Like shit. It stings the same way when the person is in the spot because they are more religious than you are

I would wonder what they see in the other person, that they do not see in me. Leaderships skills, socials skills, etc.

It pisses me off. I do have to acknowledge tho' that arse kissing is a specialized skill that sometimes gives one the edge. I also feel a sense of anticipation at the thought of watching the butt kisser fail to deliver the goods.

It doesn't matter what you know, it's how low you go to blow.

Not happy...sorry to hear about that

Even though I work in a highly structured environment it still does happen on occasion. It doesn't really bother me because I know that my own character, integrity, and substance will always win out in the end, even if I have to transfer to a new location to make it happen.

I used to get really angry about this guy at work. Really not very qualified, a bit of a slacker, but could really talk the good talk. Always telling people what they want to hear and always being positive and upbeat. He got a lot of attention from the boss and a lot of undeserved credit. In the end I took a good look at myself and wondered if I was putting my best foot forward. I have since tried to improve my communications skills so that I am able to transmit the intended message in a more positive manner. People do respond to the better "show" and studies show that if you are able to make people feel good about receiving a negative message through positive reinforcement, your message will have a more impact. Good luck in dealing with your situation!

It is not a good feeling but happens more often then we may realize. The sad part is that anytime confidence can beat out experience the world can not grow like it should.

It's interesting but it happens. Many people are great at what they do but have no clue how to sell themselves. Many times that is the more valuable skill to have. It doesn't really bother me much (although in all honesty I'm always the guy getting promoted, Hehehe). It would leave me wondering how to improve on myself to put myself in a better position.

People skills will get you further than real talent. It is very important to be able to sell yourself. Then you can back it up with real talent.

It happens so often and if you are really sure you're not being appreciated, it might be a good idea to start shopping around for another job. Our society encourages shallowness and "appearances" over substance and the "quiet achievers" get overlooked quite often in favour of the braggarts and blowhards. If possible, keep a file of your achievements (however small) to help boost confidence.

Obviously you misunderstand what your company believes can add value. They want someone who is a much smoother talker and knows how to put on a better "show" and talk the talk. If you cannot do that then you should move to a company that values what you can do.

It's sad that it has become like that but it has in almost every place of business. you can work harder than anyone else in the business but because you don't know how to kiss ass, you get nowhere in life. It kind of makes you wonder why go to college and better yourself or why work so hard. Anymore it's about who you know and who can suck up more and not who works the hardest.

Honestly? It sucks big time. I hate when that happens at my work. The loudest ones get noticed the most. But then it's not just their fault, it's the fault of the place you work at - they're not looking at their workers evenly and instead are happy to play favourites. Unfortunately, this isn't something that's going to change in a hurry so if you keep feeling like you're getting 'passed over', it might be worth thinking of looking at going to a place where you will be more appreciated. Good luck.

Welcome to the real world. Fortunately ( or perhaps unfortunately ) organizations which permit this practice often fail in competition with more effectively managed organizations.

That's the way the world works. It's one big popularity contest. It's not always what you know--charisma goes a long way. Sorry, but it's an unfortunate truth. I say learn the skills you need to get ahead and don't worry about the other guy. Best of luck to you! :D

Those who shall be rewarded, never get reward. Those who shall NOT be rewarded, always get rewarded. A real fact of life and the real reason for the corporate failure, bankruptcy .... Thats' the God kept the day of judegement to reward those who were never get rewarded or discriminated. RK

Disappointed to say the least. Unfortunately it happens everywhere. Its surprising how many people are stuck in positions beneath those less qualified.

Communication is THE KEY! Communication brings in THE BUCKS! Before any one "walks the walk" he or she MUST "talk the talk"! EXAMPLE: You're a contractor. You need work to pay the bills and employees. YOU KNOW everything you have to do AND your employees HAVE TO DO to get the work done. YOU KNOW HOW to overcome obstacles and objections. Through YOUR experience, YOU KNOW HOW to "think on YOUR feet". YOU HAVE THE ANSWERS! I'm one of YOUR employees - a laborer. I KNOW HOW to dig that ditch and save MY BACK. I KNOW HOW to work more efficiently and effectively than any other laborer I know who does the same kind of work I do for YOU. I don't particularly like coming in contact with the general public. I don't like rejection. I DON'T LIKE when folks tell me "No". IF I hurt my back, I'm out of work, aren't I? Are you going to pay me my regular wages? I don't think so. On the other hand, you get in that ditch and you hurt your back, there isn't any one out there talking with customers and bringing in the jobs so WE - YOU AND I can get paid! Which of us has the more important job? As a final thought to keep in mind: For each and every dollar I'm paid, I have to produce or save the company at least $3 or $4. This is to cover the taxes and overhead the company has to pay its executives and those who are in the administration of that company. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My wonderful family! Graduate of the Culinary Institute of America, New Haven, CT campus. Was in the Food and Beverage business over 26 years. In the real estate business over 34 years in Pennsylvania. THE ABSOLUTE BEST, MOST WONDERFUL real estate investment group in the world, which I was very proud to be a member of! Was in the air freight business for 8 years. My terrific teachers, instructors, professors, mentors and coaches! On a regular, dependable basis, I volunteer at Magee Rehabilitation Hospital, Philadelphia, PA. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".

They blew someone that is why relatives advance and workers do not, I say they can have a heart attack on me.

Wecome to the jungle.

I wish I had a dollar for everytime I asked myself the same question. It does seem that the one who talks the best game gets ahead. Don't let it get you down, just keep doing your best and things will work out in the end.

I just figure he or she is sleeping with someone and when the break up comes the job goes, also I do not use my abilities to make that person look better and in the vaccum of knowledge that person has created implodes. This works with people regardless of creed, sex or race if they want to be in charge but don't know what they need to I let them fail. The orginal design was people would work together even if that person is not qualified to be there but since their objective is to bring in their friends that means they want me fired. So I might as well work towards that goal for the under qualified individaul. If more people applied this theory many unqualified people would be out of work while the real job Canidate would have the job.

That is the nature of the beast. I just laugh when that individual blows the big deal.

Been working 10 years and everytime they hire a new person 2 years later i'm answering to that person. It's sad to know that true hard workers which are quiet really get no where..i'm really depressed over the thing. I know i'll never move up and can't seem to find any other dept or place to go. So I kinda don't care anymore. And if my under qualified boss which looks so surprised when I metion about moving up asks for favors and I do them they hate to repay me.. Thats America in a nutshell and why every top position is filled with a under qualified person.. Fox700

Sounds typical of my LAST job!!! (U.S. Army) LOL

it tells you what your company wants to promote, and companies with this particular quality have bad product because of it, so its there loss, give it your best let them do what they do, any normal HARD worker has almost no chance of leaving the bottom ne way its where all the real labor is. It's a shamefull practice, and the fact that happens proves that work and life should remain seperate.

I totally know what it feels like to watch someone get promoted even though they don't seem to know what they're doing. However, it's not always that simple. It's easy to put down the soft skills. They're actually very important. Malcolm Gladwell talks about this in his recent book, Outliers. There's a great chapter about the importance of social savvy in getting ahead in the world. If the person you're describing is going into management or leadership, then social savvy is even more important. The skills of management are distinct and different from hard skills required to do the "work" of an organization. We've all seen someone who's really good at the hard skills of their job--engineering, architecture, painting, etc.-- get promoted and not know how to be a manager. A great manager will always hire staff that are more qualified in the hard skills. It takes a lot of self-assurance because when you do this as a manager, it creates an appearance of not being as smart as the rest of your team. It's often the same when promoting someone. You have to consider someone's ability to create relationships, represent your group, get things done in teams, etc. It's important. Of course, you might be talking about someone who's just good at kissing up and schmoozing without having genuinely useful skills (management or otherwise), and that's frustrating. We're talking every day about these issues on our blog: Social Capital Mentor (http://socialcapitalmentor.com).

Good question! I know a lot of that----the most "personable" and "talkative" types seem to get the "worm", while the smartest, most skilled (but not so quite sociable types) do not. The ironic thing is, those people who are the most personable and talkative are often the dumbest and least skilled. All they know how to do best is "show off" their talking skills and "laughing out loud exteriors". It's very frustrating.

... or "in with the boss". I had a co-worker who harrassed me. He befriended the boss through golf and brown-nosing. When I reported him, my boss told me to suck it up. I eventually quit. Last I heard, the co-worker and the boss had weekly tee times, and friday night drinks. btw, both my co-worker and boss were WAY under-qualified... glad I quit, because sticking it out probably would have just made me lose my mind.

it makes me feel great!

The same way I felt when Obama was elected president.

Pisses you off, but that's life. Get used to it.