating is the worse thing you can do to your loved one it tears down to many walls you have built up in a relationship and it isnt good for you... the person you are cheating with and your loved one. the damage you do is unrepairable even if your gf/bf forgives you and SAYS they trust you. which they can never FULLY trust you ever again. just dont do it. if you are in such a bad relationship that you must then get the hell out!!! it isnt good for you to have those feelings

why do you think that is,prettypirate? that although just about every one of the people that answered,including myself,have said no way never,that there is so much cheating going on in the world? sorry about answering one question with another question,my answer is,no,never.

in 95% of the cases i think its not right to cheat. however there are those 5% who do have reasonable reasons to cheat. everyone may interpret their actions differently e.g some guys think that only when sex is included is it cheating. and some think that even haveing secret feelings and desires for others is cheating. those that act or reach out to others for comfort assistance or protection because they are trapped in an abusive realtionship can cheat/stray out of deserpation and a cray for help and escape. those cultures that are forced into a aranged loveless marriage where devorce means death, will seek love els where to fill the void. so yes i do believe that in some situations it is excusable and understandable and does not mean the person is amoral or BAD.

I find this thread amusing. It's funny how there are certain things that a majority of people do (like cheating), yet everyone looks down their nose at OTHER people who do the same thing. 60% of men and women ADMIT to cheating (though I'd assume the number that actually DO IT is much higher). It's human nature, and that's a pretty valid excuse if you ask me.

The usual reason has to be due to unfufilled needs by the partner. That doesnt excsue it, but if your partner isnt making you happy then you will either think about leaving or spread your bets and cheat. Im not putting any moral judgement on it as I dont do it, but I think the best thing to do is to find someone who is a better match if you find yourslef wanting to stray.

it is possible to love more than one peson and when your stuck in the middle and trying to choose the best path for yourself in the long run then i think there is some reason behind cheating. this however is not an excuse, its just a situation that sometimes occurs and is hard to get out of! dont you argree?!? i talk from first hand experience, its not something i wanted to happen, it just did, but its all sorted now.

none..period.

You should never ever ever cheat!! it is just plain wrong and can ruine your life!!!!!

Actually my sister was in an abusive marraige and she cheated to give her husband reason for divorce. It was with a stranger. And so now she is much happier even though she had to stoop to a low level she may have in the long run saved her life. Women usually will cheat if they aren't receiving enough affection and love. Men usually cheat because they aren't getting enough Booty (sorry for the expression)

No way. Cheating is just bad.

Yes, if your old lady isn't puttin out anymore then it's time to seek out wild game, alls fair in love and war, so if your woman is using sex as a weapon, you may be justified to perform a covert action. Note, if your woman is using sex as a weapon, ergo; not puttin out anymore. Your well on your way to a divorce anyway, so have fun with it.

The IRS maybe

No. Or it wouldn't be called cheating. Cheating makes the marriage contract null and void. The union is for two people. A third breaks the commitment.

YES..just say I CANT HELP IT..!! Honesty is the best policy;

gOODNESS,nO I RECENTLY GOT A CALL FROM MY BOYFRIEND 12 YEAR OLD SON MOTHER *A AND SHE WAS OF COURSE DRUNK? SHE IS A SKANK NOW I'M PREGNANT ANDAFRAID AND I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. MEN DON'T FEEL GUILT THE WAY WE DO. NO IHAVE BEEN FAITHFULL TO HIM I HAVE CHEATED AND I FELT AWFUL.I LEARNED MY LESSON. YOU SHOULD NEVER TELL UNLESS YOU PLAN TO CONTINUE.

Not if it is anything more than a peck on the lips.

No. There will never be a reason.

NO, there is no valid excuse for cheating. It is just an illusion to thinkingthat life on the other side is better.

No I don't think there is. We are all far to weak for our own good I have never cheated I have suffered before. Say what you mean mean what you say the Price of a Broken hearts too much to pay

no there is none...but it is always fun coming up with new reasons why...

No , I do not believe that there is a good reason for cheating. If the sexual side of a relationship is over then it is best to make a descision between the two people what the next step is to be. Cheating denotes lieing about things and that is never the answer.

Yes.

If your partner's life depended on it sure. If not, refrain from the infidelity, and break up with them if you want to see other people.

No, not at all, there is NO excuse for cheating.

Being sedated after taking viagra.

Only something stupidly extreme like your partners life would be in danger if you didn't cheat.... Probably isn't a sensible valid excuse

Two possibilities: if a woman was sedated, if a man was sedated and had viagra.

Yes, your partner left you, has served you with divorce papers and tells you she wants everything...

In my opinion , No !! There is no reason for cheating. Not for revenge. Not for spite. Not for any other reason.

No. If it comes to the point where you want to cheat, then its time to end the relationship. Only those without balls, or those who are too selfish to make a clean break end up as cheaters.

Nope. Never. Cheating is a deal-breaker for me. No excuses, and no forgiveness.

No I don't think so, not even if he/she cheated first!

Only if you know without a doubt that your mate has cheated first. Then it's acceptable to cheat so you can let them know how it feels. I think this is the only valid reason.

If I were in a coma, a deep coma, with little or no hope of ever recovering, and I had been in that state a very long time, I would want my husband to find the comfort and relief that sex gives, even if it is with some other woman. But is that really cheating???? Otherwise, no.

Im so confused. my storie is a doosey. i was with a woman for a year that i deeply loved but after 4 months thing started going really wrong with us, i guess it doesnt matter anymore about whos fault it was but after a year she was preety much saying everyday that i should go find somewhere else to live even with my ex girl friend who i have twins with. now i really didnt want to do this because it would be uncomfortable for me staying with my ex until i could get back on my feet but i really didnt have anywhere else to go except the street so i took a chance and moved my stuff in. now im not going to try to make excuse for myself becuase im a big boy and should know better but i was very vunrable and unsure about what was going to happen with the girl i had just left and about what was going to happen to me. so the first night im there me and my ex are drinking and talking and one thing led to the next and i found myself in her bed, yeah i know, i felt dirty when it was happening, i should have stopped it but i was weak and didnt want to piss her off, i kind of was in a tight spot. i screwed up people....i told my ex before i moved in with her that i was just there to get on my feet and help with the kids and evenyually i would be moveing out,not there to rekindle an old flame but i think she had different intentions though because after for days she started realizeing that i was missing my girl and was uncomfortable liveing there with my ex. on the fith day i called my girl and we started reconsileing, thing is i lied to her about where i had been liveing and lied about sleeping with my ex, why would i do that, i know.....fear of loosing her over the truth. so a week goes by, everythings going good with my girl im staying less and less at my ex's and when i do stay its only on the nights i watch the kids and i sleep on the couch, i start realizeing she really doesnt like this. so i tell her its not working out and that im really uncomfortable being there and that i made a huge mistake. then call my girl and tell her that im comeing out on the next bus to see her and id be there in a hour. what happens next is something that i should have expected i guess knowing my ex. she calls my girl and tells her everything.....blam.....i get off the bus and and immediatley told to get right back on it....she asked me if it was true and finnaly i told her she deserved the truth and spilled the beans. now i know i screwed up royally and even though my girl hates me and doesnt want to talk to me i hope she can forgive me for lieing to her......but then again i do feel like the biggest piece of dirt in the world and i wouldnt want to be with me now. now the question is, is there any valid reason for cheating? i dont know, ive just spilled my guts on here about my storie, i was kinda in a difficult situation then most people, i never cheated on her when we were together, and i didnt believe in cheating, but i was kinda homeless, confused and weak at the time.....i guess i dont feel like it was cheating because we kind were not together at the time, no my biggest downfall is that i should have told my girl everthing when we first spoke again, i didnt becasue i was scared. and now im going to have to live with my mistake.

Im so confused. my storie is a doosey. i was with a woman for a year that i deeply loved but after 4 months thing started going really wrong with us, i guess it doesnt matter anymore about whos fault it was but after a year she was preety much saying everyday that i should go find somewhere else to live even with my ex girl friend who i have twins with. now i really didnt want to do this because it would be uncomfortable for me staying with my ex until i could get back on my feet but i really didnt have anywhere else to go except the street so i took a chance and moved my stuff in. now im not going to try to make excuse for myself becuase im a big boy and should know better but i was very vunrable and unsure about what was going to happen with the girl i had just left and about what was going to happen to me. so the first night im there me and my ex are drinking and talking and one thing led to the next and i found myself in her bed, yeah i know, i felt dirty when it was happening, i should have stopped it but i was weak and didnt want to piss her off, i kind of was in a tight spot. i screwed up people....i told my ex before i moved in with her that i was just there to get on my feet and help with the kids and evenyually i would be moveing out,not there to rekindle an old flame but i think she had different intentions though because after for days she started realizeing that i was missing my girl and was uncomfortable liveing there with my ex. on the fith day i called my girl and we started reconsileing, thing is i lied to her about where i had been liveing and lied about sleeping with my ex, why would i do that, i know.....fear of loosing her over the truth. so a week goes by, everythings going good with my girl im staying less and less at my ex's and when i do stay its only on the nights i watch the kids and i sleep on the couch, i start realizeing she really doesnt like this. so i tell her its not working out and that im really uncomfortable being there and that i made a huge mistake. then call my girl and tell her that im comeing out on the next bus to see her and id be there in a hour. what happens next is something that i should have expected i guess knowing my ex. she calls my girl and tells her everything.....blam.....i get off the bus and and immediatley told to get right back on it....she asked me if it was true and finnaly i told her she deserved the truth and spilled the beans. now i know i screwed up royally and even though my girl hates me and doesnt want to talk to me i hope she can forgive me for lieing to her......but then again i do feel like the biggest piece of dirt in the world and i wouldnt want to be with me now. now the question is, is there any valid reason for cheating? i dont know, ive just spilled my guts on here about my storie, i was kinda in a difficult situation then most people, i never cheated on her when we were together, and i didnt believe in cheating, but i was kinda homeless, confused and weak at the time.....i guess i dont feel like it was cheating because we kind were not together at the time, no my biggest downfall is that i should have told my girl everthing when we first spoke again, i didnt becasue i was scared. and now im going to have to live with my mistake.

no there is no a valid exuse but it happens and i think that if the issue is resolved the relationship still has a chance.

an excuse is the cowardly way to avoid taking responsibility for ones behaviour. I dont think excuses in general are valid.

NO WAY!

no..at least I haven't heard one yet

Cheating usually exists because one person is too afraid to hurt another's feelings, so they keep there real feelings (and/or actions) for another person secret from them. So the valid reason is cowardice. This doesn't mean I think it's okay though.

There is never a valid reason or excuse for cheating in my book. People use alcohol and drugs as an excuse. That is not an excuse to cheat. Do those things give you more courage to do something normally you wouldn't? Of course they do. However unless you pass out they do not affect your ability to push someone off of you and say no if you really don't want it. People just use it as an excuse to justify their poor lack of judgement in being unfaithful. Same with any other excuse. Oh my partner just doesn't get me any more. oh my partner has lost all interest in being intimate with me. Oh my partner cheated on me so I'll just get back at them. and so on and so forth. If you find yourself thinking about someone other than your partner in a way that is not right for someone in a loving comitted relationship. First thing you do is distance yourself from that person and try to figure out what is wrong with your current relationship that you are having these feelings. If you are that unhappy with your partner better to just pack up and leave than cheat. It is wrong on so many levels and should never be done no matter what the excuse.

There is never a valid reason or excuse for cheating in my book. People use alcohol and drugs as an excuse. That is not an excuse to cheat. Do those things give you more courage to do something normally you wouldn't? Of course they do. However unless you pass out they do not affect your ability to push someone off of you and say no if you really don't want it. People just use it as an excuse to justify their poor lack of judgement in being unfaithful. Same with any other excuse. Oh my partner just doesn't get me any more. oh my partner has lost all interest in being intimate with me. Oh my partner cheated on me so I'll just get back at them. and so on and so forth. If you find yourself thinking about someone other than your partner in a way that is not right for someone in a loving comitted relationship. First thing you do is distance yourself from that person and try to figure out what is wrong with your current relationship that you are having these feelings. If you are that unhappy with your partner better to just pack up and leave than cheat. It is wrong on so many levels and should never be done no matter what the excuse.

should u tell a partner if u hav cheated on them even if u know it wood break there heart?? what is worse lieing to keep a person happy or being truthfula nd ruining there life and making them miserable

I speak only from a man's point of view. There is not a good reason to cheat. If the relationship is not working then it should be addressed appropriately depending upon your level of commitment. For example, if you are married you should toughen up and work it out. You took the vows so stand behind them. If you met her last week then make a decision if you want to be with her or not, but don't cheat. Just remember that working through your issues can make your relationship stronger than ever before. Nothing compares to the satisfaction of a strong and wholesome relationship with a good hearted woman. Yes, we men most likely will have wondering eyes sometimes. Its in our nature. But it is a high price to pay to give up everything for a cheap thrill.

Well, there are always reasons for everything in life. I don't believe cheating is a sin anyways. It is not a good thing but sometimes it can lead to something good. It depends. Usually, cheating emanates from being unhappy in a relationship. Cheating comes to show you that you are not getting what you need...Unless you cheat out of arrogance!

No. If you are that unhappy in a relationship, you should leave the other person because getting cheated on hurts like hell. How would it make you feel?

If you are really and truly in love with your partner, then there should be no need to cheat. Cheating is not only heart breaking for the other person, but just shows a total lack of trust on your behalf.

i recently got very drunk and ended up sleeping with a guy i had been with before..i had no memory of it, but was obvious we had slept with eachother.I NEVER had the intention of cheating on my bf, i had been cheated on before and i hated people for doing it, then i did it. I told my bf as i had to be honest with him as i made a genuine mistake. i dont think he will ever take me back, but trust me it is not worth it, even if you had no intention of cheating

ABSOLUTELY NOT, IN MY OPINION IF YOU HAVE THE DESIRE FOR SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH, THEN YOU NEED TO END THAT RELATIONSHIP INSTEAD OF CHEATING. THE REASON WHY YOUR IN THE RELATIONSHIP IN THE FIRST PLACE, IS EVERYTHING AND A COMMITMENT, IF YOU CANT BE FAITHFUL THEN YOU SHOULDNT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AT ALL. MY QUESTION IS NOW, IS THERE ANY REASON THAT SHOULD BE OKAY TO FORGIVE SOMEONE FOR CHEATING ON YOU?

Well, I broke up with my g/f, then slept with her a couple of times after that. then I went with another girl for a couple of months, broke it off, and got back with the first. It really crushed her, so she grudge F*ck*d some lucky stranger from another town. I guess that is as good excuse as any, but i don't like it much.

I wish that the answer to this question was cut and dried,but it isn't. As there are so many thing that enter into the picture when it comes to relationships. Most people will look at cheating as a cultural/moral,No! Nos! Yes, and even as Religious-sin. How many people look at the empty,unfulfilled, emotional and sexual needs that are not being met in our ongoing relationships,but are being fulfilled outside of their supposed happy togetherness. "Cheating", Just may be keeping more of us together in a sexually, unsatisying relationship than we then we are aware of. It does appear that both gender are running neck and neck in this social arena.

Cheating is cheating there is no excuses for that...once he / she cheated they are not honesty or loyalty.... and who have the ability to cheat ... he/she have the ability to do anything else...

Never. If you want to see other people then end your relationship with your partner, or try to fix it. If the fix doesn't work, then like is said end the relationship. It is better off that way for both parties in the relationship.

No, never. Especially if it is on someone that loves you, or on a website like answerbag. Its just nonsense, and should not be tolerated.

Nope.

In my opinion, no.

Because you don't know the answer.

I can't think of any legitimate reasons.

NEVER.

Human beings are fallible. They make mistakes. I think that's a good enough reason.

Its funny but I thought that the word was self explanatory. People always find a way to make an excuse for their shitty behavior. The only valid thing to do is to TALK about whatever it is that is tempting you to cheat. If you talk to your partner and things don't get better, don't take the cowardly way out. Be a MAN/ WOMAN. If your not happy then just keep it moving!

yes! if my b.f was offered like 2 million to have sex with another girl... and he gave me half. or maybe if it was a life or death situation... like he was held at gunpoint. or if it was someone really really famous and hot that he's in love with like jessica alba - i would let that go too. or if i had an identical twin sister and he honestly got us confused he might be able to get away with it but thats about it.

No there isn't. And h8myex is delusional for putting this up here. The actual story is that he cheated on me when I thought we were together. What would you think if your loved one called you and told you they loved you and then ended up with his cousin's girlfriend in bed. She called me to tell me that he was in her bed and called his cousin. He came back to me but cheated on me so many times after that. Probably more than he admits and now he wants someone to feel sorry for him. I made a mistake one night and never repeated it again. I loved h8myex with all my heart and forgave him of all of his mistakes. He kept cheating though so it finally ended.