Recently began dating a man with a 4yr old, first meeting didnt go well...help!
I recently began dating a 31 year old, divorced dad of a 4yr old. I dont have any children, and have never dated anyone with kids.I was introduced to her for the first time and it was so uncomfortable. She avoided me completely. His family adores me, but I am concerened about his daughter's reaction. He says she was just shy and will warm up to me. He hasnt brought anyone else around her before, any advice?
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rockeraone
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Next time bring her a small gift. Find out what she is "into".
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Don't pressure her in any way. She'll be checking you out from a distance, so let her know that you're aware of her, but be subtle. Be friendly, smile, and play little games like making faces or sticking your tongue out when you have the opportunity (so that only she sees you) - it would create a "personal" but fun experience. Don't try to buy her affection or approval, but it would be okay to bring her something special once in a while and slip it to her in secret - secrets between children and grown-ups help them bond with each other. You might call it "breaking the ice on her terms."
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Admittedly, it is a benefit to have been around children, but another asset you can draw on, is to remember what it was like for you when you were a child. Don't worry too much about the first meeting, all children are unsure to start with. If his family like you, and he likes you, then they all must think that you will be great with her given time.
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