No, but I have been cheated on. I let him be with the woman he wanted to cheat on me with.

I cheated a couple days ago and even asked a question about it on answerbag... Right now our relationship is already becoming rocky and he doesn't understand why I've cried when he says sweet things to me, or why I just want to be alone. Then I end up having to make excuses for why I cried, and end up lying even more. My advice: Never cheat. If you get cheated on, get out of the relationship because they prolly won't change.

I'm in a similar position to you, and right now I'm totally terrified. I haven't told him yet, I'm so scared, but I already feel like it's destroyed our relationship as every time I see him/speak to him I just feel terrible, guilty, nervous and confused.

Never, sure, there are nicer looking women out there, sure some have nicer bodies, and yes there are temptations. But NONE of them is worth the risk of throwing out what I have with my wife, 33 years we have been married. I have told here time and time again that there is not a woman out there that can hold a candle to her. The greener grass on the other side of the fence is actually Astro-Turf.

Yep, early in my marriage, we went on to have 2 great kids and 15 years later he cheated on me. go figure

i didn't cheat, my husband did. we are still together. i love him, i have my good and bad emotional days, but we are ok.

I haven't cheated, but I have been cheated on. The first time,...she told me about it, and showed honest remose over her actions, and promised not to do it again. I tried to give her another chance, but I never really ended up fully trusting her again,...so a 3 year relationship went down the drain because of one night of infidelity. The second time,...a different girl cheated on me, and I had to find out through a series of strange events. She denied it for a week, then finally admitted it.---the fact that she lied to me about it made it even worse. I broke up with her, but still remain good friends.

No, but I have been cheated on and everytime it happened I ended it. If I ever felt like I want to stray away from my partner I would just end it because I know how it feels to be cheated on.

Never. If I am not happy, I just move on.

No, I have never cheated on anyone. There were times when I thought about it, but for me it would be something that would hurt me more than the other person. I just couldn't live with myself for cheating, no matter what the other person did or did not do.

I have had some offers but I knew that it was just a horny person wanting to get off with me. I was married, he was single. It amazes me how some single guys have no concept that a married woman should be off limits. Alas, they haven't seen the movie "Unfaithful". In any event, I know the eye of God is always watching me and I don't want to break my marriage vows. No one would ever love me as much as my husband does.

No cheating is awful. Its one of the worst things you can do.

No, I have not...I believe in the vows we took.

No, it makes no sense. If I am not happy with the relationship I am in I will talk about it and possibly end the relationship... I wouldn't lead my partner on.

No, and I never would.

No , Never , Why would I jeopardise something wonderful for a cheap thrill.

No. And I never would. I could never bring myself to betray someone who loves me, that's the worst thing you can do.

YIKEs. If I answer honeslty will I be ostracized? I was stupid. yes.

No. I would never cheat on any partner. And this partner has been with me for so long, I feel like we are joined at the hip and if I ever tried anything, it would be a menage a trois, and neither one of us are attracted to group activities. Seriously, no I never have or would cheat on anyone I loved. If I ever got to that point, I would question if I should be in the relationship or needed some serious counseling.

Yes... two days ago. I told him the morning after and I feel horrible for it... I wish it never happened. I don't know yet... we're still together, at least...

I once cheated (younger days) and it nearly ruined my life. Ive also been cheated on and it isnt nice its really hard to forgive or be forgiven. If you think for a second that you can fix what you did you usally cant, Do not build up hope. If you are forgiven then youve got one hell of a partner, you should never betray them again and do alot of ass kissing.

Yes, I did, and it destroyed the relationship. I definitely learned my lesson, and will never, ever put another human being or myself through that experience.

I did once. The next day I left my husband and filed a divorce. I think that if you cheat on a person you dont really love that person. And why live a lie? I'm 20 years old now, and I'm sure I wont cheat on the next important person I have in my life.

no.

No, I never have. I have been cheated on once and it is very painful. I was glad that he confessed to me, but it took me awhile to forgive him.

never cheated, cheated on and relationship ended

I'm proud to say I never have and I never would, I know what it feels like to have it happen because I had someone do it to me and I wouldn't want to give that 'bottomless-pit feeling' to anyone....I have 0 respect for the cheatin kind!!!!

I cheated on my boyfriend when we had been together a year...there's no excuse for it...but the relationship had been breaking up and I made a mistake...but we stuck it out and went out for another year...unfortunely we has a child together to sort of save our relationship, it sounds selfish but we both wanted a child and a reason to always be together in some way...our son is the one beautiful think left of our relationship...I spent an entire year after my son was born trying to be with him but it was hard because he had no trust for me and I had non for him. When it comes back to it...the reason we never worked out was because of me cheating on him...it certinly is more of a blow to a man getting cheated on than it is for a woman to get cheated on. I don't think we'll ever truly get over each other because we were each others first for everything which made the cheating worse. I mean it is possible to be together after, but it takes A LOT OF WORK TO GET THAT BACK. But most relationships fail after cheating for a reason... "Without Trust, You Cannot Love"

Nothing. I kept it under wraps.Ive only cheated once and it was an itch I had to scratch so to speak. I was on pins n needles the whole time and made sure we conducted our "business" out of town. I had an alibi as well just to be sure. Spent the weekend "fishing" with my "buddy" in bed and barely ever left the room.

I cheated on my boyfriend of four years and h found out. It was kinda painful 'cause it went on for months. He forgives me and now w're engaged but I still don't forgive myself.

Yeah...he never found out!

I have never cheated.

no. but i was very close to it when I lost my self-esteem in some way, but told my bf that it was close but didn't happen, he said ok, if nothing happened we won't talk about it anymore. this brought me even closer to him. i liked the guy at that party but i couldn't, i just could't do anything with him, even kiss, and go back to my man and look him in the eyes. it was damn close but i made it.

Yes, and I wouldn't recommend it. Ever. Just...don't. If you are not happy, address the issue. Cheating just further complicates things and makes it sooo much more painful than it might be if it hadn't happened. It's really not worth it.

I did and it was one of the worst things I could have done. I was never caught but it ruined the relationship.

My husband cheated on me, I forgive him but trust him.......? I got revenge I cheated on him. We still together but for how long? I love him but……..trust no way, can a marriage work without trust? Guest time will tell.

yes. with my ex boyfriend. we had a messy breakup. and we both started relationships within a month or so of the end of our relationship of more than 2 years. we'd end up having sex at least once a month since we broke up. it sucks because we really did love each other when we were together. i accepted the fact that my current boyfriend was a rebound. i just really wanted to get over my ex, but he keeps contact with me in a "hot/cold" kind of way. i am breaking up with my current because I can't stand not being real. my ex, on the other hand, pretends like our "rendezvous" never happened, won't tell his girlfriend and of course claims that he loves her. They have been together for less than 6 months and have never had sex. I don't think he really loves me or her. the whole thing just "erks" me. I want it to stop but I am just stupid and not completely over him. I love talking with him and hanging out with him but I can't stand being the "other" girl when I was his only girl for so long. But I feel bad for his girlfriend too. I'm not mean or vindictive so I would never tell anyone so that she would find out without him telling her but I feel trapped. Is there anything I can do?

I slept with another guy recentley and nothing has happend in my reltionship. We have been married for 10 months and together for 5 years. I don't know what happend but it happend and I don't really feel guilty but I think I know the reasons for that so I don't know it is wrong that I don't feel guilt.

i have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. at the start of our relationship i cheated on him with my ex bf who i was with for 3 years... it was like a habit in a sense.. i was so used to being with my ex that i felt like i had to still have him even though i had committed to someone else. i also have had brief kisses with other guys on drunken nights or nights i have had fights with my boyfriend... i live with the guilt every single day and the relationship is defintely suffering from my mistakes. when he wants to go out with his friends or even when he doesn't pick up my calls i automatically think he's cheating on me, because i've done it before. i know how to keep the secrets, tell the lies and cover up with alibi's. my mistakes have destroyed a relationship that could be beautiful, because as the months went on i ended up falling deeply in love with my current boyfriend and severed all ties with my ex and even any friends who have attempted to lead me back into my crazy life of late nights/strangers. i devote all my time to my boyfriend, try to spend every spare second with him, because i'm so scared of losing him. some might call it guilty love, but i seriously am ashamed of my mistakes and i am paying for it painfully and secretly inside everyday. i would rather go through the pain myself than put him through it. my past mistakes are the past now and that's where they will stay.

yea, ive been with my fiance for almost 4 years, when we 1st met it was very on off relationship as he had planned to move 2 france and we would end up breaking up. after a stormy year i cheated on him with my 'ex' that we both worked with...i told him the next day, and he realised he loves me more then he thought proposed and changed his mind about france. im not recomending cheating i still give myself a hard time and only just 3 years later im going out with my friends with out him. neither us will forget it, its was a terrible thing for me 2 do but it worked out all ok in the end

I have to admit I did once cheat on a boyfriend, with a girl.

no but i recently i have thought about it. not sure if im thinking about it because of the person i want to cheat with or just me. there is nothing wrong with my boyfriend, he is sweet, spends time with me, and knows me well.all its lacking its the usual woman complaints, i look good for this man everyday, but nothing the only thing he feels comfortable saying is that was great, after sex. i need him to open up, compliment me, love me even....talk to me . let me hold him down. and this other guy he is everything he is not and more he expresses himself, wants me, tries, over and over again and i wonder about it, if i can get lost in it just for a moment. and the animal attraction should b illegal!help

I've never cheated and have never been cheated on (at least to my knowledge).

No, and I hope I never do. I know how painful it feels to be cheated on. It's not a good feeling at all.

yes.. i have cheated.. and it tore me up inside, i can only inagine what it was like for him.. i saw the hurt in his eyes when i told him, i know this is no excuse but i was pissed at the time.. he took me back and i believe we will make it, he trusts me again (i don't see why) i will never ever put him or anyone else through that ever again.. i felt like jumping off a bridge.. he never ever deserved that, not in a million years i regret it terribly.. since then we have been through a misscarriage, and our best friend passing away which has brought us back together.. but i don't think this guilt will ever disappear.. ever.. a stupid mistake almost cost me the man i love..

No. I never have and have no intentions of ever doing so. I was cheated on in my first marriage. No way on God's green Earth would I wish that kind of pain and agony on my wife.

no. but not taking the opportunity made me physicaly ill.

I did once when I was younger. I was really bored in my relationship and knew that would be the fastest easiest way to end it. It worked.

I've never done it. I've been cheated on every single relationship I've ever been in. I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on anyone :'(

nope... not doing so has been tough but I chose not to. then my wife went and had an Effair claims it never would have gotten physical, but I suspect it only didn't because of the miles between them. she apologized, I am still trying to forgive her. I wish she had not come clean because then I would have a clear course of action... but with her apology I don't know.

Yes. I think I was using sex as a weapon. Like...that was the only way I could make someone happy...And it was wrong.

Never. I still look at the old saying that says. Do onto others, as you would have them do onto you.

Yes, and I shouldn't have. I was a Freshman in college, and I met a girl that I liked ALOT! Unfortunately we met at the wrong time in my life. A Freshman Boy in college is like a Buck in Rut! I did what I thought was the right thing and I broke up with her. I just simply told her it was the wrong time in my life for a serious relationship. That was tough to do, I really did like her. I never told her I cheated though. I didn't want to hurt her. She understood that we were just too young. Haven't cheated since! I'm 26

No. But that might be partly because I didn't have long term relationships before the one I'm in now. Can't say it was out of respect for them all.

No, never have, never will. Even if I wanted to, I'd be stupid enough to get caught

yes on the lovely guy im with. we met at 16 and we had a rocky relationship he was planning on leaving me and moving to France hed just broken up with a very serious girlfriend who he was living with and he kept breaking it off with me saying he loved her too much. well 1 night out when my friends i bumped into an ex and we was both very drunk and we slept together, he had a girlfriend and we all worked together so it was tough, but she forgave him (against every1s wishes, he ended up cheating on her again!) and he forgave me. i think he saw how sorry i was and that i hated myself for what i did and i told him 4 the 1st time that i loved him too much. He also saw how i expected this to be the final end. he said he needed 2 think about it and went out with his mate that night and he text me saying that he loved me as well and he was thinking about staying in Endland with me! i was even more gutted! but a few months later he proposed 2 me! :-D he said that almost losing me made him realise how much he loved me and wanted to be with me properly! and i accepted, so now were living together and saving for our dream wedding! i never have nor will i do it again!

Yes, i made the worst mistake of my life. To this day i couldnt tell you why except the old saying.. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I am one of the lucky ones though who has been given a second chance and im not going to do anything to jepodise that.

yes all of them. I am always looking for something better and if I find it I never let it go, I can never forget people so… I am always cheating my current partner with the exs. I don’t know y. But its really difficult for me to be faithful.

yes the only reason why I cheated was because I wasn't getting enough sex at home. And I regret it all now.

Yes. I feel horrible still for hurting him. We don't even talk anymore. Awkward. (Of course how can it not be?) I don't know what made me do it. The guy was hot and I was far away and wanted attention so I guess that's kinda the reason. I vow to never again. Also, my ex says that I cheated on him (well, two of my exes but i only cheated once) buut i didn't.

Once. We ended up getting into a big huge argument/fight about it and he dumped me over the internet (myspace) It sucked and I feel bad about it even tho it was almost a year ago...

yes, at the time i just done it to see how i felt t be with another guy because i had been with the same guy for 2 years and i was getting bored of him, our relationship was at a rough patch so i went with another guy knowing he would never find outunless i told him. the worst part is i thought i was inlove with my boyfriend at the time but i didnt feel bad in the slightest. the cheating gave me a buzz and i went back to the other guy on many occasions over 3months. then i finally dumped my boyfriend and told him that i was bored of the relationship and i wanted something new.

Yeah, I did it. I cheated recently with a friend. I did it partly because I had easier access to funds from the guy that I had cheated with, and needed to change things up since my boyfriend didn't respect my drug habits.

I have and it was my own happiness that caused it. I enjoyed the person that I cheated with as well as the other, but at the time the person who helped commit the crime made me happier!

Yes, I've cheated with a number of people. I'm with my close friend William now. My ex never spoke to me again, and really gave me a mouthful of how inconsiderate I was. I just told him to get over it. He never spoke to me ever since that time.

Yes, and amazingly, he has forgiven me... but I can't forgive myself. I feel horrible every day... and hope that the feeling fades eventually..

Yes and it was not the smartest decision I have ever made. Not trying to excuse it - there is no excuse for it; I did it because I was/am lonely. I'm attracted to him and foolishly gave in to it. My s/o (who does not know) and I currently live a couple hundred miles apart - I am hoping to close that distance in the next few months. My (now ex-)lover is married with two children. I don't know the exact reasons why he did it. The closest thing to a reason he ever gave me was that I fill(ed) a void in his life. We ended the affair just the other day; it was mutual. His wife suspects/found out... I don't know the details and I had a pregnancy scare. That was more than enough to wake me (us?) up. Right, wrong or indifferent, he was a part of my life and I miss him now too... like I said, not the smartest decision.

I HAVE JUST RECENTLY CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND I DNT KNOW WHY I DID IT.... I TOLD HIM...

yes I have and I feel awful. I didnt sleep with other person but we got close emotionally kissed on the cheek and neck. Both of us were going through rough patches in our relationships, the guy wanted more, but I wasnt prepared to. I am still with my boyfriend. And regret what happened.

Nope never ever! Im so happy that i have the will power not to! i am currently with my bf who is in the navy and im proud to say i never cheated on him and we have been through 7 months of being without eachother and not cheated on eachother and right now hes on deployment for 7 more..but i know i can be faithful i am a very loyal person!! i love sex but i can live without it! on the other hand i dont know about him hes been doing really suspicious things,, thats a diff story lol my last bf had a girl friend the whole time we were together we weren't together too long.... because i had his freakin myspace and she was on there! what an idiot...but if i could i would have told her. he has tried to talk to me but i have no interest in it,,,i forgave him though... i have someone and i dont need my ex's lingering around... that just spells trouble.. My parents cheated on eachother through out there 19 year marriage and i see how painful it could be not just for them but the whole family...i think its the worst thing you can do to someone you "love" besides making them think you love them...

WE WAS IN A DISHONEST RELATIONSHIP FOR 3 YEARS, LYING, PARTYING, FLIRTING, BUT NO CHEATING. BUT WE BROKE UP ANYWAYS CUZ EVERYTHING ELSE WAS DOWN THE DRAIN. 2 YEARS SEPERATED SHE GOES THROUGH ANOTHER BAD RELATIONSHIP. ME I WAS SINGLE JUST MESSING AROUND. WE GET BACK 2GETHER AFTERWARDS. THE FIRST MONTH I CHEATED ON HER. FELT SO GUILTY I WANTED TO TELL HER THE TRUTH. BUT FIRST I TOLD HER ABOUT THE 4 GIRLS I HIT SECOND-BASE WITH WHEN WE WERE SEPARATED. THINKIN SHE`LL TAKE IT WELL CUZ WE WASNT 2GETHER. BUT SHE GOES BANANAS. SHE TREATED ME LIKE CRAP FOR 5 MONTHS STRAIT SO I WAS SCARED TO TELL HER THAT I CHEATED ON HER IN THE BEGINNING, MAYBE SHE`LL GO MORE CRAZY I THOUGHT. BUT I STUCK IT OUT WITH THE WAY SHE WAS TREATING ME LITERALLY HURTIN ME PHYSICALLY, MENTALY, AND EMOTIONALLY. BUT I PROVED MY LOVE TO HER EVERYDAY TO A POINT WHERE EVEN SHE KNEW ENOUGH IS ENOUGH AND SHE EVENTUALLY CALMED DOWN. THINGS WERE GOING SO GOOD WE MOVED IN WITH EACH OTHER AND I PROPOSED TO HER. BUT I STILL HAD THAT GUILT AND I KNEW I COULDNT LIVE WITH IT SO I HAD TO TELL HER. BUT I START FINDING OUT THINGS ABOUT HER. THINGS SHE NEVER TOLD ME. ONCE I HAD PROOF I CONFRONTED HER SHE LIED OVER AND OVER TILL I ENOUGH PROOF THAT SHE WAS JUST LOOKIN FOOLISH. SO SHE CONFESSES TO ALOT THAT HURTED ME. BUT SHE SAYS SHE NEVER CHEATED ON ME SEXUALLY. BUT I HAVE A GUT FEELING SHE DID. CUZ THE MORE I DIG THE MORE I FIND. THERES STILL THINGS I KNOW ABOUT HER THAT SHE DOESNT KNOW I KNOW. I WANTED TO TELL HER THE TRUTH BUT RIGHT NOW I DONT THINK SHE DESERVES IT. THE ONLY WAY I WILL EVER KNOW IF SHE CHEATED SEXUALLY IS IF SHE CONFESSES. BUT I FEEL LIKE SHE DID. I EVEN HAVE A FEELING THAT CHEATED ON HER EX WHEN WE WAS SEPARATED. SOMEONE PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO. IM ASKING FOR HELP BECAUSE TRUTHFULLY I LOVE HER. AND EVEN IF SHE DID CHEATED IM GOING TO LOVE HER. I WANT TO BE WITH HER. BUT I REALLY NEED HER TO START TELLING ME THE TRUTH.